How do parents educate their children in the era of "filling their mouths"?

When I encounter bottlenecks in the workplace, coupled with all kinds of bumps in my life, I always feel that my life is not satisfactory and I have the psychology of giving up. On the way to work that day, it suddenly occurred to me that many years ago, my mother complained to me that my father was easy to give up at work. I couldn't help laughing, thinking: as far as my weak willpower is concerned, I have completely inherited the essence of my father.

Then I thought of my uncle's words. "Your father was hotter than me, but now he has restrained his temper and works hard every day. Not just for you two brothers and sisters. "

The day I was born was the end of my dad's prodigal career.

I learned from my elders that my father had a very ignorant experience. I was born on the second day of the Lunar New Year, which is a day for families to decorate their lanterns, get together and laugh.

But that day, my family was shrouded in a gloomy depression. Dad is playing cards outside, mom is in the hospital for labor, grandma is anxious to take care of mom, and grandpa is running around looking for dad. As for me? More than ten days after the due date, I'm still in my mother's stomach and I won't come out. Maybe I haven't got up the courage to face the life of a chicken feather.

(The new year's season when the lights are decorated)

At dawn the next day, grandpa finally found his father. No accusations, no beatings, only persuasion:

"You go home with me. I don't care how much money I lost before. Your wife has a baby now, so we should live a good life. "

Hungry for food, I seem to have injected a little vitality into this depressed family. My mother sold her family's livestock for a long time to pay off her debts. My father knew that he had poor willpower, and since then he has been handing over all his income to his mother.

(Hungry children)

After a long time, my mother said that the year when I was born was the worst year in my family. My dad retorted that life has been getting better since the year I was born.

Did my arrival bring good luck to this family? I don't think so. Grandpa's gentle education played the most crucial role, and his father's lost road brought hope to this family. As for me, it may have played a catalytic role.

In the New Year movie "Flying Life" directed by Han Han, Zhang Chi, a once bohemian racing driver, began to cultivate self-cultivation and strive to raise children because of the strange baby at home.

Children may inspire parents' love and responsibility, but the most crucial point is human nature. Relaxation is not bad in essence, and you need to find a home for a long time. My dad might be the same. The mild family environment and hungry children provided a warm harbor for my dad and made him find the value of his existence.

(harmonious family)

What about the last child in the exam?

Before I entered school, my father had begun to teach me to write, read and recite multiplication formulas, so I always got good grades in preschool. My parents also relaxed their care for me, and then I wandered around with the children in the next room. In the second semester of senior one, I actually got the countdown.

Just like my grandfather's educational attitude towards my father, my father didn't accuse me or scold me. Since the second grade, my father has accompanied me to do my homework every night, telling me the truth of studying and being a man, and then accompanying me to preview and review after dinner, never stopping.

I can still remember the picture at that time: under the incandescent lamp, I was writing on my desk, and my father sometimes dictated words for me and sometimes explained the text for me. When I hang my head and want to be lazy, my father will tap me on the head with a book.

(Dad reviews with the children)

The film Looking Up tells the story of a father's boundless love. His father, Ma Haowen, set an example and claimed to be the best cram school in the universe. It took him a month to get his son, the last son, Ma Fei, into the top ten of the grade.

My education is relatively poor, and it took me a semester to get the second place in the positive number. On the day of the grade, my father was surprised to go behind my back to a nearby store to buy double-sided tape and stick the certificate on the wall.

After a long time, recalling this incident, my dad said that he thought that I could be admitted to a dozen in the second grade, five or six in the third grade, and the fourth grade was gradually on the right track, and the fifth and sixth grades could be admitted to key middle schools. Unexpectedly, only one semester, the results by leaps and bounds.

I live in the countryside. Many parents don't pay attention to their children's education, often beat and scold, and have little patience to accompany them. I still remember doing my homework in the small yard with my relatives' children when I was a child. Father is gently explaining the topic to me, relatives are impatiently reprimanding and even slapping, and the child is crying.

Later, the child got pregnant before marriage and finally divorced, probably related to this loveless family.

What about children who play truant?

My brother didn't like reading since he was a child, and my father once insisted on reviewing for him every night, but it didn't work and he had to give up. My younger brother, who was not admitted to a key middle school, has some bad habits in the environment of township middle schools. Moreover, because I have been in a simple family environment, I am not good at dealing with complex middle school interpersonal relationships, and I am tired of learning.

(tired of learning)

Junior high school is a boarding school. In the third year, my brother left almost every week. Play truant, play truant, make one run away from school and wander the streets. The farthest I ran, I even ran to a park in the next town. Every time I received the teacher's notice, my father would ask for leave and look for my brother everywhere, just like my grandfather looked for my father everywhere.

After finding my brother, my father took him to dinner, drink milk tea and chat with him. Maybe it's about the future, maybe it's about the present situation, and I don't know the specific content. All I know is that every time I talk to my dad, my brother will go back to school and run away when he can't help it.

(Father talking to child)

The parents' original plan for their younger brother was that even if he really wanted to go out to work or even muddle along, he should try his best to let him finish junior high school.

Under the father's subtle education, my brother began to study hard in the final stage of grade three, and gradually became fond of reading. My brother just turned 19 this year and is a sophomore. Yes, he didn't drop out of school and went to college.

When my brother was in junior high school, someone laughed at me and said that my brother was not sensible and was destined to be a coolie. However, her brother's grades after one year's re-study are not as high as mine.

The education of love is spiritual inheritance and empathy.

I live in the countryside with poor economic conditions. Being extremely poor will breed ignorance. There is a family in my village that doesn't let their children go to school, even though compulsory education is free of tuition. Some of my primary school classmates even went to prison. As for dropping out of school and getting pregnant before marriage, it is extremely common.

I have no extraordinary talent, but fortunately, at a very young age, my father instilled the idea that "knowledge changes fate" into my mind, and now I can have ordinary happiness.

I have seen too many parents beat and scold their children since I was a child, saying that "the dutiful son comes out with a stick", but in real life, I have never seen a child become filial because of "stick education". My relatives, my neighbors and my classmates all beat and scold their children because of their parents, which makes their children's rebellious psychology worse. When they can get rid of their parents' control, they will fight back more violently than the original "stick".

I am glad that my family has always adopted a gentle education, which was passed on from grandpa to dad and then passed on to us from dad. Tenderness is not blindly coquetry, but practical and convincing; It is a kind of temptation, consistent with words and deeds; Tireless, patient and gentle.

Parents' care for their children is not to expect too much from their children, nor to ask them to do their best forever, but to love ta from the beginning even if they find the worst side of their children.

Recently, Dongdong, who was favored by the staff of the building, finally chose to indulge in the virtual world created by raven Wu forever because of his mother's excessive expectation and pressure in the unit drama Wu in the highly acclaimed Hong Kong drama Golden Night Mansion. Although Dongdong's mother loves him very much, her oppressive education on Dongdong is the root cause of Dongdong's collapse.

Now everyone is talking about the influence of "being born in a family", and almost everyone has been hurt by being born in a family to some extent. Recalling the injuries I suffered when I was a child, I often say, "I suffered a lot because I was poor when I was a child." But many people will convey to me such a view: "It doesn't matter if you are poor, the key is to have love at home." Many of them are children who have been hurt by their parents at home.

You are right. Although I am poor and stupid, I have never seen the world, but I have seen love.