What is the psychology of people who neither cry nor feel sad after the death of a loved one?

When a loved one dies, the heart is filled with grief that is difficult to suppress, and one cannot help but cry loudly. If you don't cry or feel sad, you either have no emotions and can't cry; or you have a strong will and an extraordinary inner sword, hiding the pain deep in your heart.

People express their emotions in different ways. Generally speaking, women who are emotionally fragile and sentimental are relatively more sensitive to joy and sorrow. When one touches a scene and feels emotional, it is easy to shed tears. My wife definitely falls into this category. Not to mention the loss of a relative, even if she is an elder who attends to express condolences to colleagues and friends, tears will still flow from her eyes. Even when watching TV series at home, she will cry from beginning to end. When my brother-in-law died unexpectedly, she reacted even more strongly than my sister-in-law. She started crying in a confused way and couldn't even try to persuade her.

Compared with the fragility of women’s emotional nerves, some experienced men’s emotional release is relatively deep. Maybe the man doesn't shed tears easily, or he has taken life and death lightly, or he is distracted by thinking about the funeral, and seems a little numb to the death of his loved one.

When my grandma passed away, everyone in the big family, men, women, old and young, wailed. Only my uncle and eldest brother were busy working without shedding a single tear. The old aunt observed carefully and felt very unhappy. She said that the child was not worthy of being grandma's grandson and was a white-eyed wolf. Later, the aunt gave a special explanation, saying that a young man like me has deep eye sockets and is not born to cry. Not only when someone dies, but also when he is beaten, he will not cry. But if he didn't cry, he didn't necessarily have feelings for grandma. He had his own way of venting his emotions. When he heard the news of grandma's death, he once ran to the back of the house without saying a word, punched and kicked the old apricot tree, and faced the old apricot tree. Sky shouted several times. I haven't been able to eat for the past two days, and I feel sad.

When a loved one dies, mourning requires mournful cries to heighten the atmosphere. Especially in the vast rural areas, when the elderly die, they cannot hear the cries of their descendants, or if their cries are not violent enough, others will laugh at them and say that the descendants are not filial enough. In order to create a more intense atmosphere of grief, some families with a relatively small population even pay people to help them cry, and additional rewards will be given to those who cry well.

To mourn the deceased ancestors and cry with sadness is the release of true inner emotions. When an old man dies in his early years, he is very particular about the crying scene. After a person dies, the children will burn paper and send threads every other hour, and cry every time they burn it. Not only do you have to cry, you also have to be good at crying and be able to cry. The louder the voice, the better, and the sadder the tone, the better. To achieve this, it is not enough to shed tears simply because of sadness. You must come up with a singing style of crying, with sad sounds and sad tones. While crying and scolding, the scene was extremely emotional, tragic and touching.

Real crying or fake crying, whether you can cry or not can cry are the core focus of people's discussion and evaluation of the quality of the funeral after the funeral. When the children and relatives of the deceased are mourning, neighbors and guests who have good things to do will observe secretly and comment on them one by one. If the deceased's daughter is extremely grief-stricken, loses control of her emotions, and even lies on the ground rolling and crying, the old people will look at her with approval, and will regard this as a model of filial piety, and spread the good news within the corresponding range. A daughter-in-law who cries in mourning is often questioned as hypocritical, and excessive expressions are seen as pretending, but those who do not cry or shed tears will be criticized by the elders. How to determine the scale is also a very difficult thing.

Death of relatives and separation of flesh and blood. Sadness and pain are human nature. Looking at the issues of crying and sadness rationally, the answer should be found in family affection. The feelings are deep and uncontrollable, and I cry even if I don't cry. Emotions are indifferent, there are no tears in the eyes, and there is no need to squeeze them, let's keep the feeling of parting as it is!

Not long ago, I went to express my condolences to a middle-level employee. His father passed away last month and his mother passed away a few days ago. I sat in his office for a while and sent him a condolence payment. He took out his cigarette and we both smoked and chatted. Originally, I went to express condolences with a heavy heart, but my colleagues were chatting and laughing, which made me relax. When it came to talking about other things, we actually had a lot of fun talking.

This colleague’s parents are both in their 80s. One has been paralyzed for many years, the other has been taking care of them for many years, and the two children have been taken care of for many years. Everyone is very tired, and the family love makes them breathless. . My colleague’s children are also older. Taking care of their parents and raising their children is very tiring at both ends. My colleague said, "Don't comfort me." I felt it was a relief.

When my mother left, I rushed back from Beijing and saw her for the last time. I cried profusely. Tears cannot buy my mother's life back. At the funeral three days later, I did not cry or feel sad. I completed the farewell ceremony calmly and shook hands with every relative and friend.

On the way back to Beijing, I shed tears. I knew that the person who loved me most in the world was gone, and I was no longer a motherless child in this world. I complained to myself along the way, why didn’t my mother fulfill her promise before she was alive? I originally wanted to take my mother to travel around the world, but I always wanted to wait for her mother to recover and get better. As a result, my mother suddenly left. The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop; the son wants to be filial but does not wait for his relatives. This feeling will make me suffer for the rest of my life.

As children, everything is expected and mentally prepared, especially for city dwellers who are usually very busy and exhausted from taking care of the elderly. The death of an old man is a natural law. Everyone in the city understands. Therefore, follow the laws of nature, do not show too much grief, and have already accepted this reality. In some rural areas, when an elderly person passes away, a funeral banquet is held.

As relatives and friends, we have already made various preparations and accepted this reality in our hearts, so we often do not feel sad. Especially for serious illnesses, everyone suffers while living, and relief is inevitable. For example, in Tiandao, Ding Yuanying, played by Wang Zhiwen, is a master of stock trading and extremely rational. Dad was hospitalized and the doctor said, don’t treat him anymore. Ding Yuanying went through the discharge procedures, and his family members scolded him for being cold-blooded. He only said to abide by the laws of heaven. In fact, Ding Yuanying was not cold-blooded, just pragmatic. He quietly left the money to his mother.

Not long ago, the company was very busy and it was difficult to ask for leave. A post-90s generation asked for leave because of her grandmother’s death. The boss will definitely approve it. As a result, I found out in her circle of friends that she went back to her hometown and had a great time. This post-90s generation was not raised by her grandma, and she is not close to her. It is just a "blood relationship". She was not grieving. After attending the funeral, she went on a trip.

I remember that my grandfather who raised me since childhood passed away. When I saw him, he was already a cold corpse.

However, I didn’t cry. I didn’t feel much sadness either!

I am scolding myself, could I be so cold-blooded?

Facing the person who loves me the most in this world, I can’t even shed a single tear.

All that comes to mind is "why"? !

Why can you persist in studying in a rural area with no food, drink or money?

Why can you not even afford books but still be the first in every door?

Why do you still insist on going to college when you are the father of two children?

Why do you insist on going to school in Shanghai even though you don’t have a penny?

Why So you want to be strong, but you gave up on yourself because of two surgeries!

Why did you struggle all your life but ended up wasting away in the hospital bed for nearly 10 years!

Why do you care so much about other people’s opinions and choose to close yourself off!

Why...

I didn’t have any other emotions except doubt and reluctance.

However, what is supposed to come will still come, it is just a matter of sooner or later.

More than a month later, on a quiet night, sadness suddenly struck, so strong, so strong

Tears poured out like a flood, and all the longing and sadness could not be stopped. Pouring out,

I cried like this for a long time, a long time, a long time...

Sometimes, it’s not that we are numb, but even if we have done it early Despite all the psychological preparations, we still cannot adapt to the departure of our loved ones. It takes a long, long time to react because, in our hearts, it is difficult to accept this fact.

One afternoon more than half a year after my grandfather passed away,

I was doing errands and passed by the hospital where he lived before his death.

As usual, I bought something he loved. I ate Xiaolongbao, and then went to the hospital to see him as before.

It wasn’t until I stepped out of the elevator that I realized,

Grandpa is gone and I have lost him forever. .....

And all that is left to me is missing you!

There are three situations in which the death of a loved one does not necessarily require crying.

The first is that there is no relationship at all with the deceased, the hurt comes first, and there are all kinds of love-hate entanglements, etc. In this case, it is a draw!

The second type is that the children have not supported their parents, or the relatives have not fulfilled their obligations when the children are sick again, so they will not cry in front of the deceased because they only have fear and guilt in their hearts!

The third category is those who have done everything they can, including trying their best to help the deceased to have a clear conscience, so they will not cry to express it. They are relieved and relieved to let the deceased go. idea!

What is the psychology of some people who do not cry or feel sad after the death of their loved ones? Answer: It is the heart of Buddha.

Nowadays, there are many such sentient beings in China. They never care about or care for their loved ones when they are alive. When their loved ones die, cats cry and mice pretend to be compassionate.

When your loved one is alive, you must know how to love and care for him. Only in this way will it really work. What is there to cry and be sad about after he dies?

When a loved one dies and a person cries and grieves here alone, even if his lungs are injured, he will suffer the same.

Has every relative died? Are you going to suffer too?

There are also some sentient beings whose relatives have died, and they still think about it day and night, committing the crime of suppressing thoughts and hurting their spleens! If you hurt yourself, you will eventually have to find a doctor to take medicine and a psychologist like me to balance your mentality.

I answer this way, many sentient beings may complain, of course: if you don’t know the ins and outs of a person, you will do such a stupid behavior.

Talk about important things three times. When your loved ones are alive, you should care more about them and love them more, especially your elders.

Never wait until your loved ones are dead, and then the cat will cry and the mouse will pretend to be compassionate and pretend to be in front of all living beings.

Even if we cry like a river, can our loved ones survive? Even if we cry into a sea of ??tears, will our loved ones wake up again? Caring when you are alive is the right way.

Namo Amitabha

In fact, this is a normal phenomenon and a psychological phenomenon that occurs in many people.

When we suddenly encounter something particularly sad and unbearable, our body and mind will automatically build up a layer of protection, which is equivalent to entering a defensive state. The psychological self does not want to make you so sad. , which is equivalent to deliberately escaping from this reality. When you suddenly receive the news of the death of a loved one, you will not choose to believe it subconsciously. You will definitely not be able to react for a while. At this time, in order to prevent you from being sad, your psychology will automatically block the news for you. You are not willing to do so. Accept this fact, and he will slowly let you accept it bit by bit. Especially for people who have a particularly bad sense of security, this kind of psychological protection zone will automatically be established, and they will encounter people who hear extremely painful things. When things happen, I am mentally numb and will not shed tears. But at this time, you may not feel it. In fact, you no longer know what you are doing, and your brain is numb.

When a loved one dies, people who are close to them have this deep emotion, so the moment they get the news of their death, the first signal given by their bodies is denial. , followed by anger and sadness, and in the end it took a long time to slowly accept it. This transition from a questioning state to a final state of sadness takes time. The moment they accept it, that's the moment they acknowledge the truth. At this time, their hearts are the most painful.

We can see that some people often can't eat or sleep when a very important person dies. They don't cry, but their pain is the most extreme.

Crying is a form of expression of sadness, but some people have another form of expression when they are sad, which is what we call no crying, no sadness, all the sadness is suppressed in the heart , they resolve the extreme sadness in their hearts by letting go and not thinking.

In fact, such people are not emotionless or cold-blooded. Such people are actually the most painful. They just keep things in their hearts and do not show it on the surface. However, such people actually have feelings for them. Or family ties are very thin.

There are several possibilities for not crying or feeling sad after the death of a relative:

1. There is no deep affection for this relative, and there may even be an old grudge. After all, the word "relatives" does not mean that everyone has a harmonious relationship. Relatives often have deep conflicts and hurt each other.

2. Faced with tremendous grief, the person involved became emotionally isolated. The emotion of grief is suppressed into one's subconscious level because it is unbearable, making it impossible to feel the grief. This is why some people can calmly take care of funeral arrangements and complete their work after the death of a loved one. Without this psychological defense, they collapsed at the time.

Some people even forget when their loved ones passed away, but every time that time comes, they feel inexplicably bad inside.

Therefore, when a loved one dies, those who can cry to express their sadness may recover faster. The pain that is buried deep in the subconscious may slowly ferment and break out at some point or moments in the future.

Do you not feel sad or cry after the death of a loved one? This issue can be looked at in several situations.

The first is post-traumatic stress disorder, which is a mental disorder that delays the onset and persistence of an individual after witnessing or encountering one or more catastrophic injuries to themselves or others. . Symptoms include traumatic re-experience avoidance, numbness and heightened alertness, such as the sudden death of a loved one. It is advisable to use a combination of psychological and drug treatment. Most patients recover within a year, but a few patients will not recover for many years, resulting in long-lasting mental illness.

The second type is that the person may not be close to his or her relatives, and has less interaction with the deceased relative, so that even if the other person passes away, it cannot trigger inner sadness. This possibility is unlikely, but it cannot be ruled out.

The third possibility is that the person’s self-awareness is not yet complete, for example, he is still young.

The fourth is their attitude towards this situation. Some people can easily cause mood swings due to negative events in life, but some people are unmoved by such events. . Generally speaking, the occurrence of this situation is also inseparable from the indifferent living environment.

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Relatives are such a close word. They are our closest relatives and the ones we should love throughout our lives!

The greatest pain in life is the departure of a loved one. From now on, there will no longer be anyone in this world who can love us selflessly like a loved one. There will never be any more. Each of us has Belonging to our own relatives, I believe we also understand the pain of losing our loved ones! It's a suffocating feeling, really! It hurts, it hurts!

It is very sad and sad for each of us when our loved ones pass away, but the way to express this sadness and sadness also varies from person to person. Some people may say that People who don’t cry or make trouble don’t feel sorry for their loved ones! I think what you said is wrong. Maybe it’s just that they express sadness and pain in different ways, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t feel sorry for their loved ones or feel sad. Isn’t there such a song? People who can cry may not shed tears, but they will still feel heartache!

So, cherish everyone in your life, cherish the wonderful encounters, cherish the fate of this life, maybe you will never meet again in the next life!

It seems that there is something wrong with your question. It makes an inevitable causal connection between one thing and another. Do you have to cry to express the death of a loved one? In addition, not being sad is a heart-breaking theory. Crying can exist objectively, such as shedding tears. And sadness is an inner activity, and it also has many manifestations, which may not necessarily be visible.

At the same time, if that person is you, the post-traumatic stress disorder in other answers are also some good angles to answer.