Father's advice: which three past events would rather rot in your stomach than tell your husband's family?

Everyone is not static. In the process of our growth, we will experience many things, and there are always some things that remain in our minds and become memories, which may be beautiful feelings or regrets.

Many times, we hope that someone will become our confidante, and listening to us tell our past will cause a curse. However, you should also talk to different people, and don't tell others about your past casually, which may cause unnecessary trouble.

Especially for the husband's family, it is easy to have problems. We should be careful in everything and don't ask for trouble.

My best friend's character is careless. Before getting married, her father once told her: Don't tell her everything, especially three kinds of the past, or you will ask for trouble.

1. The more you talk about your past emotional experience, the more bitter your husband's family is.

Few people can fall in love once and have a good result.

Most people may have two, three, five or even more feelings. It is through the sweetness, bitterness, regret and pain of these feelings that people will know how to make their lover happier and how to become a qualified wife.

These memories are precious and unforgettable, which will easily arouse our memories. We also like to share these memories with close people, hoping to share our past happiness with others.

But these things are not suitable for telling your husband's family, because in their view, an unsuccessful relationship means that both sides are wrong, and they will start to wonder if you have many shortcomings, which is why so many feelings have no results.

And if you and your ex-lover break up because of parents' disagreement, then your husband's family will suffer even more, fearing that you will never forget him and let your son down. Therefore, there is no need for in-laws to know the details of their emotional experiences, and to say less is to give themselves less trouble.

2. Past anecdotes, which the speaker doesn't want to listen to, will become the handle of her husband's family.

Many people like to start exposing the embarrassing things they have done in order to enliven the atmosphere or get excited about chatting.

If the other person listens and laughs, it will pass. It's okay. I'm afraid that the other person has a heart and keeps everything in mind, which becomes a handle that threatens you.

Especially in the husband's family, although many husband's families are kind to you on the surface, many are kind to you because they consider their son's opinions, and they may not be very satisfied in their hearts. If you tell your husband's family these embarrassing things, they will probably bury you, pass your embarrassing things around, and make you a laughingstock and negotiation material after dinner.

Therefore, don't tell your husband's family about your embarrassing past experience, otherwise it may become a joke of others.

3. The more you speak ill of your relatives and friends with your in-laws, the more gossip you get, and your in-laws will look down on you.

Although the girl became a family with her husband's family after she got married, after all, she was not related by blood, and her husband's family did not always watch her grow up. There are bound to be many barriers and distances between the two sides, and it is easy to judge each other.

In-laws, in particular, will keep different attitudes towards you because of your family. Therefore, don't speak ill of relatives and friends with your husband's family, because the more you say it, the more your husband's family thinks your family is in a mess and looks down on you.

Moreover, you often speak ill of your relatives and friends in your husband's family. Your husband's family will definitely think you are too gossipy and worry that you will tell others about your husband's family, so the more you feel disdainful.

So, don't speak ill of your relatives and friends to your in-laws. It is you who get married, not your relatives and friends. They have nothing to do with your in-laws. Don't make trouble for yourself.

The author's words:

Although communication can bring us closer and share the past, it can also bring us closer. However, not everything is suitable for talking outside, let alone the object. Some things, even if we don't say anything, even if they rot in our stomachs, don't tell our in-laws.

Don't tell your in-laws about your past love history, which will make them suspect that you have many shortcomings, and they are afraid that you still have ideas about the past;

Don't tell your husband about the past, it may become his handle and make you a joke to the people around you;

Don't tell your in-laws about their friends and relatives, which will make them have a bad impression on you.

Remembering these three points can save you a lot of trouble.