Teach you how to find someone.

Before we get down to business, correct a misunderstanding.

Many friends like to take responsibility for themselves after experiencing a failed relationship. "I can't chat", "I'm not handsome" and "I have no money" are all here. I always say that love is equal. If you take a step forward and the other person is still standing still or even retreating, you will stop. No need to kneel.

In fact, many times, their real situation is that they have never met a right person at all.

"The right person" has two elements:

1. I felt it the moment I saw you.

2. Cultivate in the process of communication.

Both are indispensable. Love at first sight is one-sided, and it is impossible for them to completely meet 100%. And the generation of love should be based on "feeling". If a person tells you that he doesn't feel anything when he first comes into contact, and you are wondering whether you can accumulate it slowly in your life, it is really a dream.

This feeling, for men, is the first sight, for women, it takes longer, about ten minutes.

Men's first impression of women, appearance accounts for the vast majority.

Different women value a character more, which can also be considered as temperament. Appearance accounts for a small proportion.

Everyone may have had such confusion:

I had a crush on a girl for a long time, and finally one day I got up the courage to ask for a number and was rejected. These guys say they won't give up and work hard. I said you worked hard, not because of you, but because of her. You haven't even crossed her first threshold, so why bother?

Better, you have to arrive on the 8 th, and people chat with you. Many people here attribute the reason to not being able to chat. I looked, but I still didn't feel it. No matter what you say, you can't interest her. There is no panacea for words. Words can only be effective if they are used on the right person. Used on the wrong person, it is on the steel plate.

No matter how awesome PUA is, he can't handle all women, and he can only handle those women who like him. In the glorious history of PUA, there are countless cases of failure.

Therefore, the first thing to learn in love is to learn to choose and know how to give up. Only choose women who have a good impression on us, and let women who don't call or even hate us fuck off.

Also, don't try to change yourself for a woman, you will be very tired.

Again, how to choose?

The first step: pre-selection.

First of all, according to your demand for the opposite sex, define your goal-what kind of woman do you want to find? Draw a big box first and put all the women you think have feelings in it.

Step 2: Audition.

Simply put, it is to strike up a conversation. You don't have to shoot in the street, but acquaintances, classmates and colleagues around you can. After receiving the number, after several rounds of interaction, those who are indifferent to us and have a bad response will be eliminated or put into the spare tire group. You are very happy.

Let the women who interact with us enter the next round.

The third step: primary election.

Pick out the women you can ask out, choose the best interaction and keep an ambiguous relationship. Not too much, just about three.

The last step: the final choice

Choose the woman who responds best to us and is most willing to invest for us, and develop into a lover relationship.