How do you feel about your parents urging you to get married?

You are 28 years old and you are not married yet, and everyone is laughing at our family!

I found that in the mindset of my parents’ generation, “other people’s opinions and one’s own face” always come first.

For example, when talking about marriage, we all hope to find someone to get married with who we can talk to and who are compatible with each other. If we don’t meet someone, we won’t force ourselves even if we are 30 years old. Marrying someone you don't really like. Therefore, for us, if we really get married, the relationship between the two must come first.

But when it comes to your parents, as long as you reach the so-called "marriageable age", as long as you are still alive, they will urge you to get married all day long. In their eyes, it seems that any feelings or three views are not important. The most important thing is that they can realize their wish to "have grandchildren" as soon as possible!

Similar words are probably "You are 28 years old and you are not married yet? Everyone is laughing at our family!" "Look at other people, they are about the same age as you and their children are all studying", "You I don’t even have a boyfriend during the Chinese New Year, and I’ve lost all my face to you!”

Sometimes, I also wonder, who are the “others” they are talking about? Why is that other person so powerful? Even if I don’t get married, he sometimes makes fun of me because he doesn’t have to work or live?

Have I brought my boyfriend home during the Chinese New Year? Is this a disservice to my parents? Don’t we earn our own face by ourselves? Did he come back through "charity" from others? Whatever you do, you must carefully respect other people's opinions?

I don’t know if my parents are tired from living like this, but I am tired after hearing it. The most important thing as a human being is to live in a way that is comfortable for you, rather than living under the eyes of others.