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Is it unfilial to keep everything simple and not hold a banquet when my father dies? Will it be scolded by the elders in the village?
My personal opinion may be just the opposite of most people: try your best to make the elderly walk as beautifully as possible.
On February 27th this year, I sent my mother 10 1 year-old away.
Four years ago, my mother accidentally fell and broke her hip. At that time, my mother was almost 100 years old and extremely dangerous.
I entrusted the company to a friend, and my second sister and I served my mother for more than four months, and finally my mother survived.
In order to take good care of my mother, I sold my company, entrusted my children to my wife and went back to my hometown alone.
I am not a filial person, but for more than four years, I have been neither hungry nor thirsty nor hot or cold to my mother. Many people praise me for being simple and filial, but I don't think so. I only know that I have done my best as a son.
Because my mother is inconvenient to move, I can't live without people. For more than four years, I have almost lived in an empty land. When my mother died, I had no family. To be honest, if my mother's funeral were simple, I believe no one would say anything more, but I can't accept it.
Really can't accept it!
Someone advised me that the old man was old and it was a happy funeral, but I couldn't help crying.
My mother's funeral really worries me.
I don't have any money myself, my brother is gone, and I can't expect too much from my nephews.
My sisters are all older than me. They raised their mother a few years ago, and I can't count on them any more.
What moved me was that many relatives, neighbors and friends sent me money directly before I asked to borrow it. The three brothers-in-law directly said that I don't care about spending money, and all of them are included; My nephew declined the kindness of his relatives and they took over the matter of spending money.
It always costs more than 10 thousand yuan to send my mother away, but we didn't advance a penny in the early stage, and our relatives and friends also paid more than 40 thousand.
Yes, simplicity after death does not mean unfilial.
That's right, it's better to die and be seventy thick than to be born with care.
Yes, it is better to be simple and pleasant to be buried after death.
Parents' life is not easy.
It's not easy for parents to give birth to us, and it's even harder for parents to raise us with a handful of shit and urine.
When our parents were alive, we ran around and couldn't take care of them often. We left a lot of regrets. Now that our parents are gone, we should hold a tear for the elderly, put on mourning clothes and cry for the elderly. More importantly, we should hold the ashes of the old man in our hands and send them to the pit.
Maybe we don't have that great ability, but we still need to devote ourselves wholeheartedly. Simplicity is not the idea that children should have. We should send the elderly to the last journey as grandly as possible within the scope of national permission and personal ability.
Not to be famous, but to leave no regrets and not let children look down on us.
In my personal opinion, there should be no problem in keeping the funeral simple.
Funeral, every place has its own way, and some places simply cost hundreds of thousands. Like my hometown, the grand ceremony will cost about 40 thousand yuan, because my hometown is still buried.
Be filial when you are alive, it is better to have a grand funeral for your elders after death, so as not to make irresponsible remarks. What's the use of holding a grand funeral after death? It's not like neighbors don't know who you are.
Parents should be filial when they are alive and visit them often.
Don't let the trees be quiet, but the wind will not stop. Keep the children, don't go near them.
Our side is basically simple, generally not more than 10 thousand yuan. My uncle's cousin is an individual boss with assets of over 100 million. When my grandmother was on her ninetieth birthday, my cousin treated her. It was beautiful. Then in a few years, she took the old lady to many places by car and wheelchair, and brought gifts every time she came back from a business trip abroad. My cousin's filial piety is well known in Sanli and Wucun. The old lady was ill, and my cousin paid for the treatment. Later, when the old lady died, many people urged my cousin to hold a big party, inviting trumpeters, bands and guests. Cousin was unmoved and insisted on simple handling, but did not say unfilial.
My mother has been in poor health. According to the custom of the village, children will prepare for the afterlife in advance (it is estimated that it will cost tens of thousands to build a beautiful killing game).
Because I haven't lived in the village for a long time, I don't know anything about repairing the tomb. Last year, I made a special trip to ask the old people in the village and said that my parents chose their own place to repair it.
So I asked my mother, and she said, where is Premier Zhou buried? Then he took out a letter, which read very big: No treat after death, no tomb repair, let me dig a hole with a hoe and bury it, and then level the soil, no mounds, no monuments …
When the villagers knew about it, they all said it. I talked to my mother again, but she still wouldn't budge.
When I came home for the Spring Festival, my elders came to me and asked me questions. The implication is that this is not allowed, which will embarrass the family and make people poke their spine. Let me follow the rules and hurry to repair the tomb …
Mother couldn't listen anymore, so she said, why not leave the afterlife to you? You can do anything you like. Anyway, if we fix the house, our house will do as I say. Do you think my daughter is unfilial? It's not that the villagers have no eyes. Am I not eating well or wearing well? At my age, I'm afraid there is no second person in the village who has enjoyed something.
The elders went home despondently, and then the people in the village who originally planned to repair the tomb stopped doing it. I think my mother is right. Filial piety is not after birth, but before death. I intend to do it in a hundred years. The hardest part is actually in the beginning I am willing to be the first unfilial person after birth. Say what others like …
I met some funeral workers in Beijing, and her daughter is still in other places. There was a memorial service at home, and then the ashes were buried on the side of the road. There is a small grave, and the recent daughter has not come home yet.
We southerners all say the north, it's boring to be a man in the north, and dying in the south is worse than a dog.
There is an old saying in China, "Get a good father, get a beautiful marriage, get a good son and have a good funeral".
Because different places have different customs.
Our culture has been passed down from the Han Dynasty to the present, and "nocturnal songs" are also essential to Buddhism.
People who practice Buddhism walk well on the path of the underworld and are easy to reincarnate. The most important thing is to reduce the crimes he committed on earth. A large number of things from the underworld.
Two good friends told a joke before they died. One partner and the other said that whoever died first would burn down a house. A man died in Guangdong in the 1990s. Later, he really found a friend and asked for another house. Many new souls don't know their own houses. For example, a person dreams, a woman lives under the roof of his parents for a long time, and her mother says, "You have a house in Zhouwan." She didn't know it was given to him by her son.
What's the problem? That is, I didn't persuade the spirit well, which is the fundamental reason. He didn't know the house was his, because it was a new soul. Of course, there are many such stories.
But all along, before he died, he had to satisfy what he loved before his death. Hold it in your hand and such things will be taken away. This is a real case.
An aunt in my family wanted her son to hang himself.
Because the little sister-in-law didn't know some rules, she boldly untied the rope and reminded his family.
I'm going to cut the rope and I'm in the toilet cesspit. I'm going to slap her in the face and knock her to the ground.
Afterwards, the family cut the rope into several sections and it was still in the toilet, but it didn't work at this time. She has taken her lifeline.
Later, several of her good friends had dreams.
One night, her friend had a dream, "I put the rope on your drawer table." The ghost said that her friend said, "Take it back quickly and don't put it here." Later, she hired people to do witchcraft. She takes the rope and will find a scapegoat.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have been born online, because she didn't die of natural causes and was punished on Yan's side.
There are too many of these things. One of his sons died in Hainan. He gave his good friend a dream, in which everything was fine except money. His friend is a teacher and believes nothing. But he believed it that night and immediately burned him a lot of money paper. Another friend had several dreams. He has no cigarettes to eat there. Later, this friend burned several packs of cigarettes for him.
Some of the things handed down by the old man are right. My uncle returned 50 taels of silver owed by his dead grandfather to 300 yuan in the 1970s. Of course, the story is too long. I kept a diary.
My father is in poor health. I have helped my mother take care of him for almost 20 years. I spent the last year in the hospital. After his death, I finished the relevant formalities, bought a cemetery and buried him at one time. I didn't inform anyone and solved my own affairs. I know filial piety very well. I don't care what others think. Unfilial people do it for others.
I met some funeral workers in Beijing, and her daughter is still in other places. There was a memorial service at home, and then the ashes were buried on the side of the road. There is a small grave, and the recent daughter has not come home yet.
We southerners all say the north, it's boring to be a man in the north, and dying in the south is worse than a dog.
There is an old saying in China, "Get a good father, get a beautiful marriage, get a good son and have a good funeral".
Because different places have different customs.
Our culture has been passed down from the Han Dynasty to the present, and "nocturnal songs" are also essential to Buddhism.
People who practice Buddhism walk well on the path of the underworld and are easy to reincarnate. The most important thing is to reduce the crimes he committed on earth. A large number of things from the underworld.
Two good friends told a joke before they died. One partner and the other said that whoever died first would burn down a house. A man died in Guangdong in the 1990s. Later, he really found a friend and asked for another house. Many new souls don't know their own houses. For example, a person dreams, a woman lives under the roof of his parents for a long time, and her mother says, "You have a house in Zhouwan." She didn't know it was given to him by her son.
What's the problem? That is, I didn't persuade the spirit well, which is the fundamental reason. He didn't know the house was his, because it was a new soul. Of course, there are many such stories.
But all along, before he died, he had to satisfy what he loved before his death. Hold it in your hand and such things will be taken away. This is a real case.
An aunt in my family wanted her son to hang himself.
Because the little sister-in-law didn't know some rules, she boldly untied the rope and reminded his family.
I'm going to cut the rope and I'm in the toilet cesspit. I'm going to slap her in the face and knock her to the ground.
Afterwards, the family cut the rope into several sections and it was still in the toilet, but it didn't work at this time. She has taken her lifeline.
Later, several of her good friends had dreams.
One night, her friend had a dream, "I put the rope on your drawer table." The ghost said that her friend said, "Take it back quickly and don't put it here." Later, she hired people to do witchcraft. She takes the rope and will find a scapegoat.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have been born online, because she didn't die of natural causes and was punished on Yan's side.
There are too many of these things. One of his sons died in Hainan. He had a dream for his good friend. In the dream, everything was fine there, but there was no money. His friend is a teacher and believes nothing. But he believed it that night and immediately burned him a lot of money paper. Another friend had several dreams. He has no cigarettes to eat there. Later, this friend burned several packs of cigarettes for him.
Some of the things handed down by the old man are right. My uncle returned 50 taels of silver owed by his dead grandfather to 300 yuan in the 1970s. Of course, the story is too long. I kept a diary.
The problem of weddings and funerals is a reflection of the very bad atmosphere in rural areas and a social phenomenon that needs to be changed.
Yunhe attended the weddings and funerals of several friends and colleagues around the Spring Festival. Here, we call marriage and the funeral of the old man's death wedding. In several weddings and funerals I attended, the scene of the old man's death left a deep impression on me. Some are large-scale and time-consuming, lasting for several days at a time. Some funerals are full of singing and dancing, gongs and drums are loud, red, yellow and green, gongs and drums are loud and lively.
After asking the parties, they were also forced to be helpless and full of complaints. Their village has been like this for years. The scale of the funeral can keep up. No matter whether the family conditions are good or bad, he always punches his face and pretends to be fat. There is really no way not to do great things. Otherwise, the villagers will look down on you and talk about you behind your back.
There is also an unknown story, that is, whether the children of the elderly are filial and whether they have done a good job in supporting the elderly, but no one cares. It seems that your filial piety is not based on how you served the elderly before your death, but on whether you can give the elderly a grand funeral after your death. The more prominent, the more filial.
This phenomenon is widespread in rural areas of our country, and it seems to be getting worse.
In fact, the villagers involved are opposed to this phenomenon, and they are also very emotional in private, calling for "paying more attention to funeral", spending energy and money on the living support of the elderly before their death, simplifying funeral, changing customs and improving the way of funeral reform. They also called on more people to unite and resist this unhealthy trend. The village should have talented people to take the lead, set up a red and white affairs Council, unify standards, clarify village rules and regulations, and work together to resist the spread of red and white affairs.
I want to answer that true filial piety can only be felt when people are alive. After death, all ostentation and extravagance is for the living.
My cousin's mother died, and she was very painful when she left. I want to say to a friend in a similar situation, don't overtreatment, don't add pain to her. It is because of personal experience that I understand that the so-called extension of life for a few days and hours is for the living. Similarly, the funeral is only a comfort to the living. True filial piety is to take the responsibility of sending her away, don't be afraid of being blamed, take care of the elderly at home, clean up the battlefield, clean up the mess, and let her go with peace of mind. My cousin's mother is very quiet, and the funeral arrangement is simple and solemn, that is, she did her best.
I don't think it matters how you attend the funeral. The important thing is that you often visit her after the funeral. Don't leave her there alone. Keep her in my heart forever. If a person has a soul, let her see that you have been very good and love her very much.
Don't care about other people's eyes, just do what you pay and have a clear conscience. Some elders in the village came with a lively heart. As busy as you are, he can make more efforts.
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