My parents quarrel all day. What should I do with it?

A Liang tweeted in the middle of the night that he wanted to throw up. It happens that he is in a bad state recently, so let's make an exception and chat on WeChat in the middle of the night. (It seems that I will make an exception when you talk to me about business at night, haha! )

Text/Bai Erer

A Liang said that he wanted his parents to divorce, and he was very surprised. "Children want their parents to divorce" certainly makes sense! Then this day's chat is also worthwhile. After all, I am a person who likes to do things occasionally.

She asked me why my parents quarrel every day but still don't part.

I can't answer this casually, so I asked her parents if they filed for divorce.

I mentioned it, but I just won't leave.

Then why must you divorce your parents?

Because parents always quarrel about trifles, the whole family calls her as soon as they quarrel. Everyone told a slightly different story, and then she explained it to everyone, and it was all right again. Next time, she will come back 1 100 times.

I think people don't want to live without each other in this situation. When they get old, they must have a quarrelling partner. Once one party encounters something, the other party will still be in a hurry.

What do you think it's like to let two people who have quarreled all their lives suddenly lose each other and suddenly calm down?

▓ Summarize the reasons ▓?

Faced with a bright difficulty, I preach by myself.

When I was growing up, my parents quarreled once, or maybe in front of me. They only met once anyway. In the past two years, I found that they quarreled more and more. My brother and sister and I didn't persuade them. We just had fun.

When parents quarrel, it is not appropriate to dissuade them if they are present as adult children, and we will not dissuade them. We usually only persuade them to do it, haha.

Some time ago, I went out with my parents. My father asked my mother to help him find clothes. My mother is too busy to attend to. Father threw all the clothes in the closet on the floor and rummaged through them himself. My mother lay on the sofa and scolded me. I advise them to fight if they can, not just scold. I said that you look like children, and you are happy when you quarrel.

My brother and sister and I have analyzed this question: Why do two people who almost never quarrel before like to quarrel so much now, sometimes several times a day, and every time they quarrel fiercely enough? Why?

It is generally believed that they are ancient. They always think that there will be some unpleasantness in life, and some things have not achieved the desired results. They feel unhappy, but they are helpless. They are unwilling, but they can't vent. In this state, the person who is vented and hurt is often the most important person in his heart and the best person for himself.

Optimistic and objective from a distance, parents quarrel, sometimes it is different, they are more and more like old children, just like two children, just like Yiliang said that parents quarrel and like to let her persuade, isn't this a child's behavior? I remember seeing my mother cry even more when I was a child, because I asked her to coax me.

Explain that I know that my mother will love me and love me, and the more greedy I will be. For example, from another angle, my parents sometimes feel the same way. They probably also want you to pay more attention, and they are greedy. I hope you can hold them and say that mom and dad love you and this family. Please stop arguing.

I read an article called "Please cherish the person who is willing to quarrel with you all my life" before, and later renamed it "Quarrel with the person who will accompany me all my life" as an emphasis. Many people felt a little uncomfortable after reading the second topic, so the article was vomited by many people, but also praised by many people, including me.

I think people are very interesting. We can learn some experiences of caring for children from caring for parents. Everyone knows that educating children should pay attention to ways and means, and caring for parents is the same.

The solution is important?

Some Liang said: Many times when I look at their state, I will be worried. I always hope that they will live a good life and a quiet life. However, when I look at their state, I feel powerless.

Isn't that how China's parents treat their children?

When I saw this sentence, I smiled and asked me directly: So, is it the other way around?

If you don't want your parents to decide some things in your life, and you don't want your parents to let you live as they want, you have the right to give advice on many problems in your parents' life, but you can't decide whether they live as you want.

For readers, we have to use my sister as a negative textbook. Let's pray that my sister doesn't hit me when she sees it, Amitabha.

My sister sometimes worries herself at a loss when my parents quarrel, and sometimes even gets involved in the quarrel, getting angry and even crying. What was the result? The parents quarreled even more, and finally the family broke up in discord.

To tell the truth, I used to be afraid that they would quarrel. Although it was only once when I was a child, I am still impressed. At that time, I was too scared to speak, but when I grew up, I was no longer afraid. As soon as they talk, I find it very interesting. The old lady seems to have seen herself after many years. It is also a kind of beauty to be so cute and naive when you are old.

If your parents quarrel next time, don't be around to persuade them not to quarrel. You can smile at Doby and help them realize their childish side. They will also find it interesting. It may take many adjustments, maybe just once.

In fact, everything has two sides, and there are two ways and two results. As the old saying goes, parents quarrel today. If you want to get involved in something and want a good result, I suggest benign intervention!

If you don't know what to do, you will probably get into trouble and only make things less optimistic.

Speaking of optimism, say more. Optimists and pessimists look at things in completely different ways.

For example, once I rode my bike around the sea with my friends and got caught in the rain. On the way back, my car broke down again, cold and tired. Some people may think it's bad, but my friends and I were really cool on the way back, and life was full of surprises. It's really good that such accidents happen again and again. I like the process of these things. Last time I told my sister this kind of problem and joked that I was easily abused.

So if you want to influence others, to put it bluntly, your state and ability are very important.

Liang said: When I am at home, my parents generally don't quarrel. As soon as I'm ready to do it, I'll lead them astray so that they won't quarrel.

What I want to say is: If parents want to quarrel, let them quarrel in front of you. If this problem can't stop, it's good to help them have fun in quarreling.

If you also have a pair of quarrelsome parents, I wish their feelings as noisy as possible.