There is also some distance between me and my colleagues, including my colleagues in the office. Nobody wants to talk to me, but I had a good time with another colleague.

Shut your mouth and be generous. As the saying goes, illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. Therefore, at work, I try to do more things and talk less. Doing so will not only allow you to accumulate more work experience; It can also wash away the extra time from busy work and avoid being bored and telling others right and wrong. Even outside work, I never judge my colleagues, but I know who is right and who is wrong. Colleagues get along with each other for a long time, and it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps. I never care about such trifles. Even if my colleagues slander me. I only erase this unpleasantness as spider silk, because I firmly believe that a straight foot is not afraid of a crooked shadow, and things will eventually come out. For those colleagues who have hurt me, as long as the storm is over, they will never be sad, not to say that "gold is not enough, no one is perfect." Forgiving others, forgiving others, is the wisest choice. I often ask myself. Am I wrong? A little more introspection will make people happy and facilitate themselves. If you treat your colleagues with such a mentality, why should you ask a bodyguard to escort you? Why should you be dealt with for hitting people? More tolerance and understanding tolerance are nectar, which can turn hostilities into friendship. If there is more tolerance and understanding between colleagues, the relationship between colleagues will not be so difficult. Liu (Clerk): There used to be a colleague who was several years older than me. I have always regarded her as my sister and talked about everything about her. She still calls me "little sister, little sister" all day. Unexpectedly, when the year-end evaluation was advanced, she didn't even have an evaluation because she always thought she was doing well, so she insisted that my little sister was in charge of personnel, and she didn't believe me how to explain it. From then on, we became strangers. Soon, there were many rumors about me in the office. Some people say that I became a supervisor because I had an affair with the manager. Some people say that I live outside because a rich man in his fifties protects me; Some people even said that I called in sick on April, because I was going to have an abortion. I was really dizzy at that time. I am in Lacrimosa every day. I don't know how to clarify myself, and the more I worry about clarifying, the more I give others the feeling that there is no silver here. You know, I am still an unmarried girl! Later, I had to jump ship and change to a new unit. Now, my colleagues and I only talk about work, not life. I go to work on time and leave on time after work. None of my colleagues know about my private life, but everyone respects me because my work ability is not bad. I finally understand that many colleagues are not suitable for being friends. It is most beautiful to keep a certain distance from your colleagues. Take a step back. A close friend should not be a colleague. B (employee): My experience is that colleagues can eat, drink and have fun together, and don't talk about any substantive issues, let alone talk to each other. Because maybe one day your position and relationship will change, and then the influence of some past events is hard to say. Colleagues should have a feeling of helping each other, but at the same time they may become potential competitors, and the stakes are very high. Therefore, in principle, close friends should not be colleagues. If you have any important plans to consult, ask friends who are not colleagues. I didn't gain wisdom until I ate a graben. I have a new colleague. He looks honest. After spending some time with her, I talked with her about some personal views and opinions on department management. I didn't expect that she was a gossip, exaggerating and distorting my words behind my back and uploading them, which had a bad influence. Since then, I have worked hard, and my working relationship with this colleague is limited to asking other things. I don't think it is necessary to deliberately seek ways to get along with colleagues. You can listen to your colleagues' opinions, but you don't have to be influenced too much. It is better to dilute the relationship between colleagues. Help each other nourish their feelings. Sometimes asking for help from others can show your trust, harmonious relationship and deepening feelings. Sometimes, if you are afraid of causing trouble to others, people will think that you are also afraid of trouble. Of course, when asking for help, you should pay attention to your discretion and try not to embarrass others. There are several people in the office, so try to keep a balance when getting along, and don't be particularly close or distant from someone. Colleagues don't ask about privacy. If you like to pry, even if you have no purpose, people will avoid you three points. It is a bad behavior to pry into other people's private affairs. Use your mouth. Nobody likes telling other people's jokes. Although it is a joke, it will never end in its own loss. Some people like to argue, and they have to fight for three points if they are reasonable or unreasonable, giving people the impression that they are competitive and difficult to cooperate. Some people are very alert. They are always wary of their colleagues. When they saw someone else talking, they suspected that they were talking about him. Some people like to think the worst of others. Being too sensitive is actually a kind of self-torture, a kind of psychological suffering. People who are too sensitive among colleagues will definitely have a bad relationship. Don't do housework. You should always deal with several people in the same office. There are always chores every day, such as drawing water to sweep the floor and taking newspapers. You should actively do these little things. If your colleagues are older than you, you should take the initiative to do more. Everyone hates laziness. It is right to be diligent and "upward" in respecting leaders, but don't be diligent and shy. Some people are perfunctory in their work, or have no skills at all, but they are good at openly flattering and pleasing leaders. Many colleagues are disgusted with this kind of behavior, and they will look down on you in their hearts. Be kind to others, be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. On the one hand, we should be strict with ourselves: amiable, approachable and smiling; Always reflect on yourself, remind yourself, respect others, push yourself and others; Do to others what you don't want them to do to you; Do things for others, think twice before you act; In short, no one in this world wants to have a hard time with you, and you shouldn't have a hard time with others. On the other hand, be tolerant of others: everyone is happy and forgive others. As long as it is not a matter of principle, don't pursue perfection. Even if others have shortcomings, we should try to be tolerant. In this case, we should learn to be tolerant and understand them. Not too weak. At that time, I was responsible for the logistics management of the unit. One of my colleagues is eccentric and likes to tell me what to do, and often raises objections to the shortcomings in my work. Normally, I lost it. On one occasion, however, he made irresponsible remarks in front of many people without mercy. I don't know where I got the courage. I changed my usual gentle face and exposed his background in public. As a result, he was the one who couldn't step down. I thought my relationship with him was over, but to my surprise, he made many mistakes to me later, and we became good friends later. After seeing my "performance", other colleagues also expressed their "admiration" for me. Don't care about different life experiences, different hobbies, different cultural backgrounds and personalities. Different people combine to form a large or small group. Building a harmonious interpersonal relationship in such an environment is an unavoidable problem for everyone. On this issue, some people handle it well, while others do not. So we can often see that some people have a good relationship in collective life and work and feel at home, while others make enemies on all sides and it is difficult to integrate into the collective. Why is this happening? There are many reasons. In the final analysis, different principles in dealing with people lead to different relationships among colleagues. Some people use the word "benefit" when getting along with colleagues. They can't eat anything, but they want to take advantage of everything. They choose easy jobs and pay high salaries. When they treat others with high standards and strict requirements, they are always lenient with themselves. How can such a person be liked? How can I get along well with my colleagues? ! On the contrary, if you can be strict with yourself, actively cooperate with others at work, be kind to others in life, treat others with a broad mind and set strict standards on yourself, where will such people be unpopular? Therefore, I advocate that in getting along with others, we should follow the principle of "being strict with ourselves and being lenient with others" and create a good living environment and working atmosphere for ourselves and our colleagues. A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, like a middle school female teacher, and she is rated as a senior teacher. But while waiting for the announcement, she committed suicide. The female teacher is 55 years old and has been teaching for 32 years. In terms of academic qualifications, she is a graduate of Normal University, and in terms of teaching achievements, she has been rated as a model teacher many times. But there are also many people with the same education in this school. Due to the small number of senior titles and many competitors, there is an unfriendly competitive atmosphere in the school. This made her very unaccustomed. One teacher told her about another teacher: You shouldn't be a dog in the manger. She thinks she's talking about herself. Another teacher cursed a teacher in the teaching and research section: a good dog is in the way. She was terrified. What is even more unacceptable is that some teachers who compete with her stop greeting her when they meet. Generally speaking, it is better to have a friendship between colleagues as light as water than to get too close. Of course there are exceptions. For example, some young white-collar workers who have just left school are popular with "colleague culture". They cooperated with each other at work, went shopping and clubbed together after work, and had a very pleasant life.