Anjia's experience tells us: Don't feed your kindness to dogs.

I read a sentence in the book: "intelligence is a gift, kindness is a choice."

I'm impressed.

In life, we always meet all kinds of people. Since childhood, teachers have taught us that helping others is a virtue, which is a happy thing. However, in the world of adults, "kindness" may be too ideal. Sometimes, a little sharpness can make life smoother.

? Bite the hand that feeds you.

San Mao wrote in "The West Wind is Poor": "If kindness is just a blind effort, then I would rather not have this kind." The meaning of life has never been compromise and tolerance. If you can't bloom a flower with kindness, it's better to cover yourself with thorns. There is a saying: "There is light in the heart and thorns in the body."

I'm chasing the hit drama "settle down", and the room inside is like a brocade. Because I saw that Ning Xin and her mother had a similar experience to myself, I felt more empathetic and sincerely helped Ning Xin, a single mother, and her daughter.

After getting help, rebeccalu asked her daughter to recognize Fang as her aunt. From then on, Fang was busier than her mother, worrying, helping to look after the children, helping with homework, taking the children to work in the store and attending the parents' meeting, just like taking their own children.

The room is like brocade. Everything is for the mother and daughter. I really regard them as family. As long as rebeccalu asks for help, the room is always responsive. In order to help Rebecca and her daughter sell the house as soon as possible, she secretly invested 50 thousand yuan. I didn't let rebeccalu know, for fear that she would have a psychological burden.

However, Rebecca, who got help, didn't read the room as well as brocade. To add icing on the cake, Rebecca and her boyfriend skipped the room and traded privately with the seller when the house was about to sign the bill.

Fang can't figure out why this is the case. In fact, she has long regarded them as family in her heart, and she has no intention of asking for a commission in the middle. She couldn't figure out why Rebecca was suddenly a different person. When she went to Rebekah for a reasonable reason, she was asked by Rebekah: Aren't you here for a commission?

At this time, the room is like brocade, and she doesn't want their mother and daughter's commission. In order to make her house sell faster, she distributed leaflets and secretly paid money to help her promote it. However, rebeccalu always believes that the room is like brocade, which is good for them, for the sake of commission.

A person who doesn't understand your kindness and gratitude thinks you deserve your help, even if you pay more.

You can never wake a person who pretends to sleep, and you can never feed an ungrateful soul. You should be kind and know how to protect yourself. If you choose kindness, you must know how to give kindness to the right person.

Just like Sun Li, who plays "Anjia" in TV series, once deeply sponsored a "baiwenhang" for four years in real life, and the result was the same.

Sun Li sponsored a poor student through a program, and this person is Christina. From high school to university, Christina has gradually changed.

Not only did he skip class, but he also squandered money. He also showed off the big star that everyone knows, that is, the people who helped him. In this way, his behavior became more and more excessive. He wrote several letters to Sun Li asking for extra living expenses, but 500 yuan was not enough for him.

After learning about his situation, Sun Li stopped funding him after careful consideration, but Christina, who was insatiable, turned to send a long article accusing Sun Li, hoping to discredit her and wait to see her jokes. During that time, Sun Li was pushed to the forefront by public opinion and received some negative comments, which also affected his career.

Now, because of this incident, Xiang has frequently hit a wall on the road to job hunting, and only joined an ordinary company as a clerk, because no one would want such an ungrateful person.

Sun Li never imagined that he staged a realistic version of the story of the farmer and the snake. Four years of funding raised a "baiwenhang", which made Sun Li very chilling.

A person who doesn't know how to be grateful will resent anyone and anything in the world. In this world, it seems that there is no one or thing he needs to be grateful for. He is always in a resentful mood. Do you have such people around you?

In fact, there are many such people in life. The more you help him, the more he retaliates against your kindness.

Beat rice to support kindness, bear rice to support hatred, and the words of our ancestors are all over!

The Book of Changes says that a gentleman hides his utensils in his body and waits for the opportunity to move. Isn't the sharpness of life the same?

? ? 02 ungrateful person

The true story around me, colleague Xiaoxi, lent her 30 thousand yuan to help her former good friend tide over the difficulties. Three years later, Xiaoxi said at first that he wanted to pay back the money, but later he dropped it and didn't pay back the money. Every holiday in the WeChat circle of friends, people go to visit the mountains and enjoy the delicacies. Not only did they not pay back the money of the stream, but they also blacked it. No one answered the phone and no one was found.

They all say, "Give someone a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand", but it hurts Xiaoxi's heart. The hard-earned money is gone forever. With the help of another law colleague, Xiaoxi is going to go to court now.

There is an old saying: "A snake swallowing an elephant is not careful enough. Well-intentioned mistakes hurt themselves. " If others treat you better, you will hope that they can treat you better; Or others lend you money, but still feel that it is not enough, and in turn feel that others are stingy.

There is a saying: "The lower level turns, the middle level has clear grievances, and the upper level turns."

The same rose, someone said: "There are thorns under the flowers, what a nuisance!" " "

Someone said, "It's nice to have flowers on the thorns!"

If you see a thorn, you will find fault, and if you stare at the insufficient person, you will not be happy.

And people who see flowers have a grateful heart. Although thorns prick his hand, those thorns have fragrant flowers, so he can feel happiness.

With a grateful heart, face life and look at all kinds of things in life. As long as you are grateful, you will live a happy and fulfilling life.

A homeless man fell on the street because of hunger. A kind man gave him ten dollars, and the tramp stood up again because of the ten dollars. I am so grateful to this kind-hearted man that I beg him to leave his contact information so that I can repay him one day.

The good-hearted man said a word to the tramp: I was in the same predicament as you. It was also a kind person who gave me ten dollars to leave today. Well-intentioned people also said a word to me and learned to treat others with a grateful heart.

So what I did to you today, I sincerely hope that tomorrow, you can also learn to treat another person in need with a grateful heart. ...

Conclusion:

Since the outbreak of pneumonia in 2020, we have witnessed unity, struggle with the disease, strong cohesion, our conscience, our gratitude and our touch. One side is in trouble, and all sides support it!

Countless touching moments made us burst into tears and made us excited and proud. We can stand up and proudly say to the world: "We Chinese nation are a grateful nation and a great nation!"

Be a man and learn to be grateful. Gratitude is a philosophy of life and great wisdom. Know how to be grateful, learn to be grateful, and you will feel happy and happy.