Play hooligan, play hooligan, say "joking"

I don't know if you have such a situation:

He was sad for a long time when it was clear that the other party hurt himself when he spoke, but he ended up with a "joke".

Even if the other party exposes my shortcomings in front of the whole class or the office, I can only force a smile, otherwise I will be considered "unable to take a joke."

When others make jokes about their bodies, even if they are unwilling, they will be forced to accept others' "jokes", otherwise they will appear very petty.

Today I want to discuss hooliganism in the name of "joking".

There is nothing wrong with joking, but it is easy to make mistakes if you don't pay attention to the mood of the parties.

When I was in junior high school, there was a girl in the next class who couldn't express herself very well, and her grades and looks were very average. It may be these reasons that make her the target of many boys' jokes.

Once, I remember clearly that in English class, our class had classes with the class next door, and there were several naughty boys in the class next door.

In class, they talk below, and when the teacher comes near, they pretend to be serious students.

Halfway through the class, these boys talked about girls together, because I sat two rows in front of them, so the teacher could hear some intermittently when writing.

When everyone is copying the key points on the blackboard, the boys are all talking with their heads down. After the teacher finished writing, he followed the sound and walked behind them.

I became familiar with it after that. The teacher told the class teacher that the class teacher asked the parents to come over.

When one of the parents came over, we were studying by ourselves, and his mother yelled at him outside the classroom.

After about ten minutes, the boy was about to cry, so he said loudly, we didn't say anything, just that she looks like a Dalmatian and several people were joking together.

After hearing the roar, several boys who discussed with him all laughed as if it were their masterpiece. Their "she" refers to the girl mentioned above. Hearing this, the girl suddenly blushed and soon began to cry.

Then the boy apologized, but the girl transferred to another school, and then there was no contact.

You can't expect someone to talk about your strengths and weaknesses behind your back and end up with a joke. Your scar is their raw material.

Is this that art comes from life This is simply a straightforward hooligan.

Usually these words always appear as jokes recognized by insiders and are destined to be exclusive, because such jokes will always hurt some people.

Some time ago, the actor of Deyun Society attracted public criticism with the phrase "killed his girlfriend", and a young crosstalk performer made fun of the people in the disaster area. Such jokes are really not uncommon.

They always appear with a light appearance, just to make themselves and some people happy. If they are unhappy, immediately say that this person is boring, and you can't joke about it.

Today, when listening to teacher Ou Li-chuan talking about A Dream of Red Mansions, she quoted a psychologist's point of view: excessive joking is just enjoying a kind of dominant pleasure.

This often happens to men. When several boys are together, we may still be able to talk, but if there are some opposite sex present, usually, a boy is doomed to sacrifice.

One of the boys always plays jokes on the other boy, just to get the girls' attention.

Not to mention that. If the teased boy gets angry on the spot, then this person will easily leave a bad impression in front of the girls, so even if he is teased, he just smiles.

This is a great advantage for a joking boy. If it is funny, it will give him a good impression and will not cause embarrassment on the spot.

Many people who are joking are enjoying this pleasure. They make fun of others to please the object of admiration, and at the same time take others as the source of their jokes.

It's kind of like stepping on someone else's scar.

In fact, joking doesn't have to end with belittling one side. Bo Huang attended an activity. After several guests finished speaking, when it was his turn to take the stage, he said, "Thank you for being so patient and listening to so many boring conversations.".

Immediately I said, "Please be patient, there are still ten minutes of boring time."

You see, even if you spit on others, it won't make people feel malicious, but it will make the whole scene active. This is a good joke.

For those who like to joke too much, you really can't fight back No matter from which angle, they can easily ignore your depression and irritability by saying, "Why can't you make a joke?"

It is no exaggeration for such people to say that they are controlling you with human feelings.

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About two or three years ago, I read a sentence that emotional intelligence is embodied in not making others feel embarrassed.

Joking is the same, although we can sum up some rules, such as not making fun of other people's shortcomings, not making fun of other people's families and so on.

But as long as it can take into account other people's emotions, it is generally not too much.

You know, the standard of joking is not decided by ourselves, but the object of joking.

When I was a child, I was often teased, and it was usually my home. During the Spring Festival, children are always teased by their relatives.

They think children are lifeless, so it doesn't matter what they say.

But that doesn't mean I can accept their jokes. Even after I expressed my displeasure, they could gag me with the phrase "I can't take a joke".

Many children have experienced such a thing. There is a passage in Chrysanthemum and Knife about Japanese education. The Japanese parents in it are very similar to those in China. They like to amuse their children with jokes like "You were not born to me" and make them obedient. As a result, children usually cry and lose their temper. The author also believes that such children are more afraid of gains and losses when they grow up.

In interpersonal communication, we should have more sincere conversations and less Bai Piao-style "jokes". Play rascal, play rascal. Don't always use jokes as an excuse.

As everyone knows, the joke you think may be the pain in others' hearts.

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