The more familiar you are, the more you need appropriate restrictions.

The so-called appropriate restriction is to step into each other's world, and in the temptation, the water will flow forever. Respect each other's space and understand each other's bottom line.

From the caution of strangers to the talk of girlfriends, I screened again and again, and finally left a handful of friends. In daily communication, these friends can play many roles, get together and rub against each other, and do anything necessary in times of crisis. Because of some trivial things, friends for several years or even more than ten years parted ways and never contacted each other again. Probably because there is no good balance, touching each other's bottom line.

Best friends know the ins and outs of some things best, and no one will defend them in communication. There was another party, where L raised a glass and made a "speech", which may be the stimulation of alcohol. S sitting by said, "Don't listen to his boasting. It's like this, Barabara. " Finally, he added, "Did you say that at the beginning?" ? Everyone burst into laughter, and I had to laugh along. I saw the helplessness in L's eyes, even some helplessness. There is still some time left in the field. I was smoking at the door and saw L leave with his coat. We smiled at each other and he asked for a cigarette. Vomiting a smoke turn, he said simply-careless friend! I mean, have you known each other long? After six years, he went on to say that every party would turn his back on the client. After that night, l and s were no longer paired. Sometimes I play ball with L, and when I meet S, I just exchange a few pleasantries, while L looks away absently.

It's hard to imagine that a six-year friendship has become a passer-by in one sentence. S made a big taboo in communication and thought that his best friend could be "black", but he forgot the occasion. Wu Kui Dongye said, "Everyone in our hotel wears masks. This mask is called "guest". Never try to uncover it. In fact, people are all guests, even if they pass by and smile at each other, they are also guests. We call them passers-by Since you are a guest, you should try your best to satisfy or serve this person and respect their every form of existence.

Some ordinary friends or even friends are not counted, just passers-by in life. Plus wechat doesn't like it. I only remember one person. We will have little or no chance to meet again in the future. Often these people will be listed as "zombie friends" by us, and occasionally they will cheat the bodies-they will receive mass greetings on holidays.

There are also some people who have close contacts and often get together to become acquaintances. Everyone knows their hobbies. Talking about the same topic, sitting in Houhai bar. Let's get together again when we are free, and we must get together again when we are free. You can stay in the WeChat chat window without sliding down for too long.

There is also a best friend who has mixed feelings. You can say that you are a very dark person. When you throw a phone call, you think about each other anytime and anywhere, even if there is some irony in your words, screw you! Laughing generously, such recognition is rare in the circle of friends.

This classification is actually a measure, telling us who he is in my mind, who I am and who he is in his mind. Know the depth of your communication, and your words and deeds will be referenced.

In communication, we always consider the emotional intelligence of ourselves and each other. "The so-called high emotional intelligence is to take others to heart." "The highest EQ is called self-cultivation". The appropriate limit seems to be in your own hands, but it is not-it depends on the feelings of the other party. For example, if someone is short in some subjects, such a voice will appear in the chat. Is your XX subject taught by the PE teacher? This sentence is very common! The other person is angry because he is a person who respects the teacher very much. So when you don't know each other's character and conduct, please put away those low-level and explosive "jokes" to ease the atmosphere, and you will become a joke in the end.

The more familiar people are, the more they need to know each other's bottom line. Some people do not hesitate to touch the well-known bottom line in front of everyone in order to prove their close relationship with others. As a result, it is conceivable that people around you will stay away from it when they touch a rebuff. I was injured some time ago and went in and out wearing a mask. One day when I was cooking in the house, I took off my mask and only heard the door open. It was a mess then. The mask is far from me. He said he was cooking, so he came to me. I said don't come over, go out for a while. He listened to my bad breath and went out in frustration. I sent him a wechat saying: knock on the door later and come in quietly the next day. This man is very nice, but two intrusions have expelled him from my acquaintance list. This is a typical self-esteem. You don't have to knock if you think you are familiar. He doesn't know that I wear a mask to prevent others from seeing it, and he thinks he knows it very well, so it doesn't matter if I see it. The bottom line is the line set for you by the other party. No matter how good the relationship is, don't touch each other's bottom line.

Without proper friendship and love, it won't last long. Even if the relationship between husband and wife is close, there are cases in Qi Mei. Everyone is a glass of water when communicating. Some people feel cold, some feel warm, and some feel hot. The sense of proportion is directly proportional to the temperature of this glass of water. The stronger the appropriate limit, the higher the somatosensory temperature, that is, the higher the intimacy, and vice versa. The more familiar you are, the more you should know, because the more familiar you are, the more you care.