Why do we allow children to make mistakes?

Children’s growth is a process of continuous learning. They often make mistakes of this kind in the process of learning. It is this time of “trial and error” and “correction” that makes children’s Learning ability and living ability can be continuously improved. Therefore, allowing children to "trial and error" is very helpful for their growth.

1. What are the benefits of "trial and error" to children's growth?

1. It allows children to accumulate life experience

When we were in school, the teacher would ask us to prepare a wrong question book, and ask us to collect all the wrong questions, and then continue to If you review carefully, you will not make mistakes in the end. The process of "trial and error" is a process of accumulation of experience. Continuously correct mistakes and leave correct answers in the child's life wrong question book. There will be fewer and fewer setbacks in their growth, and they will become better and better.

2. Can make children strong

Children will undergo various trials and challenges throughout their lives. As long as they can continue to stand up after experiencing setbacks, that's good.

When Chenchen was little, he liked to stack blocks. At first, the blocks he built always fell over. He would cry and scatter the blocks everywhere, and said angrily: "What's wrong with this block?" Things always go wrong." At this time, my father would say from the side: It doesn't matter, son, try it again, I believe you can do it well. "Under the eyes of his father's encouragement, Chenchen picked up the fallen blocks and built them again. Later, he was able to build houses of different shapes according to his own preferences. His temper was no longer so bad.

It can be seen that no one is born omnipotent. Children can only become smarter and stronger through "trial and error"

3. Children can be cultivated. Self-confidence

If a child makes a mistake, parents will criticize loudly, which will make the child timid and afraid to act. On the contrary, if the parents encourage the child to "trial and error", the child will be afraid. They will have no worries and have the courage to explore forward. Just like soldiers fighting in the front, they will worry about gains and losses, and their military morale will be unstable. Therefore, children can be invincible only if they have good logistics. Only then will you become more confident.

Since we know that there are so many benefits to children learning to "try and make mistakes", parents should focus on guiding their children to try more.

2. How to guide children to "trial and error"

1. Encourage children to try boldly

In order to celebrate the Children's Day event, the school has to rehearse a dance program for the children, and other children have signed up to participate. Su Su didn't want to participate. She felt that her skirt was not beautiful, and then she said she was afraid that she would be laughed at by others if she didn't dance well. Her mother encouraged her and said, "Don't worry, baby, the school will wear it for all the dancing children." The same beautiful dance costumes, and no matter how you dance, your mother will like it." After listening to her mother's words, Su Su was willing to participate in the school dance performance.

Parents are afraid of their children. When children make mistakes, they should be encouraged in time to eliminate their worries.

2. When children make mistakes, don’t be too busy blaming them. Guide them to analyze the reasons for their mistakes and avoid doing the wrong thing next time.

When my sister got up in the morning, she had to put on her own clothes. After her mother gave her the clothes, she couldn’t put them on herself even after wearing them for a long time. She was so anxious that she burst into tears. Her mother took the clothes over and told her to put her head there first. She put it on and let her two little hands come out. After she put on her clothes according to the method her mother said, she clapped her hands happily. Her mother also gave her a big thumbs up and said, "My sister is awesome, she can dress herself." , after a period of time, my sister really learned to dress herself.

Therefore, parents must not blame their children when they make mistakes, but give them correct guidance in a timely manner, which will increase their chances of success. .

3. Set a correct example for your children

When eating, Haohao saw that his parents used chopsticks to eat, and he didn’t want to use a spoon.

Mom brought Haohao a pair of kuaizi and gave him a demonstration: "First align the two chopsticks, then hold the chopsticks with your ring finger and middle finger, and adjust it with your index finger." Haohao did what his mother said, and the result was The vegetables still fell to the ground. Mom said: "Don't worry, just try it a few more times and you'll be fine." In the future, when eating, mom would give Haohao a demonstration and encourage him to practice more. Haohao soon learned to use chopsticks.

Correct examples from parents can help children avoid detours and enhance their self-confidence. Of course, just knowing these is not enough. There are many things that parents need to learn and pay attention to when it comes to educating their children.

3. Children's "trial and error", issues that parents need to pay attention to

1. Distinguish clearly which things can be tried and error, and which cannot

Some of them endanger the child's health Regarding health and life safety mistakes, try not to let children try them, such as home appliances, gas stoves, etc., try not to let children touch them, and when crossing the road, do not let children walk by themselves. These can wait until children reach a certain age before teaching them safe practices.

The mistake related to children's growth can be to let the children do it, such as letting the children help with housework, organizing things, etc.

2. Don’t blame your children if they make mistakes

Some children are afraid of being punished if they make mistakes, so they dare not try and make mistakes. Parents should make mental arrangements with them in advance. , it doesn’t matter if you make a mistake, you can do it a few more times until you succeed.

Lulu volunteered to help her mother wash the dishes at night. Her mother couldn't help but she had to agree, but Lulu accidentally dropped the bowl and broke it. Her mother didn't blame her, but asked her to be careful next time.

What her mother did alleviated Lulu’s guilt and gave her the courage to try again.

3. Parents should not be afraid of trouble, and when their children make mistakes, take the trouble to remind them to correct their mistakes

Children generally lack life experience, and sometimes they may not understand when they make mistakes. Knowing that, parents must be patient and tell them the correct method at this time. For example, if a child often wears his shoes backwards, parents can give appropriate reminders.

Charlie Munger, a partner of the stock god Warren Buffett and the author of "Poor Charlie's Manual", once said in a college speech: "There is only one secret to my success, which is to list before doing anything. A list of mistakes, and then when I do things, I try to avoid these points on the list, and I can be infinitely close to success."

So, "trial and error" is a process of self-improvement for children. In this process, they continue to accumulate correct life experience and know where there are reefs and dangerous shoals in the torrent of life, so that they can smoothly reach the other side of success.