No matter how old a woman is, she must be confident and sophisticated.

No one has the obligation to look through the sloppy appearance that even you don’t care about to discover your excellent inner self.

As a woman, you must be refined. This is a woman's dignity.

Text/Zhou Xiaobai

When I was a child, I was a girl with very low self-esteem, which may be related to my appearance. Since I was a child, some people laughed at me for having thick lips. In the traditional oriental aesthetics Here, it's just not that delicate and pretty. So every time I laughed, I would deliberately purse my lips or cover my mouth. I am deeply afraid that my unattractive appearance will be an eyesore and will be criticized.

In this way, holding this fragile self-esteem, childhood slowly passed. Because of my academic growth, I regained some confidence, and I began to dare to express myself as a better person. But I'm still afraid of other people talking about my appearance, especially my thick lips that I'm jealous of.

Later in college, I was admitted to the Conservatory of Music. At that time, there was a very controversial supermodel named Lu Yan. Everyone said that I looked like her. So it seems that the lips that were originally thought to be unattractive have become very distinctive, the voice that was originally thought to be hoarse is considered to be a nice mezzo-soprano, and the skinny fingers are also considered to be suitable for playing the piano.

In such a weird and flamboyant school, I met a group of very interesting people, and they made me understand that I am not useless.

Xiao Wu, who has a petty bourgeoisie, likes to taste red wine, wear high heels, use Dior perfume, go shopping in Meimei, and lives in an independent small bungalow; Xiao Mo, who has a literary style, wears a peaked cap and hangs a SLR camera , carrying a drawing board, going crazy and making noise everywhere; wearing long hair, not caring about other people's opinions, starting a business from time to time, a maverick Xiaoqiang...

It started from them, when I was 20 years old, I began to If you don't care about your appearance anymore, you will smile with bare face, teeth and claws, heartless.

Just like the lyrics of a song, "You are much more beautiful when you are confident." So in the era of fluttering white clothes, I gave up those fragile inferiority complexes, held on to my courage, and boldly To like, to love, to enjoy the time of youth.

Every time I go out and look at the photos Xiaomo took of me, I find that I have become more beautiful. This beauty is not about the stunning appearance, but the self-confidence that comes from the heart. It is it that brings aura to the originally dull eyes and brings some light to the plain little face.

I made an appointment with my sister to go shopping a few days ago. After get off work, we rushed to Wangfujing Shopping Mall to meet. I was accompanied by a friend of my sister. When we met, my sister’s friend saw me and was very surprised: “This is your old sister, she has become so beautiful. We have met several times before when we had supper together, do you remember?”

< p> I thought about it and scratched my head, but I just couldn’t remember it. So she reminded me again: "At that time, you had just graduated and just started working. You had your hair in pigtails. You were still young and quiet." She made a shrinking movement, which seemed to vividly imitate my posture back then. He probably looked timid and unsure of himself.

Just like that, I recalled that when I first entered the workplace, I was probably in my early 20s. I had a crooked braid and didn’t know how to dress or dress up. I was very easily attracted by the various styles in the pictures. I have never quite understood what kind of clothing is appropriate and suitable for me. Now being able to slowly become more refined is all because of Yang Lan.

At that time, I followed Yang Lan's blog, which wrote that in 1995, she was forced to return to China when she couldn't find a job in the UK. However, she repeatedly failed in interviews because her dress did not meet the requirements. Frustrated, he returned home and quarreled with the landlord, Mrs. Salina, who had extremely high requirements for the quality of tutors. He rushed out of the door with his hair disheveled and wearing pajamas.

Because she was cold and hungry, Yang Lan entered a cafe, and there was an elegant old British lady sitting opposite her. The old lady wrote a note and told Yang Lan: The bathroom is at the corner behind you on the left. Yang Lan looked at the old lady who was as noble and delicate as Queen Elizabeth. Looking at her messy hair and old pajamas, she felt a little contemptuous of herself.

Yang Lan returned to her seat from the bathroom. The old lady opposite had left, leaving only a beautiful note: As a woman, you must be refined. This is a woman's dignity.

The old lady later became Yang Lan's boss, the sales queen of a certain cosmetics brand.

But Yang Lan always remembers this sentence, no one has the obligation to discover your excellent inside through the sloppy appearance that even you don't care about. As a woman, you have to be sophisticated. This is a woman's dignity.

Later on, I started to learn how to put on makeup. I took the girl in the company who I thought was the best at putting on makeup to the place where she usually buys cosmetics. All of a sudden, I had all the equipment set up. When I got home, I would watch and learn how to do it. I watched makeup videos online and started trying them out early the next morning. The eyeliner was always crooked at first, but gradually became smoother and smoother. From the time it took more than half an hour to put on makeup each time, and sometimes I had to remove it and reapply it, now I can do it in a taxi, and I can do a light makeup look in five minutes in the toilet.

I rarely go out without makeup. It seems to have become my habit. Being without makeup will make me feel bad about my image in the workplace. No matter how busy and tired I am, with children and housework, I dare not slack off. I have to be prepared for the possibility of speaking on behalf of the company, communicating with others, and interviewing at all times.

Slowly, I began to feel that this was not just makeup, but more like a professional quality. Elegant makeup, meticulous hair, and professional attire all represented my professional image. No one is obliged to look through my slovenly appearance to discover my professional inner self.

In January this year, the night before I was invited to attend the annual meeting of Mianyi Baking to share the course, I was still giving my daughter a bath. I finished the PPT for the next day’s class when I got up early from 6 to 9 o’clock. of.

For a busy working mother like me, it is actually very challenging to do something else and do it well. After quickly completing the courseware, I quickly washed up, put on makeup, and put on suitable clothes. Fortunately, I am extremely grateful to the good habits in the workplace, which allowed me to quickly solve these problems and attend the meeting confidently, calmly, calmly and gracefully.

The lecturer who was traveling with me took a week to prepare for the course that day, and I only prepared for a few hours, but I was not nervous or panicked at all. Sometimes makeup is like armor, making me more brave and confident. Stand before the world. Don't be timid anymore, don't worry about what will happen to you, just remember to express it, and everything will go smoothly.

I think every girl is like this. From not understanding herself to slowly understanding herself, from not knowing how to dress herself up to slowly learning to appreciate whether clothes and cosmetics are suitable for her, this will all be a process. . A process of gradually getting to know yourself and understanding yourself.

At the age of 30, I started to put on delicate makeup from bare face, and I began to understand that being able to dress up is very important to me.

It is like my armor, allowing me to turn self-denial into self-identity, allowing me not to care about the imperfections of this skin, and letting my spirit and soul world think. Able to express freely.

When we were studying, we had little savings, little financial ability, and a lot of expenses that required study and social interaction, so we all pursued “cost-effectiveness” in whatever we ate or wore;

When I was a stay-at-home mom, because I had little financial income and didn’t have to go out to socialize, meet people, or have parties all day long, I had to decide whether to put on makeup or wear nice clothes. It seemed like I would never be a stay-at-home mom, mother-in-law, or baby girl. Themes that exist in the living space;

Now that I have entered the workplace, I have begun to feel more and more in control of the life I want. How to eat healthily, how to dress appropriately, and how to look smart and capable. Working on my waistcoat line, eating healthy salads, going to the SPA once a week, and dressing simply, these seem to be the looks I want.

We see that more and more women over 30 are losing shape because they can’t control their mouths, can’t move their legs, and have begun to have fat and swimming rings on their abdomens; because they don’t have self-discipline and stay up late, they always It makes people feel like they are yawning continuously and have low energy and energy. More and more women over 30 have become aunties in the eyes of the world.

Some people say that aging is not terrible. What is more terrible than aging is actually the erosion of life.

The only thing that time can affect us is gray hair, nasolabial folds, and crow’s feet; and the erosion of life will make us lose our curiosity about the world and the will to change ourselves.

Therefore, as a woman, you must be self-disciplined, patient, persistent, restrained, and have higher requirements for yourself.

If you are not willing to accept the current persona given to you by society and life, if your current body and soul are not what you want, if you are not satisfied with your current living situation.

You must take action now, whether it is fitness, makeup, or dressing up. In short, go and make yourself more and more beautiful. Don’t stop. Remember, no one will To support you for a lifetime, you must enrich yourself and support yourself.

There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women.

At every age, we all have the beauty that belongs to that time, the aura of twenty years old, the calmness of thirty years old, the elegance of forty years old, and the fifty, sixty years old...

The most important thing for a woman is to make herself more and more beautiful, and then make her beauty less and less important.

I am Zhou Xiaobai. Working mothers,

are working elites during the day, take care of their children at night,

get up early to write and read.

Love photography, painting, and insist on writing heartfelt words.

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