How important is it to talk to your family well?

Families that know how to speak well are indeed happier; and for those unhappy families, the quarrels and conflicts day after day mostly start from not speaking well.

Originally, the husband just wanted his wife to turn off a light and adjust her eyes; but as soon as she opened her mouth, she said: Why are you turning on so many lights? Not wasting electricity? ! I don’t know how to consider others!

Originally, the wife just wanted to remind her husband: It’s raining outside and put away the clothes as soon as possible. But when she called, it turned into a question: What are you doing? Do you even know it’s raining outside? I really don’t want to do anything!

Originally, the husband just wanted to suggest to his wife that it would be safer to go straight on this road; but what he said came to his lips was: Why do you change lanes so casually! Don't want to die? The responsibility for the collision is all yours! Can you afford it?

Originally, the mother was just criticizing her son, so that he could be more serious and careful in the exam; but he opened his mouth and said: What are you using your eyes for? As blind as your father!

Obviously, if the same meaning is said in a polite, gentle, roomy, and considerate way for the other party, what will be gained is the other party's gratitude, consideration, care, and practical actions.

The same semantics are said in a simple and rude way, to the point and on the line, to criticize others, and even to make personal attacks. What you get in return is the other party's rage, escalation of fire, and refusal to act.

Not only between husband and wife, the latter are also more likely to have quarrels with outsiders.

A few days ago, the shocking beheading incident at Wuchang Railway Station was caused by the price of a bowl of noodles rising by one dollar?

And if the store owner changes his tone and says: "I'm sorry, because the raw materials have increased since the Spring Festival, I will also increase the price by one yuan. I haven't had time to change the sign yet, please understand." Most likely everything will be fine.

But the fact is that the boss said arrogantly: "It's as much as I say. If you can't afford it, don't eat it. Get out of here!"

As a result, I encountered the same temper. A violent and paranoid eater, but he doesn't want to lose his life.

Not only among adults, but also in the world of minors.

Speaking well to your family members will benefit not only the husband and wife, but also your underage children.

My good friend Miaomiao was born in a family that often quarreled, so she is still very emotionally sensitive as an adult.

She said that as long as she could remember, although her parents loved each other, they almost never stopped quarreling. Dramas of yelling, cold wars, and throwing away were often performed, and they would fall out whenever they disagreed.

Sometimes it feels very warm one second, but suddenly everything changes in the next second.

That’s why she has a very fragile character. She has always been cautious, watching her words, and lived in fear, fearing that if she didn’t pay attention, she would fall into the abyss.

And when she grew up, her way of speaking seemed to copy the patterns of her family members.

It was obviously a friendly atmosphere and good intentions in my heart, but when the words came to my mouth, they were said in a different way, causing the people around me to disperse in dismay.