Why is your toilet your marital quality test report?

If you are dissatisfied with your marriage, you must have heard or said one or two of the following sentences, and many of them have been repeated countless times.

"Can you lift the toilet seat every time you pee? Don't spill it everywhere. "

"Can you clean the toilet? Domestic toilets are dirtier than public toilets. "

"Can you put your hair away? Next time the toilet is blocked, poke it yourself. "

"Can you use the sink every time to dry the water stains?"

"Smelly socks can not throw? Can dirty underwear be washed off? "

"Don't throw cigarette butts into the toilet!"

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These quarrels often occur in toilets that everyone has and must use.

Most of these seemingly insignificant problems will be accompanied by marriage, that is to say, every quarrel is not a trivial matter, but a stubborn habit, a fixed thinking and a firm mode of getting along.

It can also be said that the toilet in every marriage is a test report of the marital quality of every couple, and it is by no means an alarmist.

0 1, a toilet seat, divorced.

Li Yang (pseudonym) is 34 years old and her husband is 37 years old. She has been married for 4 years.

The fuse that triggered the divorce war between Li Yang and her husband was a toilet seat, which made people feel incredible and impressive.

"Every time you go to the toilet, raise your hand and lift the toilet seat. How hard can it be? Why do you have to pee everywhere every time? How do others use it? Is it disgusting? Is there quality? " Li Yang aggressively questioned her husband.

"Why can't you lift the toilet seat every time you go to the toilet? If you can't do it yourself, please ask someone else. Do you have quality? Joke! " Husband also fought back without weakness.

In the fierce language collision, the two men had physical conflicts and evolved into a domestic violence with firm zero tolerance in marriage.

When the mediator asked if their marriage could be saved if the toilet seat was removed, or the toilet was replaced with a squatting toilet, or even the house was replaced with a bathroom, both of them refused.

Then, the two poured out more grievances.

Li Yang denounced her husband's position deviation in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, always helping her mother-in-law drive her out of the house, and insulted her on the grounds that her mother-in-law bought the wedding room, making her have to rent a house before buying a house. So far, she has been carrying her husband's loan of 600 thousand, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is in full swing.

The husband accused Li Yang of being unreasonable. He often goes to the top of the class, insinuates and provokes contradictions because of a joke or careless remark made by his mother-in-law. After four years of marriage, he never went to visit his parents-in-law, let alone give a birthday greeting to the elderly and take care of them when they are sick.

In addition to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what makes them more difficult to let go is the problem of having children.

Originally, they got married at an older age and later, and having children early was their common goal. But after four years of marriage, neither of them mentioned childbearing again.

"I discussed with her and asked her to be born as soon as possible, but she opened her mouth and asked, where is the money? Who will take care of these children? And stressed that their work is in a critical period of rising. She gave birth to a child all her life and shut everything down. After giving birth to the baby, her figure was out of shape and her physical condition plummeted. Asked me how to compensate her for her loss. How can I compensate? Which woman doesn't have children, how can she be so melodramatic? " It is the husband's incomprehension.

"Let me have a baby. All follow-up questions will not be arranged. I don't do much housework, I can't afford a babysitter and I don't want to make more money. What should I do if I have a baby? Don't let me lose my job and be a housewife, and then live on the face of him and her mother-in-law? Unless I die! From the age of 30 to 34, I really don't know if I can be a mother again in this life. " It's Li Yang's grievance.

"Two years ago, I had the opportunity to be promoted to the provincial capital city. I think this is a good thing. I discussed it with her, but she sarcastically said that I was naturally happy when I got promoted, and if I moved with her, she might lose her job. I'm afraid I'll look at my face without income all my life. It's rude. I said that my parents don't care, let me arrange my parents to transfer, so I have to give up. " Husband spits out Li Yang's ruthlessness.

"He always thinks only of himself. He patted his ass and left, putting the burden of raising a family and taking care of the elderly on my shoulders. If he finds another mistress outside, I am not a fool. " It's Li Yang's consideration.

Therefore, the seemingly small toilet seat problem reflects two immature adults who are tit-for-tat in marriage and don't know what dedication, love and gratitude are.

02. Different toilet habits lead to separation.

Hongyi (pseudonym) is 35 years old, her husband is 38 years old, and she has been married for 8 years.

The toilet problem solved the fig leaf of Hongyi's separation from her husband.

Colleagues take their children to Hongyi's house to play, and the children have to go to the toilet. Because of the use of the guest guard, colleagues immediately took the children to the master bathroom.

Who knows, as soon as I opened the door of the master bedroom, a strange smell came to my face and walked into the toilet. The urine was stained and dirty, and my colleague immediately returned it.

Seeing her colleagues' stunned expressions, Hongyi, who has always been famous for her love of cleanliness, told the truth: her husband lives in the master bedroom and she doesn't care about the hygiene there.

Hongyi admits that she and her husband have great differences in toilet habits.

The husband is very frugal, and the water for washing hands, face, bath, dishes and vegetables should be divided into two buckets to flush the toilet.

Therefore, the toilet at home is always cleaned and soon becomes dirty, and foreign objects often float in the water storage tank of the toilet.

Domestic toilets are often dirtier than public toilets, and they are often blocked. You can pay the water fee every time you poke the toilet.

After moving to a new home and having two toilets, Hongyi immediately used the toilets separately from her husband, which can be described as out of sight, out of mind.

"Did you have a good time after the toilet was divided?" Colleagues asked.

"What's good? It didn't take long for us to separate. It's been two years, and he's already seeing someone outside." I also cried.

In addition to the toilet problem, it is also a red spit, and she and her husband really can't get along.

Husband saves money, uses napkins for a meal, and will be nagged if he uses too much;

No matter how bad the food at home is, it has been heated several times. No matter whether it is healthy or not, you must eat the leftovers before making new ones.

I go back to my husband's house for the New Year every year. I always cook a meal every three days and pack all the leftovers home.

Buy new clothes every year and never throw away old clothes;

Children's toys are always updated, old and broken, and forced to keep them;

I have been buying new shoes, and I don't lose my old ones. ...

After three or four years of marriage, their family has been in a mess and there is no place to stand on the ground.

When moving to a new home, these old things that are no longer needed can't fit in a car.

However, Hongyi has always adhered to the belief of parting, and minimalism is her ideal. She doesn't want to waste precious time, money and space on rubbish.

To put it simply, she and her husband have carried out all-round division and AA system.

So this family has become what it is today. The red bedroom and most public areas are clean and simple, while my husband's bedroom is full of beautiful things, like an earthen museum, which is messy.

"There is a mouse hole at home, which will be filled in by him. Open the cupboard and the clothes will fall like rain. " This is Hony's satire on her husband.

"Throw away useless things, is ungrateful. Just like children are old, old people are useless and the economy is independent. It is the same to want a divorce. " It's my husband's counterattack.

Therefore, the small habit of using the toilet reflects the principle of "self-righteousness and independence" of Hongyi and her husband, and there is no idea of appreciation and tolerance.

03, toilet items placed, suggesting that the status of husband and wife is unequal.

Wang Ping (pseudonym) is 4 1 year old, her husband is 42 years old, and her marriage age is 17.

Wang Ping's toilet is unique in that at first glance, it doesn't look like a woman is using it at all.

Because in her toilet, there is no cosmetics for women on the countertop, only simple scrubbing utensils, her husband's razor and a set of men's toiletries.

"I also use cosmetics, but my things are all outside, which often interferes with my husband's washing. Bottles and cans are easily knocked down. He was also angry about it and fell twice, so I put them away and put them in the cupboard. " Wang Ping explained.

And the cosmetics she said are just a bottle of facial cleanser and a moisturizer.

Wang Ping said frankly that shortly after marriage, she resigned because of poor performance and pregnancy. Later, because of the second child, the old man became ill and she became a housewife. Because she didn't earn a penny, her position at home naturally plummeted.

"You don't go out, what makeup do you wear?"

"You have no temperament, what jewelry are you wearing?"

"You are a housewife, carrying a bag of 10 thousand yuan, who will think it is true?"

"In addition to taking care of children and doing housework, what can you do? Have you earned a penny for your family for so many years? "

In the bombardment of her husband's mantra, Wang Ping said with difficulty that he was extremely wronged and could not find a breakthrough.

"If I spend more than ten years doing housework and bringing children to earn money, I wonder if I will earn less than my husband? Even the position of the toilet can't be occupied? " Cried Wang Ping.

Therefore, the insignificant use of toilet space reflects the inequality of family status between Wang Ping and her husband. They don't know what respect and understanding are.

Write at the end:

Although the toilet is small, it is a must for every family; Although going to the toilet is small, it is necessary for everyone.

The habits and quarrels in the toilet are mainly trivial matters, which embodies the mystery of the host's treatment of people in marriage.

A good marriage must be:

You have grievances, I have comfort;

I am grateful that you have paid;

You have sacrifice, I have compensation. ...

Unfortunately, an unhappy marriage will indulge in trivial matters in the toilet until it collapses.

I hope the above words can encourage my readers.