What influence does the saying "It is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family" have on us?

There has been a lot of discussion during this period about poor families and wealthy families. Some people say that no matter how poor a family is, it is difficult to produce a noble son. Children from wealthy families are more likely to succeed if they stand on the shoulders of their predecessors. Some people say that this is not necessarily the case, as long as everyone struggles, it is possible to get ahead.

Some people say that it is fair to those who strive to have a son from a poor family, because their ancestors struggled, and the younger generations will naturally benefit more. Some people say that this is unfair to those who strive. Why should the next generation be inferior even in their struggles because of the previous generation?

Even those who top the college entrance examination are children from middle-class families, and there are fewer and fewer children from poor families. Everyone is making a big fuss around this again.

Amidst these turbulent debates, many people are holding back and feel particularly distressed. Because most of us were born into poor families, others say every day that it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family. Not only do poor families have a solidified class, they also have a solidified way of thinking. It seemed that all of a sudden there was no hope for us.

And I think our focus is biased.

What we should pay attention to is not whether a wealthy family or a poor family is more likely to produce a noble son, or whether a wealthy family is more likely to produce a noble son or a poor family, because these actually have nothing to do with us.

Can you choose where you are born? If you could choose, no one would choose to be born into a poor family. After all, the benefits of a wealthy family are obvious. I have been able to receive a more elite education since I was a child. My parents are knowledgeable and visionary. Standing on their shoulders, I can see higher and further.

Whether it is family education or school education, it can leave children from poor families far behind. The most important thing is that they have known very good people since they were young. Their parents' friends and partners are all elites. When they grow up, if they want to do something, they will be able to get more resources.

Like Qu Xiaoxiao in "Ode to Joy", when she first came back from abroad, she didn't understand anything at all. But her father is great and can build a platform for her. This is a starting point that others may not get after decades of hard work. With the platform and my father helping to introduce resources, I easily became an elite.

Of course, she has been growing and working hard during this period. After all, no matter how good the platform and resources are, a fool cannot be proud for too long.

This is the benefit of going to a wealthy family, bringing your own resources and platform. Their starting point is the ending point for many children from poor families.

Envy? Jealousy?

But what’s the use?

No matter how envious, jealous, and hateful you are, no matter how much you curse heaven and earth, you cannot change your birth. You are born into a poor family, and your parents are ordinary people. They have no resources to give you, no money to give you, and they cannot give you a good education.

But what can you do?

Can you kill your parents and be reincarnated? Can you kill and set fire to retaliate against society? Can you kill yourself and find rich parents again?

No! Not at all!

Since you can’t change it, you can only accept it. Even if everyone in the world says that it is difficult for a poor family to produce a noble son and that a wealthy family is more likely to succeed, it will be of no use to you.

Can you choose not to struggle?

Whether you are from a rich family or a poor family, one thing is similar, that is, if you want to succeed, you must struggle.

Wang Sicong is from a wealthy family, right? But people are also making investments and making various efforts.

Can he not fight? Okay, you can live your whole life eating and waiting to die, but you won’t be able to spend all your money anyway. However, if he does that, he will stay in the same place for the rest of his life. No, he should keep regressing, because every penny spent means less.

He can live a life of drunkenness and intoxication, but he has no chance of success. Of course, he would also lose his qualifications as an heir. After all, no one would hand over their property to a idiot.

So, even if he is born into a wealthy family, even if he has no worries about food and clothing throughout his life, he still needs to work hard and struggle.

As long as people have pursuits, goals, and do not want to just hang around and wait to die, they must work hard.

This is true for wealthy families, and it is also true for poor families.

You don’t want to repeat the life of your parents. You want to live in a big house and drive a luxury car. You want to live a life that you like. Then you must work hard, make money, and improve yourself. Only in this way can your goals be achieved.

Yes, children from poor families have a lower starting point than children from rich families. If you work hard all your life, you may only get what others get in one day. However, can you not work hard because of this?

No! Because once you give up your efforts, you can only live a mediocre or even poor life like your parents. You don’t have the money to buy the things you like, you don’t have the money to go to the places you want to go, and the people you want to date don’t want to talk to you.

So, you must work hard.

Even if the results of your hard work are far from those of the rich and powerful, at least they are better than you were before.

Just for this progress, we cannot relax.

Since both rich and poor families need to struggle, what is the point of discussing the difference between poor and wealthy families? Apart from making you sad and sapping your fighting spirit, it is really meaningless.

Since we can’t choose where we are born, nor can we choose not to struggle, then don’t be swayed by some remarks, and don’t be discouraged just because a poor family can’t produce a noble son. No matter whether you are from a rich or poor family, as long as you work hard, you will get what you want and you will become better than you were before.

The day before yesterday, I was chatting with the suspense writer Hong Niangzi. She said with emotion: It’s great to work hard.

Because of her hard work, she has grown from a little girl who dropped out of high school and worked as a waitress in a big city at the age of 18 to a well-known writer, and has long since gotten rid of her past life trajectory.

I also said: Yes, it’s good to work hard.

Because of my hard work, I went from being a small clerk with a monthly salary of less than 2,000 yuan to becoming a freelancer, doing what I like and living the life I want.

We are all born into poor families, and our end point may be just the starting point of the children of wealthy families, and we may not even be able to reach the starting point. However, we are indeed much better than our previous selves, and our next generation will also be much better than our previous selves.

This is what hard work is all about.

We cannot change our origins, but we can change our lives through hard work.

No matter what others say, no matter how others discuss that it is difficult to have a noble son from a poor family, or that it is difficult to get ahead in a poor family, it does not matter to us, because we have to spend our time working hard.

On the way to hard work, there will always be different voices to kill your fighting spirit. Just listen to it and don’t take it to heart.

Text/Tang Xiaoxiao