A grandmother's diary with a baby touched young parents. What did she say?

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Nowadays, most novice parents are professionals. Soon after giving birth to a baby, they will return to the workplace to work hard, so they have to give it to the elderly. However, the two generations have different views on parenting, which is really tiring.

"Most of the children brought up by grandma are spoiled" and "How to solve the problem of parenting concept in different centuries", in fact, all these troubles hide the message that

to some extent, we can't keep up with the concept of "abandoning" our parents, but the reality is still in front of us, and parents still need to lend a helping hand to raise a baby.

but there are exceptions to everything.

My mother, with her own practical actions, has proved that her parenting concept and the positive attitude of taking care of children scientifically are not inferior to mine and my sister. Now, her five-year-old grandson and two-year-old granddaughter are growing very well.

as soon as my mother heard that I asked her to sum up her mentality and methods of taking care of the baby, she read her notes overnight (she and my father set up a growth diary for two children respectively), found out the key points and experiences of taking care of the baby over the years, and wrote a lot.

The diary of my grandson's growth is a little scrawled, hehe

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Let's share my mother's article together, and applaud:

I am sixty-five years old this year, and my grandson and niece have accompanied me in my retirement life. Two dolls have a small appearance every day, which has brought infinite fun to me and their grandfathers.

from the day I took care of my nephew, I secretly made up my mind to help my daughter bring up the children more diligently than I care for my own children.

This means not simply eating, drinking, sleeping, but focusing on education and good habits, so that daughters and sons-in-law can see that their children are growing up well in our hands and they can do their jobs with peace of mind.

at the beginning, we made a lot of efforts, because we knew that taking care of children now was different from taking care of children in the past.

In the past, children were not afraid to learn math, physics and chemistry well and travel all over the world. Parents only had to pay attention to their children's cultural studies.

Now, it is a fiercely competitive society, and survival of the fittest depends not only on people's IQ, but also on emotional intelligence and, to a certain extent, on adversity quotient.

In order to make children develop in an all-round way, we first require those who take care of children to keep learning and increase their knowledge, so as to have the ability to take care of children and influence them.

Therefore, in order to improve my ability, I have paid much attention to WeChat official account about education and child-rearing, and adopted some things that I can do for every age group of children, learning while using them.

The diary of grandchildren's growth is a little scrawled, hehe

First, we should do our best about children's health.

a few months before the baby is born, give the baby a massage, touch, practice looking up, and talk to the baby on time to help and promote the development of the baby's brain. Play music to children on time, and let children listen to stories before going to bed every time.

When the child is a little older and can sit down, every day after the child gets up, after breakfast, the first thing I do is to tell the baby a story with a picture book, look at the picture and talk, treat the baby as an adult and nag her.

After a while, I hugged, kissed, Doby and laughed repeatedly. Then, I played with him. So simple things were repeated every day. Both children fell in love with reading and listening to stories, and at the same time, they also cultivated their concentration.

At that time, when my grandson was over one year old, there were several periods of time every day, always shouting "Grandma talks, Grandma talks", so I told him patiently, often for more than an hour, listening with relish.

At the same time, we also let our children play with their reading pens every day.

In this way, although he can't read, he can say the name of the book when he picks it up, which makes adults feel surprised. I don't know what he memorized. This shows that the child's memory is also exercised unconsciously, and the language foundation is naturally laid for the child.

One day, on the way out to play, waiting for the traffic lights, he suddenly said, "There is a big tree outside, and there is a bird on it, chirping", which is particularly complete. When he was two years old, he would say a long idioms solitaire.

My niece, who is over two years old, said one day when she was playing, "I finally put this little kangaroo in a cage", which was very complete.

They both spoke earlier. The grandson communicated with adults normally at the age of two years and four months, and the niece communicated with adults normally at the age of two years and two months.

Second, about children's EQ and adversity quotient, we learn from experts.

An expert in Li Meijin said:

"Personality determines fate, and personality with personality as the core will lead to career development. Therefore, grandmothers, grandfathers, or grandfathers and grandmothers, as caregivers, must do a good job in the early cultivation of children's character with their parents, which is a major event related to their fate and future. "

As far as I know, how to cultivate emotional intelligence is concerned. As long as children are cheerful, talkative and communicative, they are good emotional intelligence.

I also read many sayings on WeChat that singing and listening to music can make children lively and cheerful and enhance their self-confidence.

It happens that I like singing and dancing, too. In the process of raising children, I often play music, sing and dance with my baby.

In a subtle way, my grandson couldn't sit at that time. When he heard the music, Xiao Pi's bones twitched, especially my niece. When she was only a few months old, her little arms danced whenever she heard the music. Now, wherever she heard the music, she jumped up immediately.

Singing and dancing more often brings happiness to children and cultivates their sentiment. Now, the five-year-old grandson is good at socializing with children, even if he goes shopping and travels, he will make friends immediately when he meets children.

What is adversity quotient? I understand it as a wall of resistance to setbacks. For children, it is to let them listen to criticism, correct it in time, and not roll around because of criticism.

Some children can't stand a little injustice, even a harsh criticism.

Now there are six adults, raising a child, holding the child up, and giving up their temper. When they grow up, they will feel unhealthy, have no ability to resist setbacks, and their ability to adapt to society will not be very good.

By studying reading and reading some examples, we realize that children must be educated in this field from an early age.

For example, when the grandson was nearly three years old, he would whine every time he went out to play. He had to buy toys, and if he couldn't meet the requirements, he would find another job. And along the way, everyone in the car had to listen to himself. When others talked to each other, he shouted that he wouldn't talk.

Sometimes I turn my face towards him with my hands, which means to take him as the core and listen to him ... and so on.

After discovering these signs, we adopted the method once said by psychologists in Li Meijin:

If you want to say no before the age of six, you can't follow him. If he wants to cry, just stay in front of his eyes to ensure his safety, let him cry, and he will be fine in a while.

That's what I did at that stage. After three or four trainings, my grandson's temper has improved and he can listen to reason.

My niece had a temper in the early stage. When she was unhappy, she immediately lay down, crying and kicking. She found that she did this every day and asked adults to do something. When adults were slow, she lost her temper. We took the above measures again, and when she stopped crying and was reasonable, after a week, she also changed a lot, at least she could talk well.

It's easier to correct these bad temper early. If problems are found and not corrected in time, it will form a character.

thirdly, regarding children's fun, we actively seek empathy.

There will be many people who think that our older generation spends all their time and energy on looking after children, and they will feel that we are wronged, especially our two daughters and son-in-law. They often buy things at home, as if they are grateful and pleasing us.

But we feel that in the process of growing up with our children, our old age has also been broadened and become more colorful. Say what grandpa often says:

We are not looking after the children, but the children come to grow old with us.

When we have this idea, the fun of watching children becomes: at the age of 6 or 7, we can play bumper cars, children's paradise, polaroid, remote-controlled cars, remote-controlled airplanes, flying kites and playing house ...... each of which is your childhood. I really have to thank these two grandsons for this.

Every time we finish playing, we will share our feelings and experiences at home and guide the children to retell the experience of the day. We will seriously speak what children can understand in the tone of adults, so that children can feel our heartfelt happiness.

Now, where the two children go to play, they will blurt out, and they will bring their grandparents next time, because in their hearts, we are not only adults who take care of them, but also their playmates and good friends.

fourthly, we have no secrets about the safety of children.

Now, my grandson has gone to kindergarten, and he will come back to our home every weekend to tell us stories that happened in kindergarten. Of course, while sharing stories with him, we are also selfish, that is, we want to know how he is doing in kindergarten, whether he is bullied or hurt.

Because news is often seen on the Internet, kindergarten teachers are impatient, or parents of classmates lack empathy, and they will target a child. And some children go home without saying anything after being intimidated by adults.

We have become good friends with our children, and a concept has taken root in the children's hearts, that is, there are no secrets between them and their grandmothers and grandfathers. The grandson will go home and tell us which boy he quarreled with and which little girl is cute ...

None of us will make fun of him, especially what he told us. Some contents, which we feel we need to tell his parents, will be carefully conveyed when he is not present, and will not embarrass him in person.

If you stay with your children for a long time, you will find that they don't like their relatives to mention their interesting things in front of outsiders. You find them interesting, and they will feel betrayed. After a long time, they won't tell us anything.

Therefore, respecting their little thoughts is the basis for us to trust each other and have no secrets.

Now, my children's grandfather and I are getting better and better, and our mood is extremely happy. Although we have a lot of worries and fatigue on weekdays, watching them grow up in good health and sound personality is particularly fulfilling.

I really want to borrow another 5 years from Heaven, so that we can spend more time with them.

Well, that's all. As a grandmother, I have to be careful with my baby. Don't laugh, parents. Please trust us and have the ability to bring you a great baby. Haha!

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I'm fanfan, and I'm very moved after reading all this from my mother.

My son did well in the physical fitness test in the kindergarten the other day. I heard that he also organized children to direct and perform the musical "I Choose Me" in the yard. When there were not enough young actors, my grandparents were asked to make up for it.

My son is only five years old, but he has shown superhuman leadership, organization and expressive power. I am particularly happy, but all this stems from the selfless efforts of his grandparents. I am very grateful, and I hope all parents in the world can sincerely thank their parents. After all, helping themselves with their children is their voluntary efforts.

The inheritance of love from generation to generation will surely make us better and happier. Come on, be grateful!