Why do you say "if you die of poverty, you won't plow, and if you starve, you won't beat your relatives"?

"If you are poor, you don't plow your husband's field", which means that as a son-in-law, even if you are poor, you don't plow your husband's field. As we all know, in ancient society, there was the idea that men were superior to women. The ancients thought that a married daughter was like spilled water. Once a woman marries someone else, she seldom goes back to her family. This is because of the shackles of feudal ethics. If she goes back and forth from home without authorization, she will be pointed at. And in ancient times, they were all big families with brothers and sisters. If the married woman goes home, some parents will feel sorry for her daughter and give her some gold and silver privately, which will inevitably lead to misunderstanding by other people in the family and lead to family disharmony. Then as a man, male chauvinism is very strong, but because she is poor, her daughter-in-law will follow her poor life and think of other ways out. But no matter what you do, don't touch your father-in-law's field, because in the farming era, land is the life of ordinary people. If the son-in-law cultivates his father-in-law's fields, it will also make the woman's family think that they are taking advantage of small things. Over time, the contradictions accumulate deeper and deeper, and finally they break completely.

The meaning of "starving to death is not for relatives" can be understood at a glance, that is to say, no matter how good the relationship is, as long as interests are involved, disputes will arise. As the saying goes, "brothers settle accounts clearly", judging from this sentence, a brother of a milk compatriot will turn against each other because of money, let alone be a relative.

If you go to a relative's house to work, the migrant worker will think, "Anyway, relatives can take care of each other and work less and get more money", while relatives will think, "Since they are relatives, they must work more and get less money". Two people have completely opposite ideas, and as a result, there will be a lot of unhappiness, and finally they will go their separate ways and speak ill of each other behind their backs.