Why don’t I like going on blind dates?

One, maybe it’s because of stage fright, or maybe it’s because I feel embarrassed.

Everyone’s personality is different, that is to say, not everyone can talk eloquently when facing a stranger, calmly like a person who has nothing to do, or like an old friend for many years. Same. Just like some people who have been introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers since childhood, they have a heartfelt resistance to contact with strangers.

It is the same as a person who is afraid of heights and cannot see heights; it is the same as a person with trypophobia who cannot see dense things.

That kind of fear comes from the deepest part of the heart and cannot be controlled or changed. But many parents don't understand it very well. They think that blind date is just a trivial matter. Is it necessary to be so exclusive?

There are also some people who are not good at words. Although they are usually carefree, when they meet strangers, they immediately become timid and unnatural. They don’t know what to say or what to talk about. . As a result, the atmosphere became very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape. After experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different. What you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

The second and most important reason is that it feels very shameless.

In ancient times, there was a saying that scholars should be killed but not humiliated. Although it is not that serious nowadays, it is enough to show that face and dignity are very important things, regardless of men and women, although sometimes vanity is at play. When faced with a blind date, many people will have this mentality: "It's not like no one wants me, so why do I have to go on a blind date?"

As a result, many people think that only those who can't find a partner can Will go on a blind date. Why can't the object be found? It means that you are not good enough, so everyone will think that going on a blind date proves that you are not good enough.

Then I worry that if my relatives and friends know about it, they will laugh at me, and I will feel very embarrassed if the news is spread. Even though blind dates have become very common, and even if many people can accept it, deep down in their hearts, they still have such scruples and worries.

Especially among young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger. Everyone is so proud of themselves, so no one wants to lose face.

Third, I feel that blind dates are unreliable.

There is a kind of people who have been full of expectations and fantasies about love since childhood. The love and marriage in their hearts should be as beautiful and romantic as in fairy tales. Therefore, when it comes to blind dates, I am very unwilling to do so. I feel that my marriage should not be so casual and realistic.

In the deepest part of their hearts, they feel that dating is just about finding someone to live with, and it has nothing to do with love or romance.

There is another kind of person who may have left a shadow in his heart because of the misfortune around him. For example, there are couples around who ended up getting married through blind dates, but their lives are not happy after marriage; for example, there are couples around who got together through blind dates, but in the end their relationships were toyed with. Because of these examples, they directly believe that all blind dates are unreliable.

It is said that once bitten by a snake, you will be afraid of well ropes for ten years. Although you may not have experienced it yourself, because of the experiences of people around you, you will subconsciously regard it as a wake-up call for yourself. Everyone is serious about relationships, and no one wants their true feelings to be wasted or played with, so we all become cautious.

As there is a saying on the Internet, people nowadays can’t get anything because they live too clearly. We avoid the possibility of being hurt, but at the same time we may also miss the truly right person