How to repair feelings after the husband cheated?

For people who are happily married, festivals are the happiest moments of the year.

But for people who are unhappy in marriage, this festival is the darkest moment of the year.

For example, if a man has someone outside, you have a cold war with him, but it's really too difficult for you to play "loving couple" together for the sake of each other's parents and children.

But in fact, holidays are often the best opportunity to repair feelings. It will give those men and women who have been alienated a "forced" time together. As long as you are good at using them, you may be able to turn your marriage around!

The first move is to resolve men's hearts in advance and control the field.

Many of them are easily controlled by emotions and go to extremes when they arrive at holidays. Either too radical, want to use the holiday to repair feelings; Either too negative, spend more time together, and the anger that is usually suppressed is even more difficult to suppress.

If so, your holiday will be your wedding anniversary.

At this time, you should let men put down their guard first and solve the holiday fear of betraying men.

You can say:

I know there are many contradictions between us. It's hard for us to get along with each other for a while, and it's hard to behave in front of our parents as before.

But I think it's better for us to put aside our previous quarrels and resentments and take this time as a rest. I don't care about your harm to me, and you don't have to worry about me picking on you every day. How's this?

Then you can make a request:

I hope you can control that woman outside. Don't always look at your mobile phone when we are together. You should contact her. We'd better not stimulate each other while I'm away, okay?

Men are afraid of trouble. If you grasp his needs, you will have the possibility of cooperation.

The second measure is to increase emotional intimacy with children as a link.

During the holidays, the most common activity for couples is playing with children, who are the glue of emotions. When he plays with children, you can praise him by the way, such as telling them:

Do you like dad or not? Is dad the best for you? Do you think dad is handsome?

When you affirm this man with the help of interaction with children, he will also feel a happy family of three, which will make it more difficult for him to give up this family;

Moreover, if you hold him to the height of "the best father in the world", it will cost him to think about scum again.

The third trick is to say the scene words skillfully to enhance men's gratitude.

Men have a problem with you, why do they go to see their parents with you? Nothing more than two words: face.

Since he wants to save face, we will give him enough "emotional value". You should give him enough affirmation in front of relatives and friends, so that everyone can agree that he is the most responsible man, the most perfect husband and the most successful man.

With this tall hat on, it is difficult for him to take it off.

If his parents already know about his change of heart, beat him not to do anything wrong to his family. At this time, you can also make a circle for him to avoid embarrassment.

These behaviors are not kneeling, but let him see your atmosphere, your concern for him, your humiliation and your dedication, and let him feel grateful for you. The higher his gratitude index, the more difficult it is to turn into slag.

The fourth measure is to kill people with memory and stimulate men's heartbeat.

Holidays are also an opportunity to "miss the past".

For example, you can create a diagram like this:

He walked into the bedroom and found you hiding something in a hurry. He must be curious. You must take out what you have hidden. You reluctantly took out your photo album, which was full of beautiful moments when you two fell in love.

You said that you accidentally found this photo album when you were cleaning the room. Looking at these photo albums, you think it's worthwhile even if they are scattered all over the floor. After all, the first beauty is real.

After listening to these heartfelt words, if he still has feelings for you, how can he not be tempted?

Of course, there are many tricks, so I won't talk about them today because of space reasons. The above moves are suitable for couples who still have a certain emotional foundation and have not completely torn their faces;

If your situation is serious, then you need special language guidance.

So, what are the wrong ways to deal with derailed husbands during the Chinese New Year?

1, do or die

Many tourists began to closely monitor their husbands before the Spring Festival, preventing them from contacting their mistresses or meeting them.

I have a visitor who even installed positioning and monitoring in her husband's car many days in advance, and did not dare to relax.

I told her that you can't look at him at ordinary times, and it's useless to look at him during the New Year. What he wants to do is beyond your control.

Even if you know that he went to San Xiao's house, sent her new year's goods, accompanied her to the mall, and had sex with her every day, what can you do? Are you going to rob evidence or make trouble?

None of this will solve the problem, but he will tell you that if you make trouble again, we will divorce!

2, threat+trouble, expecting her husband to give in.

Other visitors started warning their husbands half a month in advance.

"Chinese New Year can't accompany that bitch. If you dare to go, I will let your relatives know all this. "

"You must break up with her, or I will take my children back to my parents this year. None of us want to be better."

As a result, before the Chinese New Year began, you two quarreled. My husband directly said: I won't go home for the Chinese New Year, because you forced me!

3. Compromise for perfection

I have a visitor. My husband has been cheating for many years and works overtime every year on New Year's Eve until the second day of junior high school. She knows very well that her husband will accompany mistress, but in order not to divorce, for the sake of children and the elderly, she has to endure it.

Last Spring Festival, for the elderly and children, she expected her husband to go home for the New Year. After some pleading, her husband left her and the children and went to San Xiao.

On the fifth day of the fifth lunar month, she came to me crying:

Teacher Lu, please help me! My husband forced me to divorce, saying that San Xiao was pregnant, and he wanted to take good care of their mother and son. I have been putting up with it all these years. I am so wronged and depressed. What should I do, Mr. Lu?

4, sarcastic husband

My husband wants to go home for a reunion year and come back to make it up to you, but you are relentless and cynical every day, and everything can be related to his cheating.

My husband cooked you a good dish, but you didn't accept his kindness and said sarcastically, Yo, you practiced cooking at her place! You two really deserve a good tea and a good cooking!

There is a relative at home during the Spring Festival. The irony in your words is that he is a traitor. I am sorry for you and your children. I have failed you for so many years.

You are always suspicious and cynical.

As a result, before the Spring Festival was over, my husband ran to find a mistress, and finally he had to say that you forced him.

In the past ten years, I have seen many men who have no idea about their psychology, especially when their husbands cheat. They are helpless, afraid of his divorce, and can't accept his return, putting themselves in a very bad and inseparable situation.