Grandpa and grandma feed their granddaughter liquor. Mom said this...

A few days ago, Li Qin’s circle of friends became really popular. The reason was very simple. She encountered one of the most annoying things for mothers of young children. Her baby daughter who was less than one and a half years old. I was forced to drink alcohol by my grandparents...

In fact, there have been signs of this for a long time. Grandpa likes to drink, and he will drink until he is tipsy at every meal. He tried to feed his children alcohol several times, but he was Li Qin discovered it in time and stopped it. That night at dinner, she went into the kitchen to get a pair of chopsticks. When she came out, she saw her grandfather putting the wine glass to her daughter's mouth. Grandma pushed the bottom of the glass, but it was too late for her to stop her. A large gulp of wine was forced in. According to my daughter, that is 52° liquor, which is unbearable for adults who don’t like to drink, let alone a child of one year and four months. After the daughter was drunk with white wine, she could not make a sound for several seconds. She just stamped her little feet and danced with her little hands. Her little face wrinkled into a ball, and finally she burst into tears. When the grandparents saw this scene, they found it very interesting and laughed. Li Qin's heart was broken. After making sure that her daughter was okay, she hurriedly carried her into the room. She was so angry that she burst into tears and didn't even eat dinner.

The next day, she posted a message on WeChat Moments: "I am really disgusted with feeding my daughter liquor. Last night, my grandparents forcibly drank a large mouthful of liquor. The baby was jumping and crying. , I cried so much that I couldn’t breathe. I was really distressed. I couldn’t sleep well all night. I kept crying and I wanted to cry too..." Less than an hour after it was posted on Moments, it aroused heated discussion among friends.

Everyone almost unanimously believes that grandparents are either crazy or stupid, and are even considered to be evil-minded. They feed their children liquor for fun. It is really ignorant and boring, and we must resolutely put an end to it. If something like this happens again, they must be scolded, cut off from contact, and isolate the children from them. We all adhere to the principle that children's physical and mental health is paramount, and feel that anyone who violates this should be regarded as a street rat. Any behavior that is harmful to children is a heinous crime and cannot be forgiven. This feeling of cherishing children is understandable.

There is no doubt that feeding alcohol to children is wrong, and this bad habit should be strongly condemned. However, should old people cut off contact with their children after feeding them liquor and never let them have contact with their children again for the rest of their lives? The answer is of course no.

Japanese novelist Kotaro Isaka said: "It's terrible to think that you don't have to take an exam to be a parent." This means that parents will never be omnipotent in raising children. Anyone who knows everything or has everything going smoothly will make mistakes more or less, and these mistakes will inevitably cause certain harm to the child's body and mind. Does that mean that if parents hurt their children, we have to isolate them from ourselves? Of course this is impossible. When we realize that we have made mistakes, we will learn, correct, and become more and more adaptable to the role of parents. Since children can forgive our mistakes and give us a chance to correct them, why can't we give our parents a chance to learn and correct their mistakes?

So when encountering such a thing, before more serious consequences arrive, instead of avoiding the problem, cutting off contact, and insulating the children from danger, we should sit down with the elderly and communicate calmly. First, tell the elderly that feeding alcohol to children will inevitably cause some physical and mental harm to the children. Children are still young and their bodies are not yet mature in all aspects of development. They cannot withstand the stimulation of alcohol, which will affect brain development, affect the digestive system, reproductive system, hinder physical development, etc. Tell the elderly clearly about the series of harms caused by feeding children alcohol. , and even some real examples on the Internet of the irreparable and serious consequences of feeding children alcohol were shown to the elderly, making the elderly deeply aware of the harmfulness of their own behavior, and they will naturally reflect on their own behavior. Then talk about some of the mistakes I have made in parenting, and I am slowly correcting them through continuous learning. Let’s talk about some of the merits of the elderly in parenting, and learn from and communicate with each other. In fact, the elderly also care very much about their children. After correct communication, they can not only prevent such incidents from happening mentally, but also avoid intensifying family conflicts. Why not?

"Zuo Zhuan: The Second Year of Xuangong" says: "No one has made mistakes, and if he can correct his mistakes, there is no greater good." It means that as a human being, who can not make mistakes? There is nothing better than being able to correct your mistakes.

Even though the sage Confucius knew so many principles of life, he still made the same mistakes that ordinary people make. Confucius once said regretfully: "I judge people by their words, and I lose Zaiyu; I judge people by their appearance, and I lose Ziyu!" Zaiyu, it's Zaiyu! Confucius once had a student who had high expectations for him. This student was articulate and eloquent, and Confucius liked him very much. But later it was discovered that this student was good at talking but was very lazy. In the end, he rebelled and was exterminated by three tribes, which led to a miserable end. Confucius angrily scolded him: "Rotten wood cannot be carved." Ziyu was an ugly student of Confucius. Confucius once hated him because he was so ugly, but later he discovered that he was actually a well-behaved, diligent student. A person who practices it will become famous among the princes after completing his studies and have many disciples following him. Therefore, even sages will make mistakes, but the reason why sages are sages is because they know their mistakes, can correct them, and constantly improve themselves.

Sages and sages often make mistakes, let alone us ordinary people? Therefore, when the old man makes a mistake, we should not just avoid it, veto all the old man's actions, or even cut off contact. Instead, we should point out the problem, find ways to solve it together, and discuss the matter as it is. Only in this way can people understand more and more while living, and the days will become clearer and brighter, what do you think?