Yuan Quan: Marrying my classmate Xia Yu is a mediator between my parents-in-law and my husband, resolving the knot that my husband has had for many years.

An ancient saying goes: "It's okay to have concubines, but to marry a virtuous wife."

It means: "To marry a concubine, you only need to look at the appearance, but to marry a wife, you must look at whether she is virtuous and virtuous."

In fact, this is really true.

Looking at ancient and modern times, everyone will find.

If you pick out any famous family and look at it, their mistress must be well-informed and wise.

In fact, apart from the fact that there were many such kind-hearted girls in ancient times.

There are many such "good wives" in modern times.

And Yuan Quan, whom we are talking about today, happens to be one of them.

As a girl who grew up in a traditional family, she started from an early age.

In Yuan Quan’s mind, the consciousness of “family” exceeds the consciousness of “career”.

So, after finding a good son-in-law.

Yuan Quan completely gave up his career and became a little woman in the family, taking care of his children and serving his parents-in-law.

Those years with my husband Xia Yu.

Yuan Quan has always tolerated his relatives and relatives with an extremely broad mind.

In addition to being tolerant of his family, Yuan Quan has also been acting as a mediator, easing the relationship between Xia Yu and her parents-in-law.

With her efforts, Xia Yu finally solved her inner demons and formally reconciled with the painful experiences of the past.

So Yuan Quan wants to select the contemporary good wives in the entertainment industry.

Your name must be prominent on the list!

1

In 1996, Yuan Quan’s height had reached 1.68 meters.

At that time, she was only 19 years old.

Because she is too tall, beyond the standards of Qing Yi and Hua Dan.

With no other choice, Yuan Quan had no choice but to give up applying for the Chinese Academy of Drama and choose to study at the Central Academy of Drama.

In this way, due to the arrangement of fate, Yuan Quan and the movie queens Zhang Ziyi, Mei Ting and others became classmates.

Relying on his low-key and gentle charm, Yuan Quan also attracted senior Xia Yu.

But unlike Xia Yu's obsession with her, at first, Yuan Quan didn't care about this senior who was only one level older than him.

Although this senior is very good, he made his debut in 1993 with the movie "Sunny Days".

But Yuan Quan still had no feelings for him.

It wasn’t until I saw Xia Yu making her friends laugh during a drama performance.

Yuan Quan had a changed view of Xia Yu and realized that this senior was also very good.

One day in 1997, Xia Yu summoned up the courage and asked Yuan Quan to go to the Great Wall to see the night view.

Although this idea is beautiful, it is very difficult to implement it in reality.

When the two of them were halfway through, it suddenly started to rain.

Xia Yu had no choice but to take Yuan Quan to the film store to take shelter from the rain.

Just like that, a night scene suddenly turned into a rain scene.

However, although they were soaked in the rain, the two still had a great time.

No, after the night view, they went out many times to enjoy the scenery.

Slowly, ambiguity began to surround me.

But because they were young and had not graduated yet, the two of them never broke through the window paper.

It was two years later, in 1999, that the two officially confirmed their relationship.

After being successful in love, Yuan Quan is also very satisfied with his career.

In 1999, because of his outstanding appearance, Yuan Quan was spotted by directors He Ping and Wu Hanqing.

At their invitation, he starred in the movie "Spring Rhapsody".

For his role as "Zhou Xiaomei" in the film, Yuan Quan won the Best Supporting Actress Award at the 19th China Golden Rooster Awards.

In the next two years, through the movie "Beautiful Big Feet".

Yuan Quan also won the 26th Popular Film Hundred Flowers Award for Best Supporting Actress and the 9th China Film Performance Society Golden Phoenix Award.

It can be said that Yuan Quan can be regarded as a representative who reached his peak when he debuted.

But maybe because she was too successful when she was young, God felt that she was too favored.

In 2004, Yuan Quan had relationship problems.

Because of Gao Yuanyuan's intervention, Yuan Quan fell into the crisis of "being broken up" for the first time.

Until 2007, she was "on and off" with Xia Yu.

Maybe Yuan Quan just hinted to the media that she had a relationship problem.

On the other side, everyone can see her happily watching Xia Yu participate in the team competition.

Because there are too many "divisions, divisions, combinations, and repeated changes".

The audience is really not sure whether this confusing love affair will really continue.

However, the audience did not wonder for long. In 2009, Yuan Quan and Xia Yu officially announced their marriage.

To be honest, looking at the two people's 10-year long-distance love relationship, the public is not optimistic about their marriage.

After all, before getting married, this couple was "making trouble".

Especially Xia Yu, who sometimes flirts with Gao Yuanyuan, and sometimes flirts with Fan Bingbing.

Anyone who often reads gossip news will probably feel that Yuan Quan cannot control Xia Yu!

But who knows, this time, everyone really guessed wrong.

Since registering her marriage with Yuan Quan, Xia Yu has embarked on the road of "raking ears" as "the world is big and the earth is big, but my wife is the biggest".

2

If Yuan Quan's family brought her a lot of happiness, then on the contrary, Xia Yu's family was left with nothing but gloom.

When Xia Yu was only 3 years old, Xia's father and mother divorced due to emotional disagreement.

Therefore, Xia Yu, who lived with her father since she was very young, has not enjoyed much maternal love.

In addition to never enjoying maternal love, Xia Yu has not experienced much fatherly love.

It turned out that not long after living with his father, Xia Yu was left in the care of his uncle and aunt, the only relative who accompanied him.

As a father of a child, Xia Chaochen is too idealistic.

Due to his pursuit of calligraphy and painting, he abandoned his son in 1995 and went to Japan to study painting alone.

No matter how much Xia Yu cried, this cruel man never thought of looking back.

With no other choice, Xia Zhuchen's sister had no choice but to take on the responsibility of wiping her brother's butt and taking care of her nephew.

Fortunately, my aunt and uncle are kind enough.

When raising Xia Yu, not only did they not treat him badly, they really raised him as a son.

Under such warm care, the young boy Xia Yu also grew up healthily.

As she grows older, Xia Yu also has a clear understanding of her parents.

He knows that he is not liked by his parents, nor is he favored by his parents.

At first, he would be hurt and shed tears because of these clear cognitions.

But after a while, Xia Yu also looked away.

He thought:

"Even if you don't like me, there are always people who love me. No, my uncle and aunt love me very much."

Hug With this thought in mind, young Xia Yu made a decision.

That is, we must provide for our uncle and aunt in their old age.

三

When she and Yuan Quan were planning a big wedding, Xia Yu once suggested:

"As for the witnesses, don't ask my parents! Let my uncle My aunt will do it for me."

Yuan Quan was confused when he first heard his boyfriend's suggestion.

As a daughter raised in a traditional family, Yuan Quan does not understand this kind of operation.

But even if she didn’t understand, she still knew why Xia Yu did what she did.

But knowing the reason why Xia Yu did this, Yuan Quan could not agree with this opinion.

After all, the boyfriend and his parents are already so estranged. If they are not contacted to witness the marriage, then the parent-child relationship may not be able to survive.

Therefore, in order to give her boyfriend a "healthy" family environment, Yuan Quan took the initiative to act as a mediator between her parents-in-law and her boyfriend.

The first thing she mediated was the "marriage witnessing" incident.

Under Yuan Quan's insistence, Xia's father and Xia's mother eventually became the witnesses of their son's marriage.

However, even though he came to the wedding and witnessed his son's marriage, Xia Yu was still not very close to his parents.

When thanking him, he only used one sentence to describe his love for his parents. Thank you.

But he spent a few minutes expressing his feelings for his uncle and aunt in detail.

Seeing such an obvious contrast, Xia’s father and mother were also a little sad.

Of course, they understand their son very well. After all, they did not get involved in the child's childhood.

In 2010, Yuan Quan gave birth to his daughter Xia Youran.

After hearing the news, Xia's father and mother rushed over immediately

Yuan Quan was also very moved when he saw his parents-in-law coming to take care of him so quickly

But it was different from Yuan Quan. Xia Yu looked very "cold" when he was so moved.

Even if Xia's mother brought a whole box of gifts, he still had no expression on his face.

It was Yuan Quan who was the one who mediates the atmosphere. It wouldn't be too embarrassing.

In the hospital, Xia's mother took care of Yuan Quan for a long time.

It can be said that she took care of Yuan Quan as long as he was in confinement.

But such heartwarming care did not warm Xia Yu's heart.

When Xia's mother was about to leave after seeing her grandson,

Xia Yu still took her. The gift money he brought was doubled and returned to her.

Four

In addition to rejecting her mother's care with actions, Xia Yu also severely hit her with words. Father.

It turned out that after learning that his little granddaughter was born,

Xia’s father bought the earliest ticket and rushed to Beijing. > But after arriving in Beijing, Xia's father had no place to stay.

Originally, he was going to rest at Xia Yu's house for a night. But he suddenly took his suitcase out?

When Xia's father asked, he got the result that he was going to stay in a hotel.

Of course, Xia Yu's. The answer was still very polite.

He took the initiative to explain to his father:

"The child will make noises in the middle of the night. If you stay here all the time, your sleep will definitely be affected. I decided to send you to stay in a hotel because I was afraid of disturbing your schedule.

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Although he knew what the child said was true, there was no doubt that at that moment, Xia Chaochen was heartbroken.

After seeing the awkward relationship between her husband and father-in-law, in order to ease the atmosphere.

Once again, Yuan Quan stepped forward to act as a mediator.

Knowing that her father-in-law wanted to get in touch with her daughter, she took the initiative to let the grandfather and grandson get along and have fun all day long. >

After learning that her father-in-law wanted to live at home, she actively turned a deaf ear to Xia Yu and let him know the loneliness of the lonely old man.

With Yuan Quan's efforts, Xia Chaochen finally brought her son back. family, realizing his dream of three generations living under one roof.

In October of the same year, Xia Yu competed with friends in a skiing competition.

Due to uneven exertion, He slipped and fell straight away.

When his friend helped him up, he was already a "bloody man".

Not only his arms were covered with trauma. , with traces of blood.

Even his left leg could no longer stand.

Almost immediately after the accident, his friend sent him to Beijing Haidian Hospital.

On the way to the hospital, his friend took the time to call Xia Yu's relatives.

When he first received the call, Yuan Quan was confused.

However. Soon, she recovered and prepared to visit her husband in the hospital.

But when she thought of her son, who was only a few months old, Yuan Quan stood still.

She was struggling. At this time, Xia Chaochen came forward.

He asked Yuan Quan to take care of the children at home, while he took care of Xia Yu.

Originally, Yuan Quan had the idea of ????easing the relationship between father and son. >

Now that the opportunity came to his door, Yuan Quan agreed without much hesitation.

Just like that, Xia Chaochen simply packed his luggage and was admitted to the hospital.

In the hospital, Xia Chaochen would massage his son's body almost every two hours.

When he saw that his son was inconvenient to move, he would also feed him thoughtfully.

However, because he was "abandoned" since childhood, Xia Yu always looked embarrassed and could not say anything when sitting in the same room with his father.

Whenever this happened, Xia Chaochen always takes the initiative to find topics to talk to his son.

Through these conversation opportunities, Xia Chaochen has really shortened the distance between himself and his son.

Six

At the end of the year, Xia Yu’s family went out to pay New Year greetings.

Before going out, Xia Yu suggested to his wife:

“How about we go to your parents’ house to pay New Year’s greetings this year, and then go to my house to pay New Year’s greetings? "

Yuan Quan was very moved after hearing her husband's opinion.

But as a girl who grew up in a traditional family, she knew that this was not good.

Therefore, no matter how tempted he was, Yuan Quan still insisted:

"Let's go to the parents-in-law's house first! "

In fact, in addition to this being a traditional habit.

The reason why Yuan Quan insisted on going to Xia Yu's house first was because he wanted to ease the relationship between the two parties.

But she didn't expect that even if she went to her parents-in-law's house first, the relationship between the two parties would not be eased.

It turned out that after staying there for only half a day, Xia Yu took the whole family away. Arriving at her aunt and uncle's house.

Yuan Quan felt a little sad when she saw Xia Yu evading New Year greetings.

But in order to untie her husband's knot, she still tried to bring them together. .

In 2012, Xia Chaochen was tired of staying in Japan.

The older he got, the more he longed for the bonds of family.

So, one night, he took the initiative to send a message to Xia Yu:

"Son! I want to discuss something with you. You see, Japan is too far away from Beijing. Every day It would take a lot of time to meet you every time, so I thought, why don't I go back to Beijing to settle down?"

Although the tone was tentative, everyone could tell that Xia Chaochen wanted to return to Beijing to be with his son. The idea of ??settling down together is really urgent.

Faced with his father's proposal, Xia Yu was silent for a long time.

When Xia Chaochen had no choice but to wait, Xia Yu sent a text message:

"Dad, you have been a maverick since you were a child. This depends on your own thoughts. "

Looking at this line of text sent to him by his son, Xia Chaochen was extremely emotional and sad.

He knew that his son still could not accept him.

However, although Xia Yu is not very able to accept Xia Chaochen, his wife Yuan Quan still welcomes this father-in-law very much.

No, after learning that my father-in-law will stay in Beijing for a long time.

Yuan Quan simply abandoned the child and ran around to look at the house.

In addition to settling on a two-bedroom house, Yuan Quan also took into account the style of the house that Xia's father liked and decorated the modern-style building into an antique courtyard.

In this way, with Yuan Quan's arrangement, Xia Chaochen returned to Beijing and settled down with his son and daughter-in-law.

Seven

After living together, Yuan Quan often looked for opportunities for father and son to talk and resolve conflicts.

Under such an opportunity, Xia Yu slowly began to talk to her father about what was in her heart.

Once, I got drunk at home.

Xia Yu suddenly came back to her senses and said to her father seriously:

"Dad, why didn't you take me to live with you back then!"

After hearing his son's words After asking this question, Xia Chaochen first sighed.

Then he turned red and said to his son in embarrassment:

"I was poor at that time! I didn't even have a place to live. Sometimes I had to be chased by creditors for debts. Why? I dare to take you over!"

Father Xia's voice was very low, with a hint of embarrassment.

But at this moment, Xia Yu still listened completely.

He began to realize:

"It's not that his father didn't like him, nor was he disliked by them. What really separated him from his father was the factor of "poverty." ”

After talking to his father, Xia Yu and Yuan Quan began to be filial to the old man.

At that time, Xia Chaochen’s life schedule was irregular.

In order to give himself inspiration for painting, he often uses coffee and cigarettes to improve his mood.

In addition to the unhealthy "imported" food, Xia Chaochen also had big problems with his sleep.

When he really fell asleep, he did not distinguish between day and night.

Because his work and rest routine were too chaotic, Xia Chaochen's body was not very healthy.

In winter, he often catches colds and gets sick.

Considering that his father's health was really bad, Xia Yu began to work with Yuan Quan to strictly supervise Xia Chaochen's work and rest.

As soon as night comes, the two of them will take the initiative to collect Father Xia's paintbrushes and let him have a good rest.

When seeing Xia's father smoking, Xia Yu would also use her daughter's plum candy to replace the harmful cigarettes.

Under such strict supervision, Xia Chaochen's physical fitness began to improve at a speed visible to the naked eye.

Even friends who have not seen each other for a long time will be surprised by Xia Chaochen's changes.

Of course, in addition to physical changes.

What surprised my old friend the most was the change in Xia Chaochen's mentality.

In the past, although Xia Chaochen was very successful, he rarely showed happiness.

But now, he is truly happy. Even if he picks up an ordinary topic at random, he can talk about it for a long time.

Therefore, judging from Xia Chaochen's changes and the harmony of the family, Xia Yu really did not marry the wrong wife.