Why do many people hate their parents? The pain of life wears away the grace of nurturing, who can empathize with it?

It’s a very heavy topic, but now that I’ve seen it, I’m still willing to talk about it.

Why do many people hate their parents? The painful life has worn away the grace of nurturing, who can empathize with it?

Everyone yearns for a happy life, a loving mother, a filial son, and a happy family. However, there will always be people who live in dire straits. When the painful life wears away the kindness of nurturing, they will still be irrepressible in the end. The parents shouted: "I hate you!"

Although Fugu has not experienced much personally, the occasional suppression from his parents when he was young can still make Fugu uncomfortable and crazy, not to mention those who live in the world every day. People in pain, unless the needle pricks you, you will never know how painful it is.

Seven years ago, I went with a friend to look for a child who had run away from home. He was the friend’s cousin. The child was said to be 15 or 6 years old. When we found the child, he was hiding in the house. In the corner of the Internet cafe, I barely survive on the leftovers from the Internet cafe and the boss's financial support.

Ordinary wronged children will usually have dull eyes and a confused face after venting their emotions, but this little guy has suffered a lot and still has clear eyes and is very wary of everyone. After persuading him for a long time, he finally agreed not to send him home for the time being, and then agreed to go out with us to find a place to eat and chat.

During the meal, every time a child confided about being beaten and scolded by his parents, a friend would answer, "It's not for your own good that your parents beat and scold you!" I don't know if it's because of low emotional intelligence or lack of brains. After a few times, the child stopped talking. When the friends dragged the child home, the matter came to an end temporarily.

After that, the boy ran away from home more than once and was found back for various reasons. It was not until he was 18 years old that he finally took his ID card and went to a place where no one could contact him.

It turns out that the child's parents were not in good terms with each other. After the child was born, the mother regarded him as a burden and spoke harshly to each other all day long. The father was addicted to alcohol and was very poisonous. He always took it out on the child every time he drank. 18 It’s hard to imagine how the boy spent his life.

Perhaps this is a relief for the boy, because the parents who went out to look for the boy several times had a dispensable attitude, and no family cared about the child at all.

There are many examples in life. Although many children's experiences are relatively better, they are still full of hatred because they do not get a little bit of freedom.

After finishing my homework, I wanted to go out to play, but there were all kinds of extracurricular topics and interest classes waiting for me. My test scores were not ideal, and I didn’t get any comfort. Instead, it became an outlet for my parents to lose their temper.

When I was in school, I saw more than once a classmate who cried loudly with his scores after an exam and did not even dare to go home. Because scores represent everything, no one will consider why the child's grades are not satisfactory. As long as he fails to do well in the exam, he is lazy and not working hard. Verbal warnings can be considered light, but severe punishments such as slaps on the palms, kneeling down, and not being allowed to eat are not unheard of.

In order to avoid suffering, some children learn to cater to their parents and drive themselves crazy in order to get good grades. What's more, they even have the idea of ????committing suicide after getting the results. In addition to insulting their children for being useless, the parents did not feel any remorse or guilt at all.

Reminds me of a little joke. A child was scolded by his mother for being stupid because of poor grades.

The child said unconvinced: There are three kinds of stupid birds in the world, one is the first to fly, and the other is too tired to fly...

The mother asked: What about the third kind? Woolen cloth?

The child said: This is the most annoying thing. If you can’t fly, you just lay an egg in the nest and ask the next generation to fly hard!

Although it’s just a joke, don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. It’s easy to say, but how many parents can do it?

Many parents always impose their own ideas and behaviors on their children under the guise of being good for their children, but never consider their children's feelings, and this is where the children's hatred comes from.

I remember what my daughter said to me when she lost her temper: You won’t let me learn anything I want to learn. I have to learn whatever you want me to learn. She also said that she would understand you when she grows up. If I had known better, It's better not to give birth to me! Grandma is so kind to you, why can’t you play the piano, guitar, calligraphy, or Sanda!

As a result, I signed up my daughter for roller skating and art, which she likes. Unexpectedly, she was very attentive without any urging, and she was also active in studying and doing homework. I was just afraid that it would delay her going to interest classes...

Although they are children, they also have the life they want. Parents should guide their children's lives and teach them how to behave in the world, instead of controlling their children's behavior. No matter how perfect a puppet performs, When you let go, you will eventually become the loser in the corner.

Every parent hopes that their children can get ahead. Our lives have been planned by our parents, but how many of us actually live the way our parents want?

Why do many people hate their parents? The painful life has worn away the grace of nurturing, who can empathize with it?

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