Do you know: Ming Lan and Hua Lan were both brought up by their grandmothers? Why do they behave badly and suffer indignities at their in-laws' house?

Ming Lan and Hua Lan were both brought up by the old lady of Shengjia. They are all clever girls, handed down from their grandmothers. They can be housekeepers and know how to calculate.

But after marriage, Hualan suffers indignities everywhere, while Ming Lan can run amok in her husband's family. Why?

I summed up the following three reasons. Let's analyze it together.

First of all, Hua Lan likes being famous too much, but Ming Lan doesn't take other people's comments to heart.

The first episode of "Know No" was hired by Yuan Jia. Before the banquet, Sheng Changfeng gambled with others and almost lost the goose hired by Hualan.

At this time, Hualan was at grandma's house, and the servant came to leave. Hualan asked her to make a decision.

Grandma said, "Today you are the eldest girl of the Sheng family, and tomorrow you will be the second lady of the Yuan family. It's up to you! "

Hua Lan said, "If Zhao Goose is lost, the Sheng family will lose face. Even if the people brought by Yuan Jia win the goose, Yuan Jia has no face, and both families have no face. If the host quarrels with the mistress, it will be a joke! "

It can be seen that what Hualan values most is word of mouth.

After Hua Lan married into her husband's family, her eccentric mother-in-law made her second daughter-in-law, Hua Lan, a housekeeper, and even asked Hua Lan to settle accounts with her dowry.

In order to lose the good reputation of the housekeeper, Hua Lan was so tired that she gave birth to a daughter and didn't get pregnant with a second child.

Finally, under the guidance of my grandmother, I threw the burden of the housekeeper out. Fame is not important, health is the most important, and having a son is the most important.

On the other hand, Ming Lan doesn't care about fame at all.

Before marriage, everyone said that she intended to seduce Qi Heng and wanted to climb higher, which was wishful thinking. Ming Lan doesn't care, she knows that it's not that she's stuck with her little grandfather, but that her little grandfather is stuck with her.

After marriage, Ming Lan didn't even care much about fame. Because if you care about fame, you can't live.

Her stepmother Xiaoqin is a master performer. She ruined Gu's reputation and tried to ruin her reputation.

Unfortunately, Ming Lan doesn't care, because, she knows, pure is self-purification, turbid is self-turbidity, and people will watch it for a long time.

When I went to my uncle's house to persuade Mrs. Zhang, Mrs. Zhang said, "It seems that you are not as arrogant and disrespectful to your elders as rumored outside!"

Ming Lan said with a smile, "The last thing we can control is other people's mouths. People can say what they like, but I believe that we will see people for a long time! "

On another occasion, Hua Lan took Ming Lan by the arm and said, "People outside are talking about you, saying that you don't listen to your elders and don't honor your mother-in-law! If mom is still here, she will move out. "

Ming Lan is also a smile, a face of don't care, thinking about is his two-faced mother-in-law, to promote themselves.

Hua Lan, tell these words to Ming Lan, because she cares about her reputation. Remind Ming Lan of her reputation.

And Ming Lan is just don't care about these reputations, because, don't care about the reputation, so, in the face of small qin spite, she should be embarrassed, but it is also euphemistic and thorough.

This is the second point of Ming Lan's strength.

Second, Hua Lan gave in without entering the door. Ming Lan flinched in the face of a duel.

In the first episode, Yuan Jialai hired him and only sent Dalang Yuan Wenchun and his wife. It was a duel, and Rong Sheng climbed up consciously, so he put up with it, and only the big lady made a scene in the room.

Although the agreement was not made by the agreed person, the Sheng family still unloaded the bride price and gave in to save face.

Then Yuan Jia pushed his luck and encouraged Gu to gamble with Sheng Changfeng, almost winning the employment of Goose.

It is a temptation to bully Shengjia before getting started.

After two temptations, the Sheng family endured it to save face, so only Hua Lan was the mother-in-law. Because, knowing that she is a good-looking person, Sheng Jia is also a good-looking person, even if she knows that her daughter has been wronged in her husband's family, she will not call.

Hua Lan, after getting started, was obviously entrusted with an important task and had the right to be a housekeeper. In fact, Hualan is also difficult to worry about, and she has to take a dowry to fill the deficit.

Even going back to her mother's house is restricted by her mother-in-law. Just arrived at my mother's house, didn't sit hot, and was pushed back.

Hualan was held by her mother-in-law again and again because of her face.

The relationship between people, sometimes, is a game relationship. He is weak if you are strong, and he is strong if you are weak. The way people get along with each other, what it looks like at first, will be easy in the future. Hualan swallowed it at first, but later she had to swallow it. Once she resists, people will say you are wrong.

On the other hand, Ming Lan won the first encounter between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Say the softest words and show the firmest position.

Xiao Qin loves acting and always gives her mother-in-law a place. Then she went to the ancestral temple and knelt down. The bride paid a New Year call to her mother-in-law for the first time and was punished by kneeling in the ancestral hall. When this comes out, it is simply a slap in the face of Xiao Qin!

Finally, Xiao Qin can only be a good person and come to the ancestral hall to meet Ming Lan in person.

Hua Lan was wronged because she gave in again and again, but Ming Lan could run wild because she was not used to Xiao Qin for the first time. On the first day after my marriage, I made myself a person who is not easy to bully. In the future, others will consider bullying her.

People who are not easy to bully are the best. Because, people have more or less, bullying the weak and fearing the hard.

If you want to be comfortable, it is good to have some thorns, so that others will think about it when they want to bully you, and they are afraid of being stabbed in their hands.

When a person has no one to rely on, she naturally grows thorns to protect herself. This is the third point of Ming Lan's strength. He wants to do everything on his own.

Third, Hualan depends on her family and Ming Lan depends on herself.

Hua Lan is the eldest daughter of the Sheng family. She teaches beside the old lady, with the support of her brothers and sisters, and her grandfather who enjoys the ancestral temple. The configuration is quite high. Compared with Ming Lan, an ordinary little girl, it is a world of difference.

Ming Lan, who lost her mother when she was a child, was a decorated father. The only thing she can rely on is grandma, but she knows that it is not easy for grandma to raise her, and she doesn't want to bother her more. So, she has to rely on herself for everything.

Even so, after marriage, she still kept the habit of relying on herself, so that she suspected that she didn't love herself at all. But Ming Lan is just used to relying on himself.

She knows that only by relying on herself and supporting herself can she live a beautiful and comfortable life. Once you rely on other people's ideas, you will be disappointed. Disappointed, it is easy to get angry, fall into sadness, and life will be sad. It's best not to rely on other people's ideas from the beginning.

Hualan was criticized by her husband's family for not having a second child, or grandma invited an old lady to come home for diagnosis, which made her lose the burden of being a housekeeper, then took good care of herself and eventually got pregnant.

If it weren't for grandma's help in planning, Hualan would still be taking care of the family for her husband's family! On the other hand, Ming Lan can stand alone against housewives.

Ming Lan relied on his own wisdom and even turned to Gu for help. When the house was just handed over, Xiao Qin, together with four rooms and five rooms, first sent a group of maids and wives to add chaos to her and put in eyeliner by the way.

After careful investigation, Ming Lan arranged an errand, using the characteristics of human jealousy to induce women to fight, and then gave it all to Zhuangzi.

Also, grandma was poisoned, and one person caught the murderer, Kang Menstruation. In the face of emergencies, the more people who are used to relying on themselves, the less they will lose their foothold.

Because I don't need to rely on anyone, I will calmly think and analyze and find a way to deal with it.

That's why Hualan suffers indignities in her husband's family, while Ming Lan can run amok there. Let's summarize it again.

1. Fame is an empty thing. If you love fame too much, you can easily be led by others.

In the face of others' bullying, you should be brave, but also wise. Learn from Minglan, retreat for progress, speak the softest words and show the firmest position.

It is also important to rely on your own determination and courage. You know, in this world, no one will always be who's backer, so only by becoming your own backer will you never be slaughtered!