I like a well-behaved and obedient husband. He firmly believes that complementary personalities are most suitable for marriage, but I have no opinion.

"Let's divorce. It's not your fault, but I am really tired. " My husband told me that his eyes were red and his face was tired. I looked at him, some distressed, and some unbelievable, tears did not end. "But, you once said, you like me the most gentle and naive girl. You said that what you like most about me is that I listen to you. "

My husband Li Chaoqun and I are college alumni, and Li Chaoqun is a northerner. He is a big man with masculinity. I am from the south, and my personality and appearance are very southern. I'm a small man, and I speak softly, even angry and abusive.

Speaking of Li Chaoqun, he is my light and keeps me from embarrassment. As long as his name is mentioned, I can't help but turn my mouth.

I have social phobia, especially afraid of talking to strangers. Blush before you speak, and you can't even speak clearly. I don't know what I'm talking about.

However, I am particularly afraid of loneliness. I feel that I can't do anything by myself, and I can't wait for someone to go to the bathroom to eat. It is my classmate who sleeps on my upper bunk. Her name is Lin Ling, whom my parents met on the first day when they sent me to college. Perhaps because of the same surname, she regarded me as her sister, so I became her best friend and regarded her as her own reliance. I want to keep up with everything she has done.

Participating in the school editorial department was put forward by Lin Ling. I don't want to attend at all because of social fear. Lin Ling said, "Are you still friends?" I can only promise.

I didn't expect many people to sign up. The editorial department requires that the manuscript be written first. If you are good at writing, you can attend the interview.

Writing is good for me. Two days later, Lin Ling and I were both told to attend the interview. I didn't expect that the interview would ask me to go on stage to introduce myself and make an impromptu speech. Lin Ling was full of enthusiasm and eloquence, winning bursts of applause. When I tried to slip away, Lin Ling pushed me onto the stage.

I was so nervous that my brain went blank, my toes were buckled and I couldn't say a word.

Standing on the stage, I feel I can't even breathe. I plucked up my courage and looked up. I didn't expect to make eye contact with the person sitting in the middle. I'm even more panicked. Maybe only a minute, but it's a long time for me.

He got up and walked onto the stage, and I seemed to flinch.

He smiled beautifully and held out his hand to me: "Hello, my name is Wang Chaoqun, the king of Lao Wang next door. Superiority is to surpass a group of people. Come and say your name out loud. "

"My name is Lin," I answered mechanically.

"Ji fu read where, the wind. This is from the Book of Songs, a good name. "He stood next to me, listening to his voice, I'm not so panic.

He asked me to answer the whole interview.

Wang Chaoqun became my hero.

He is two years older than me, and we are in the same club. Wang Chaoqun took special care of me. At first it was about the club, and later it was about my study and life. So Wang Chaoqun came into my heart.

I am weak and timid, and I feel particularly inferior.

I am superior in Rainbow, but I dare not say that I think Wang Chaoqun is a dazzling light, and I can only follow it. When he confessed to me, I couldn't help but confirm his reasons for liking me again and again.

I said, "I'm too timid to even talk to strangers."

Wang Chaoqun smiled: "It doesn't matter, I'm not an outsider. Don't talk to strangers. Teachers and parents have taught us since childhood. You are a good boy. Besides, you are so beautiful. What should I do if I talk to strangers casually and get abducted? You are very good and reassuring. "

I asked with some confidence, "Really?" .

I am all thumbs, and my parents have rejected me countless times. Other people's parents may want their children to go to college and find a good job. My parents' wish is simple. They just want me to talk more.

"Of course it's true. It's unhealthy to fry and eat." Wang Chaoqun's homophonic terrier succeeded in making me laugh.

"I don't like to talk. Will you dislike my boredom in the future? " I'm still worried.

"It doesn't matter, God created two ears and one mouth. I just hope you can listen more and talk less. You are so clever. It doesn't matter if you don't like to talk. You can listen to me. I like talking, whether it's telling you stories or telling you jokes, or even talking on talk shows ... I'm afraid you're tired of me. " Wang Chaoqun smiled beautifully, showing white teeth. I saw the stars in his eyes.

"But I'm short." I still said my shortcomings, and I even wanted to cry when I said this.

"What's that? Cattle and horses can be sold for money, but people can't sell by the catty. You see, it's no use me growing so tall. Your height is just the girlfriend I want. " Wang Chaoqun succeeded in dispelling my worries.

"I am clingy, will you bother me?" I asked.

"You are my girlfriend, don't stick me who do you want to stick? The first time I saw you, I felt obligated to protect you. "

Wang Chaoqun and I became boyfriend and girlfriend.

Wang Chaoqun dotes on me and treats me as her daughter, giving me enough sense of security, from my elective courses to the final exam.

He likes to call me "baby", and I like it very much.

Wang Chaoqun is my world, and he has become my support.

Wang Chaoqun stayed in the university town to work after graduation, and I knew he wanted to accompany me. He always said, "A silly girl like you, what would you do without me?"

I like being attached to Wang Chaoqun. Even if I do nothing, as long as I have him around, I will feel at ease.

Near graduation, I am vacillating between graduate school and work.

My mother said, "Don't worry about making money. You are too soft-tempered, which is more suitable for studying, scientific research or a simple life in colleges and universities."

But Wang Chaoqun said he hoped I could work early so that we could get married early.

Wang Chaoqun helped me think of a good way, accepted the graduate student of the school, and I got a marriage certificate with him and lived together.

On the day of getting the marriage certificate, Wang Chaoqun said to me, "Now, we are a family. In the future, I will be responsible for supporting the family and you will be responsible for studying. "

Wang Chaoqun and I changed our names from baby to husband and wife.

However, no matter how I change my name, I am still the person who likes to rely on Wang Chaoqun, is obedient and wants to ask Wang Chaoqun for advice in everything.

I always listen to Wang Chaoqun. I just want to be an obedient wife. Because Wang Chaoqun said he likes to arrange everything for me.

I thought Wang Chaoqun and I would always be happy because of our complementary personalities.

I plan our future: I want to work after graduate school. Although my tutor said that I would be recommended to study PhD, I want to work, then earn money to buy a house and have another child.

But I didn't expect that Wang Chaoqun would get tired of me in the last semester of my third year of high school and two years after we got married.

"Let's divorce. It's not your fault, but I am really tired. " Wang Chaoqun told me that his eyes were red and his face was tired. I looked at him, some distressed, and some unbelievable, tears did not end. "But, you once said, you like me the most gentle and naive girl. You said that what you like most about me is that I listen to you. "

Once my tears were my weapon, and Wang Chaoqun was most afraid of my tears. He once said, "A good man won't make his beloved woman cry."

But now my tears make him instantly furious: "If you cry, you will know to cry. I am the one who should cry. I have worked for you for so many years. Can you spare me? "

On the same day, Wang Chaoqun moved out of our house. He said: "I have my own career, my own job, and I want to have my own life. I don't want to go on with a heavy burden. "

I look at some empty homes, and my heart hurts. I have always been me, and I have never changed. Wang Chaoqun has changed. It's just an expression that we are a match made in heaven, and our complementary personalities are the most suitable for marriage.

@ Xiao Xie talks about emotions

Xiao Xie believes that complementary personalities are beneficial to marriage, but people's needs are not immutable.

The demand generated by the complementary personality of both sides is short-lived, and the demand of both sides will change greatly after a long time.

He is attracted by your tenderness and consideration, but you depend on him for everything. After a long time, you will really feel heavy and tired.

You are attracted by his opinions, but asking you to accommodate him for a long time will also make you feel uncomfortable, because everyone needs to make their own decisions.

If you don't notice the change of the other party's needs, you will only meet your own needs, and constantly asking for love from the other party will only make love run out of time.

Dear friends, what do you think about whether to get married with complementary personalities or with the same personality? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.

I am @ Xiao Xie. I look forward to meeting you in the world of words.