How to overcome social fear

When you communicate with others, your heart beats faster and you feel at a loss. When in crowded situations, you feel uneasy and want to escape. Especially when you walk on the road, you always feel like everyone is watching. You, have I mutated? Why is this person always looking at me? If you are like this, you will be autistic sooner or later;

What is social fear? Social phobia is actually a self-centered pessimist;

For example: If you go out to buy coffee with your friends, the sociophobic person will think in his heart, "drugs" "Brother, are you going to drink coffee?" (An old question) On the way to buy coffee, I must chat. I don't know how to chat. You think I'm boring and doing random things. (Greetings again) What the hell do you want to drink? Drink boiled water. Isn’t it bad? "I won't go", that's it. You refuse all social interactions and have a strong fear of every passive social interaction. Gradually, only your legend will be left in the world. Wanting to socialize is the essence of it. The point is that you have to learn to accept your imperfect self and believe that you will become perfect sooner or later;

1. Encourage yourself more in front of the mirror. Your thoughts determine your level of confidence;< /p>

For example, when you look in the mirror, you may think, oh, why is my face so big? Then, you feel inferior because you are undermining your self-confidence. Then when you look in the mirror, you think, "Oh, my makeup suits me today. I am so handsome!"

Then you will be confident, because you are affirming yourself. The person in the mirror is always you. Inferiority or self-confidence come from the difference in thoughts in your mind. Encourage yourself more and affirm yourself;

2 Write a "review". Most people with social fears are perfectionists who will subconsciously magnify their weaknesses and reduce their strengths. The consequences of doing so will only make you worse. The more inferior you are, start with this book;

Make a list according to the following aspects and use phrases to describe your strengths and weaknesses:

1 Appearance, height and weight , skin type, hair color, long eyelashes, short eyelashes, and the thickness of pores, you can write them all down for me. Then good skin is also an advantage;

2 Personality, when I meet people, you are lively! Still depressed? So happy! Still unhappy? You also write it for me;

3. How to communicate with others. When you meet people, you can do it. You still have to write about this (constipation). ;

4 What other people think of you? In the eyes of others, whether they praise you or say bad things about you everywhere, you should write all these for me;

Then, put a "+" sign in front of the advantages you think, and a "-" sign in front of the disadvantages. In this form, there are disadvantages you dare not face, and advantages you ignore, and you have to do Yes, just follow this form, slowly change your shortcomings, and strengthen your strengths. So what can you do if you have shortcomings? Let’s change them! What a big deal!

3 Learn to accept yourself. Social fear is not a disease. Stephen Chow and Steve Jobs also had deep social fears. Family members, just recognize yourself. You really don’t care about other people’s evaluation of you. The most important thing in our lives is The lesson is not to be who we are, but to learn to accept ourselves. When we go out to socialize, we don’t have to worry about ourselves, “Is my hair messy?” “Is the lipstick on?” Try to focus more on it. Look less at yourself when it comes to others, so that you have more time to see how ugly others are!