Rural gifts: I like not to send an umbrella, I don't want to send cigarettes, and I can't make up for it after my funeral. What do you mean?

There is an old saying: if you don't want to give an umbrella, you don't want to give a cigarette when you are alive, and the loss can't be made up, which means you can't give an umbrella to others on a big day; You can't send cigarettes on other people's birthdays; If someone else's house held a funeral, if you didn't attend, then don't go and don't give gifts. That means you can't make up for it after the funeral. This statement is a homophonic expression of the ancients, which has been circulating for a long time and has become a custom.

First, let's talk about whether to give an umbrella. People's big days are usually in pairs. When we wish others happiness, we also say "fly with me", which means that we hope the couple can stay together forever. But the umbrella, homophonic, is scattered, but the big day is scattered by others, so although I think it's nothing, it certainly feels bad for newcomers. Especially when I met a feudal stubborn old man again, I couldn't explain it clearly, so I simply didn't give an umbrella to avoid misunderstanding. You can send some dolls, mandarin ducks and the like, and it is a blessing to have twins.

Secondly, life does not send cigarettes. Generally, only people over 60 will hold a grand birthday party. When we go to a birthday party, we usually prepare a peach as a gift, which is a good sign. In addition, the word Fu is generally as blessed as the East China Sea and lives longer than Nanshan. Dong's family all hope that the elderly will live long. At this time, if they send cigarettes, they will swallow homophones. On such a day worth celebrating, sending this kind of homophonic thing always reminds people of death, so it can't be sent. Besides, we all know that smoking is harmful to health, so it is best for the elderly not to touch those things.

Finally, it is said that after the funeral, it will not be added. It means after the funeral, if you don't attend, don't make up your mind. Happy events are usually attended only after the owner informs them, but funerals will be attended as long as someone hears them. After all, this is a sad thing, and no one wants it to be widely known. If you add a little gift money after this kind of thing, it will only remind people of the departure of old friends. What is even more tragic is that there is a saying that there is no compensation after the funeral.