"Actually, your husband also thinks you are poor." Is it important for a woman to make money?

In the traditional concept, the family should be "men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house". Women's tasks are to take care of the housework and take care of the children, and making money is the man's business.

With the development of society, women can also go out of society to earn money independently, and leave household chores and other trivial matters to their mother-in-law and other elders, which alleviates some of the pressure. At this time, men will also begin to measure women's own economics. value.

However, in reality, many women, while getting help from their parents or parents-in-law with housework, still maintain the mentality that a man can make money as a matter of course.

In the end, it was inevitable that she would be disgusted by her husband and say, "What are you doing at home all day long?" Gradually, I discovered a cruel reality. It turns out that my husband also admires women who can make money.

01.

Yu Han grew up in a traditional family. Her father worked to support the family and her mother was a housewife. The same was true for her brother and sister-in-law. Her brother earned a lot of money from running his own company. The pots are full, and my sister-in-law takes care of the children full time.

Growing up in such an environment, she believed that men would be laughed at only if they had no money, while women did not need to be able to make money.

At the age of 26, Yuhan married Ding Hui, a young and promising doctor.

After marriage, Ding Hui tried to communicate with Yuhan, saying that her family was managed by her elders and that she was not a macho person. She could go out and find a job that suited her needs and realize the value of her life.

But Yuhan's reply was: "Let women go out to make money? My father and brother both support their wives!" She also disliked her husband without any worries: "You are really not as good as my brother. With a monthly income of more than 30,000 yuan, he can buy luxury goods for my sister-in-law. You only earn this much."

Ding Hui is a top student. He has been praised since he was a child and he has a competitive spirit. How can you do that? He can stand being belittled like this by his wife.

Besides, he was persuading her with good intentions, because he was afraid that his wife would be bored at home all day long, and he hoped that she would have her own social circle, but unexpectedly she was insulted.

However, Yu Han’s comparison did not stop, and he went on to compare with relatives in his hometown: “My cousin has also made a lot of money in these years, and you are considered the last among my brothers. ."

Talk too much, which aroused Ding Hui's dissatisfaction.

He thought that his wife, who never went out to work, would ask him for money even for trivial matters such as buying a piece of underwear, buying a pack of tissues, or going out for a party. He didn't say anything, but she kept talking. Demeaning yourself.

As I thought about it, I became more and more annoyed. But with the gentlemanly demeanor in his heart, he did not explode, but chose to rest in the next room holding the sheets.

However, Yuhan still didn't realize the problem with her own concept. Whenever she saw her husband, she would start to compare with her natal brothers, and she would scold him as she deserved because she was a woman.

02.

Once, Ding Hui’s colleagues held a party. Everyone brought their families to play together, and Yu Han was also invited to accompany them.

After meeting, they discovered that their colleague’s wife was either the director of the unit, a senior executive of a foreign company, or a medical colleague with a bachelor’s, master’s and doctoral degree, all with outstanding resumes.

When others asked Yuhan about her career, she replied: "I don't want to work so hard. Women can't be too stupid and make themselves into a career-oriented man-woman."

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But anyone with a discerning eye can see at a glance that those strong women with careers are all dressed up beautifully, speak well, and are far more charming than Yuhan.

Only she has no idea where her confidence comes from, and she never feels inferior about it.

However, the difference in ability will always show up. Halfway through the party, everyone was talking about each other's work and connections. Even other people's wives could help Ding Hui find newer medical classics or contact Ding Hui. When the relevant professors were communicating, Yuhan was obviously unable to interrupt the topic.

After the party, Ding Hui drove his wife home. Unexpectedly, his wife complained as soon as she got in the car: "I really don't understand what kind of world this is. Have they never seen rich people? What if they If you marry someone like my brother, will you still make money? Isn’t it a bad marriage?”

Ding Hui sighed: “This is the difference in the value of life. They can do it if they work hard!” Help your husband!"

Before he finished speaking, Yu Han interrupted: "If you rely on your wife's help, you are just a freeloader. Their world view is too outdated. Look at those rich wives. Going to work?"

Ding Hui couldn't help but secretly found it ridiculous that his wife's thinking could be so backward.

Many wealthy businessmen were supported by their wives in the early stages of starting their businesses. However, many of the so-called women who were supported by men were mistresses who were kept for a while and then abandoned. They were teased and not respected.

Due to a very different worldview from his wife, Ding Hui could only ignore her words and think about competing with Dr. Wang for the chief physician position next month while driving.

Dr. Wang is the son-in-law of the dean, and his wife is also a colleague. His conditions are much better than his own. I feel very upset when I think of this...

03,

The result of the competition came as expected. It was more of a foregone conclusion than a suspense.

Everyone in the hospital was congratulating Dr. Wang, and even Ding Hui himself had to pretend to be generous and convinced.

However, who knows how much he longs for this position in his heart. He is not satisfied with just being the most perfect young man in the eyes of his relatives. He also hopes that his relatives and friends can help him find a way to get a higher position.

That night, Ding Hui, who had always been well-behaved and down-to-earth, returned home drunk and saw his wife, wearing a facial mask and crossing her legs, lying slovenly on the bed.

Recalling Dr. Wang’s wife’s capable and neat image on weekdays, and her decisive performance when everyone discussed medical records together, I couldn’t help but lament that I was really not as good as her.

At this time, Yuhan said: "My sister-in-law bought a new bag. You are so useless. I don't even have the face to go back to my parents' house."

Drunk Ding Hui couldn't suppress his mood and slammed his briefcase on the bed: "I'm useless? You don't look at yourself in the mirror. You are a college graduate with a monthly income of 0, and you are not as beautiful as a flower. It’s good for me, a specialist with a master’s degree, to marry you!”

“You dislike me? Women always dislike men. Why do you dislike women?” Yuhan didn’t expect her husband. Belittle yourself to the point of being worthless and retort loudly.

"Why can't you dislike it? Someone else's wife is the dean's daughter, can drive, can buy a house, and is better-looking than you. She is more than good enough for me. I chose the wrong person when I came to you. You Don’t you have any self-awareness now?”

Yu Han was completely stunned when someone said this for the first time.

But Ding Hui did not stop. While drunk, he complained about many details of Yuhan's daily life, and told her that no man would not like a woman who can help him.

After this incident, their relationship plummeted.

Not to be outdone, Yuhan returned to her parents' home, and Ding Hui did not pursue her. Instead, he sent her a divorce agreement.

In the last phone call between the two, Ding Hui said resolutely: "I don't regret it at all. You are not worthy of disdain me because of your strength. Why should I ruin myself? Now I declare that I don't like you anymore." ."

After that, the two parted ways, and Yuhan also began to think about his role in this marriage.

Although what Ding Hui said in the end was merciless, his words reminded him: women cannot enjoy men's care as a matter of course, but must play their role in marriage, otherwise they will inevitably be taken care of by men. underestimate.