I bought a house with my parents in full, and my mother gave her daughter meat for dinner. Is it wrong for me to have a big fight with my husband?

After the woman buys a house in full after marriage, she lives with her parents. The mother eats meat for her daughter, and the husband drives her parents away under the pretext. Is it wrong for me to have a big fight with her husband?

When we got married, my husband and I were not rich. My home is in the countryside, my parents live in the countryside, and my husband's home is a little better. His parents have at least one house in the city.

So when I got married, I took the initiative to tell my husband that as long as I prepared a bride price of 30 thousand for my parents, I would marry you, not money. I just wanted us to live a good life after marriage. So in my opinion, the bride price is not the most important. Since it's not the most important thing, we don't have to be so serious.

But if you want to struggle and take root in the city, you must buy a house. At this time, we will divide our work. I have a lot of room for promotion, and I can earn more money here, so my focus is on my work, and my husband should worry more about things at home.

For this, my husband's view is consistent with mine, and my husband also fully cooperates. So the division of labor in the next few years will be like this: I am responsible for making money to support my family, I set up Saburo at work to become a strong woman, and my husband is more family-oriented.

Finally, I bought a house. After years of struggle, when my daughter was 7 years old, I bought a house in the city in full. Our family is very happy to fight for their home on our own.

Because my husband is not an only child, he also has a brother and in-laws who live in the city, so our burden is not heavy, at least we don't have to be responsible for their lives.

After discussing taking my parents to the city to buy a house, the next step is decoration. After the renovation, it is natural to choose a beautiful festival to live in. After living in the new house, I thought of my parents. As an only child, I am really worried that my parents will still live alone in their hometown when they are old. I think, since our house is a three-bedroom apartment, it is enough for our parents to come and live. Why not take over?

So I discussed with my husband and brought my parents to live together. I didn't think that my husband actually disagreed. His opinion is that I can pick up my parents for a short time, but I can't live at home all the time. The reason is that my in-laws are here, so where do they live? So the rest of the room should be reserved for in-laws.

I didn't expect my husband to give me such a statement when there were differences. I can't understand and accept his statement. What I don't understand is that I paid for the house, and I bought it in full. Why can't I take over my parents? Just to make room for my in-laws who come to live occasionally?

My husband said that considering that my in-laws will come to our house in the future, they obviously live in the city, which is very close to our new house. No matter how poor my in-laws are, their family conditions are slightly better than those of my parents who are far away in the countryside.

In contrast, I think parents need to live in our house more than in-laws.

Acting first, my husband didn't agree, so I took the method of acting first, taking my parents home first, and then telling my husband.

My husband can only accept this arrangement, and he can't continue to whisper anything in front of my parents.

After my parents came, they all rushed to wash clothes and cook, so that my husband and I didn't have to worry about housework. Every day we just need to go to work. After coming back from work, my parents have arranged everything.

I feel that life is much easier and my parents are around, so I don't have to worry about their health.

Daughter's Birthday Today is my daughter's birthday. Although her daughter is small, she is a meat lover. Therefore, we usually limit the amount of meat she eats, because the cholesterol contained in meat is relatively high, and eating too much is not good for her health.

In the eyes of parents, they may not understand our practice, but my parents usually respect our practice. Only on my daughter's birthday, my parents specially cooked braised pork, which is my daughter's favorite.

When my daughter saw us present, she only had a few snacks and didn't dare to eat more meat for herself.

Parents are very distressed, and the mother uses chopsticks to clip meat for her daughter: Today is Niu Niu's birthday, and the birthday girl can eat more meat, but just today.

In the next scene, I was angry.

Husband took the meat out of his daughter's bowl and said the following words: Mom, your chopsticks were eaten by you, which is very unsanitary.

Mother loves her child dearly, thinking about her daughter's birthday, so she cooked delicious food for her daughter. Among them, her mother cooked braised pork, which is her daughter's favorite food. Maybe we were all there at dinner, and her daughter didn't dare to eat more. Seeing that her daughter didn't dare to eat more, she put braised pork on her daughter with chopsticks, saying that Niu Niu was not afraid. Today is Niu Niu's birthday, so she can make an exception and eat more. As soon as the mother put the meat in her daughter's bowl, the husband immediately took the meat out of her daughter's bowl and said, Mom, how can you help Niu Niu with the chopsticks you have eaten? I don't know. Is it unsanitary?

If the conflict escalates to my husband, my mother will not know what to do. My mother will only eat it once, and she is almost afraid to pick up other dishes. After dinner, mother went to the kitchen to wash dishes. I couldn't hold my breath, so I dragged my husband to my room and wanted him to give me an explanation.

Me: Why did you say that just now? You don't like my parents living here?

Husband confidently: Yes, I'm so old. I wonder if chopsticks have their own saliva in them? Picking food for others with chopsticks you have used does not mean putting saliva in other people's bowls. I don't agree with you to take your parents over, because your daughter is married. This is water spilled. Now that you have married into our family, you shouldn't take care of your mother's family. You just need to take care of your little family!

I was so angry that I couldn't control my voice and quarreled with my husband. My parents outside the room must have heard it.

The day after the incident, my parents said they wouldn't stay. They packed their bags and rushed back to their hometown. They said, you can't quarrel with my husband because of them. The next words made me feel worse. My parents said that since I am married, as a daughter-in-law, I should think more about my husband's family and her feelings.

I don't want my parents to move away, but I can't convince them, let alone my husband. What should I do?