Draw and share the third micro-lesson assignment of "Super Mom Training Camp"-Prohibition Order

the third micro-lesson case study: analyze the restraining order in your own life script and share it. If you have the conditions, you can also analyze your husband's.

Life script is a childhood plan for life, which is strengthened by parents, proved by life experience, and reaches its climax after selection, that is, the subconscious plan for life. There is a saying: unfortunate people are healing their childhood all their lives, and happy people are cured by childhood all their lives. I was a unhappy person in my childhood, at least I still think so. Dad is authoritarian, strong and smelly; My mother is gentle but loves face. For her face, I should sacrifice everything to meet her needs.

In contrast to the 13 prohibitions explained by Teacher Lu in the micro-lesson, my analysis of my situation is as follows:

1. Don't be your sex.)

? My mother is old-fashioned and feudal, and does everything her father says. Mom and dad are the second in the family. Mom has a sister and dad has a brother. Their sense of existence at home is low, which leads to my being ignored from birth. In addition, my grandfather prefers boys to girls. Because my mother has to go to work, four old people in my family are unwilling to take me, which leads to my being dragged into kindergarten six months after I was born. My mother seldom bought me new clothes. I grew up wearing my cousin's small clothes. I was not allowed to dress up, put on my hair or wear nail polish. The first bra was bought by my roommate after I lived in college. The first cosmetic was secretly saved by my bonus after work and bought for myself; When I first menstruated, I panicked and thought I was going to die. I didn't know anything about the life of husband and wife before marriage, and my cousin gave me popular science before marriage. Looking back, it's not easy for me to live healthy today.

2. Don't be a child.)

? My father is an old pedant, and I am an only child. He has placed too much expectation on me, but I was still somewhat happy as a child. Although I always hear my father say, can you grow up? But at this point, it seems that there is no excessive criticism of me, and I still retain some innocence in me.

3. Don't feel.)

I'm very impressed with this. When I was a child, my exam results were not ideal occasionally, or I did something wrong. My father always hit me. The beaten child would definitely cry, and my father would yell at me: Shut up! Why are you crying? When the little girl is happy, my father will also say: What are you happy about? You are still far from it! I have always been afraid of the expression of emotions, and I still look back and forth.

4. Don't think

? Growing up, I have never been able to have my own ideas. Once my opinions are different from those of my parents, I get either "What do you know, kid?" Or "it's none of your business, just study." Even "adults talk, children don't interrupt." "If you talk back again, I'll slap you!" To this day, my dad started shouting: "No matter how much you know, I am also your father." In my parents' home, I have no right to express my opinions, and I must obey them. As an adult, I have my own ideas, but I can't control my parents who are used to tyranny. This is also an important reason why I often have disputes with my parents.

5. Don't be close

? After reading this title, I breathed a sigh of relief, and finally there was one I didn't get. I still remember the feeling of my mother holding me in her arms when I was very young, and my father once held me high above my head when I was young. Although later, due to my parents' strict and bad comments on me, I gradually drifted away, but fortunately, it didn't cause me any serious problems in establishing intimate relationships with people.

6. Don't succeed

Faced with this topic, I have mixed feelings. My parents expect my success, but they are suppressing my success. I have been smart and lovely since I was a child, and I am the best among my peers, whether in culture class or singing and dancing. However, on the one hand, my parents enjoy the praise of others, on the other hand, they don't give me spiritual and financial support when I need further study and improvement. A slight mistake is a combination of fists and feet. I once wrote in my life script: Dad spent 3 years just to be my bad reviewer, which is no exaggeration. I want to learn the piano. The teacher said that my ears are very smart and I have talent. My parents won't buy the piano. I want to learn dance, but my parents don't give me tuition. I'm an only child in a dual-employee family. The skirts for hosting programs on Children's Day on June 1st were all borrowed by temporary teachers. Teacher Lu said: We should understand our parents and forgive them. They have done the best they could at that time. But I don't think so. As an adult, my lack of self-confidence, my inability to express myself, and my desire to back down when things happen are inseparable from my parents' lack of attention to me.

7. Don't have desire (Don't hesitaste.)

? The problem in my family is that I dare not have desire. I can only wear my cousin's small clothes and watch others have jeans. I want them, and my mother will tell me that they are too expensive. But she wore her own new clothes; Dad would say: what is so beautiful? Math is not good, my classmates took me to make up lessons, and I was afraid to tell my mother all night. The result can be imagined. I guess my parents' psychology every day, worrying about which sentence is wrong and another beating and scolding, and worrying about losing my mother's face. When I am an adult, I am reluctant to buy what I like, but I am reluctant to use what I finally have. Is it not suitable for me? Are you not worthy of yourself? Am I incompetent? I gave up my position several times, which was my opportunity for further study and changed hands several times. So far, my parents' words are still the same: a girl, you can't do anything. Really suppressed by my parents, I drained all my passion and desire. I can only be a well-behaved ordinary office worker and be influenced by my parents all my life.

8. Don't exist.)

Being is a big proposition for me. Parents rank second in both families, with older brothers and younger siblings. My mother was brought up by her grandmother from birth until she was 19 years old. She didn't return to her parents' home until she waited for her grandmother's death. My mother told me many times that at the age of 19, she returned to her home and couldn't sleep for several nights because there was no place for her to sleep at home. Dad is in almost the same situation. At the age of 16, he joined the construction with the Corps and left home for one month. The direct consequence of this situation is that the old people on both sides naturally like me because they don't love their children. I was dragged into the nursing class in kindergarten six months after I was born. I grew up hungry in kindergarten, learned to look at the teacher's eyes too early, and lost my innocence too early. No one cares if I am doing well in kindergarten, and no one even asks if I am okay.

9. Don't be healthy

? I have been sick since I was a child. I caught a cold every three days, and my legs hurt every five days. As long as there are infectious diseases, I have never escaped. Pneumonia and mumps are frequent visitors. Today, my body is still not as healthy as other middle-aged people. When I was young, my parents cared more about me physically, sought medical advice and always accompanied me. Over the years, it may be that I always hum and groan, or that they are too busy to take care of themselves and care less and less about me. It's time for me to care about them.

1. Don't be important.)

I think this is similar to not being successful. I feel particularly deeply at work. I am one of the earliest outstanding teachers in our school. However, in the eyes of parents, married women should stay at home honestly and teach their children. Strive less, struggle less, the school sent me to study abroad, and my mother refused to let me go out on the grounds that she would not take care of my children; The school set up a teaching center, and my mother stopped me from going on the grounds that I was too busy to attend to my children. I finally became the ordinary, even a little mediocre person in her eyes, and I was really unwilling.

11. Don't be belong.

? Very happy, I am a person with a strong sense of belonging. When I was at school, I loved my class group. After work, I loved my students and my unit, and I have deep feelings for the unit that has worked for more than ten years. Therefore, even if the work didn't go well, I persisted, and I was still a resilient person.

? Busy life every day, numb work, sometimes I really forget a lot of people and things I once cared about most, no matter how many indelible marks my parents brought to my growth, a study is a new start from my heart. Only by facing up to the problem can there be the possibility of change. Come on, self of 219!