Husband had a stroke, and his wife sent him to a nursing home: some debts are not unpaid, but it is not time. what do you think?

It is said that between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, 30 years in the East and 30 years in the West. You treat each other well, not only for each other, but also for yourself, because a person's life is actually like a flower. When it is in full bloom, it will also decline extremely. That's the truth.

The same is true between husband and wife. When you are in the prime of life, taunting each other, adding insult to injury, you should also understand that when you start to go downhill, the other person's attitude towards you will only reappear according to the attitude you once treated her. Don't think that time can dilute all hatred and resentment, and an understated apology can make the other person forgive you.

Kindness is mutual, and there is no unilateral goodness that is taken for granted. When you treat each other with evil, the other person has reason to "return evil with evil", and there is no need to give you a good face.

We know that although divorce is a common thing now, it is not so easy in the minds of some people with traditional ideas. This is actually respect for marriage, but some people regard this respect as a handle.

Since you won't divorce, it's equivalent to not daring to divorce, so no matter what you do, you don't have to be afraid that your marriage will collapse.

As a result, many people regard the phrase "there is no overnight hatred between husband and wife" as a master key, which can solve all contradictions between husband and wife. Anyway, there will be no divorce, and there is no hatred between husband and wife. I can do anything.

But this sentence is actually teaching both sides not to hurt their feelings because of small contradictions, but to understand each other, rather than teaching everyone not to get angry no matter how big the contradictions are.

But some people think so. Anyway, there will be no one-night feud between husband and wife. What should I do with you? Even if you are angry, you can't hold grudges. Holding a grudge shows that you are stingy. Even if I make a big mistake, as long as you and I are still husband and wife, you will forgive me in the end.

You know, not everyone has the idea of Notre Dame de Paris. If you plant evil causes, you will eventually brew bitter fruit. Time may make some hostility fade, but it may also deepen the bitter fruit. It is also an inevitable result to eat the bitter fruit brewed by yourself. You have always been arrogant, and eventually you will know the truth that you can't live if you do it yourself.

An old colleague of my mother's, Aunt Zhou, did something quite shocking some time ago. She sent her husband who had a stroke and was a little hemiplegic to a nursing home. Many people can't understand this, so all kinds of gossip about Aunt Zhou flowed out.

Many people think that there can be much hatred and resentment between husband and wife, which is really not so rude. Aunt Zhou's husband, no matter what mistakes he made, is still husband and wife. There is no overnight feud between husband and wife, let alone an old couple. As for when he is old and needs help, it is too difficult to do so.

Aunt Zhou doesn't know all the gossip around her, but she doesn't think so.

"I have lived my whole life, and the most feared thing is to be poked by others. They know something. People who don't know the truth will be forgiven by you. Stay away from them and be careful of being struck by lightning.

Who said that husband and wife should forgive each other? I just don't forgive. I have waited for so many years, endured so many years, and I have waited for such a day.

He has been cruel to me all his life, and I have been cruel to him just this once. What is wrong with me? This is his fault. After what he did to me, he should think about what his result will be now. He asked for it. "

Knowing all the reasons, my mother just sighed and said "bad karma", which is considered to agree with this aunt's practice.

To say that Aunt Zhou is also a poor woman, the age when Aunt Zhou was born was not an era of special freedom of thought. She was born in an ordinary peasant family. Her parents are fruit farmers, with two sisters above and a younger brother and sister below. She looks a little short and fat, but when a girl is in love, who doesn't want to marry a boy she loves and spend her life together?

But Aunt Zhou has no choice. Like her sister, under the arrangement of her parents, she met her husband now. The man is from a neighboring village, with average family conditions and average appearance, but he looks honest. Aunt Zhou's parents took a fancy to this.

At that time, I was not afraid of hardship, but I had a job in my eyes. This is something my parents like. I think following such a boy still has food and can lead a good life. Boys are really diligent. Although they don't talk much, they do things quickly. Watching Aunt Zhou giggle will also please Aunt Zhou's parents.

Aunt Zhou talked with a man for half a year, and when she didn't know what sex was, she married a man in a daze. All she knows is that according to her parents' matchmaker, this man has nothing to be picky about. As long as he was alive, she gave in obediently.

Aunt Zhou is a traditional woman. Even though she knew little about marriage, when she married a man, she began to live wholeheartedly. Although she is not so outstanding, she is virtuous and diligent, and she is also a good hand at housework.

Be filial to your parents-in-law, tidy up your house and try to be a good wife. Although her in-laws are poor, Aunt Zhou doesn't dislike anything. She thinks men can bear hardships, and she is not a delicate lady. It will always be better and better for two people to help each other in the same boat, and the whole family will help men run towards a better life together.

Originally, according to Aunt Zhou's plan, a good day was just around the corner, but soon Aunt Zhou discovered a bad habit of men.

Men are really not bad on weekdays, but they are a little dull and don't like to talk much. They are ok with Aunt Zhou, but not once they drink a little cat urine. Men are timid and drink a little wine, which is completely different from usual people. Their capacity for drinking is poor, and so is their wine. The violent side that is usually hidden in my heart is exposed at this moment, and I moved my hand to Aunt Zhou twice.

Aunt Zhou didn't let him go, but the man was too strong to beat him, but he also died, but even so, Aunt Zhou hid the injury the next day without telling anyone and pretended that nothing happened.

Aunt Zhou is very traditional. She is embarrassed to let others see that her marriage with her husband is unhappy, and she will never think of divorce. For her, marriage cannot be faithful to each other, which is a shame to her family. In this life, she will never lift her head again, even if her marriage breaks up because of a man.

That is to say, her idea made the man grasp the handle at once, and Aunt Zhou was absolutely loyal to her marriage and family, which made the man feel relieved and more proud. Anyway, Aunt Zhou will never get divorced.

After the man exposed his selfishness, Aunt Zhou's life in her husband's family became more and more difficult.

"I once didn't have the heart to run back to my mother's house, but my mother told me hesitantly, let me go home after dinner, and a married girl went back to her mother to teach others how to look at our home.

I was really cold when I looked at my mother, but I finally listened to her and went back to my mother's house.

Actually, I can understand my parents' worries. They are all too proud to lose this man. I'm proud, too. Otherwise, why insist on it for so many years?

Since my mother-in-law knows that I don't have my mother's family as my backer and my man doesn't take refuge in me, how can she give me a good life? When I was pregnant, she obviously had a daughter-in-law, but in winter she asked me to wash clothes and cook for the whole family as a servant.

So is my sister-in-law. As the saying goes, if I have no position at home, no one will take me seriously. My sister-in-law will blame me for any trouble, asking me to carry a pot, wear my new clothes and even give her children toys to play with first.

My man knows how his mother and his sister-in-law treat me, so he can't see or hear, insult me and push me. My old woman has done it, and all my men know it. "

Aunt Zhou said to the past, can't help but shed tears, but she abruptly suppressed back, bite a tooth red eyes continued.

"There is nothing to shed tears. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law did something, and I didn't take it to heart. I don't think it's their fault, but even if someone is wrong, the wrong person is none other than my man.

He didn't connive, didn't start work on me first, took the lead, and deliberately turned a blind eye to let them bully me. Who dares to touch me? It is because he doesn't care about me and doesn't respect me that his family can not respect me! "

Aunt Zhou endured it for many years. She raised her children alone. The famous husband never helped her. He just picked on her after drinking and did some damage to her quiet life.

When the children were young, Aunt Zhou was always passively violently confronted by her husband. She knew that her son stood in front of her and said, "My mother will never lift a finger again." The man looked at his burly son who was taller than himself and was afraid.

After the death of Aunt Zhou's mother-in-law, she finally separated from her brother-in-law's family, but her husband was still timid and malicious. When her son is around, he is very honest. When her son was away, he tried his best to find a drink. After drinking wine, it is naturally unpleasant for Aunt Zhou.

Aunt Zhou has long been used to men, but that doesn't mean she doesn't care. She remembers men's accounts clearly. She is waiting for a suitable opportunity, waiting for the day when men need her.

She no longer advised men not to drink as she did when she was young, but indulged him and let him enjoy it as much as possible.

Last year, another man stole a drink in the middle of the night and fell to the ground in the middle of the night. Before that, there were signs of a stroke and he was taken to the hospital for examination. Sure enough. Thanks to the timely rescue, I saved my life. The sequela is my hemiplegia, and I recovered well after reexamination. Now, I just have the problem of inconvenient movement and inarticulate speech.

Although Aunt Zhou says she doesn't care about men, she always waits on men for a whole year. But men are not grateful. Instead, they always boss Aunt Zhou and take advantage of their illness. They are very angry with Aunt Zhou. Because Aunt Zhou didn't buy him wine, he became more and more agitated, throwing things at random and scolding Aunt Zhou.

On her 57th birthday this year, Aunt Zhou suddenly decided something. She took out a sum of her savings, paid the man's accommodation in a nursing home for one year, and sent him to a nursing home to recuperate and stop serving him.

When the man was taken away, he cursed Aunt Zhou for being too vicious. Aunt Zhou laughed as if she had heard the funniest joke in the world and burst into tears.

"I'm vicious? You're embarrassed to say it. You have been cruel to me all your life. You should have known the result today. Don't blame others, let alone others. If you want to blame yourself,

Some debts are not unpaid, but the time has not yet come. "

Good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. How you treat others, others will treat you in the same way. This is the truth of being a man, and it is also the truth of meeting each other in the future. Husband and wife should understand this truth more.

Many people may take it for granted that just because they are husband and wife, they can be informal, and they don't need to deliberately maintain their feelings or even take care of each other's emotions. After all, the other person is the closest person to you, and should tolerate you 100%, your willfulness, your selfishness and all your petty temper and shortcomings.

In fact, this is all wet. Just because they are husband and wife, two people need to be together for life, and they need mutual understanding and consideration, help and support each other, and be life partners for life. The most taboo is centrifugation.

Divorce is not terrible. The terrible thing is that two people tied together by a marriage document have been together for a lifetime, but their hearts have long been separated from each other and become strangers.

Husband and wife should respect each other. The other party is not your accessory, and marriage is not a shackle that binds each other. Being kind to each other is actually for your own good, because everything in the world is always inseparable from the fate of ups and downs, and everything will eventually come back to life. When it's your turn, if you are not treated well, don't cry foul. Don't forget your mistakes. Everything is just your own fault.