Chat starters are ten times more effective.

Let us first share with you a few negative cases:

1. Find a way to talk when you have nothing to say

"HI, are you on your lunch break?"

"Well, yes"

"What time do you start work in the afternoon?"

"2 o'clock"

"Then you have a long lunch break "

"We are from 11:30 to 1:30"

"Aren't you sleepy at noon?"

"Hmm" "Oh, that's it Ah" "I don't take a nap at noon"

Inner OS: It's so long-winded, is there nothing else to talk about＋﹏＋

"Then you are always sleepy in the afternoon, right? ”

“I have to take a nap every day”

“Sleepy, now I’m sleepy.”

Inner OS: I wasn’t sleepy at first, so I’m chatting with you I'm sleepyˋ0ˊ

After reading the above conversation, I almost feel embarrassed. The topic of boys has always stayed at lunch break. Believe me, girls will not be interested at all when they see this kind of unnutritious question. Even if girls are interested in boys, their chats are awkward. Otherwise she will definitely think that you are a boring person.

2. The type with a strong sense of need

"Hello, what are you doing?"

"Go to work"

" Stop it, come and play with me"

"..."

(Inner OS: Am I familiar with him? This person is so strange⊙﹏⊙ ∥)

"Then I want to play with you. I want to know if you have fun."

"What do you mean?"

"It looks pretty good. It's fun"

"Maybe I won't know until I play with you"

"You are a poisonous person, right?"

"I'll block you and I won't send you away"

This kind of boy... The girl didn't say you were acting like a gangster, which is already very polite. When chatting with a new girl, it is taboo to expose a strong sense of need. Even if it is just a joke, it will make the girl feel that your purpose of approaching her is too strong. In her eyes, you are a frivolous and rude guy.

3. "Household check" type

"Hello, what do you do?"

"I work in the media industry"

"Oh how old are you"

"I am 24 years old"

"Where are you from?"

"I am from Beijing"

(Inner OS: Is this guy here to check household registration?)

"Oh"

"How tall are you?"

"I...is not as tall as you

"

(Inner OS: Hehehehehehehehehehe)

"Haha"

"Are you single?"

"Yeah"

(Inner OS: None of your business (-__-))

"Let me tell you a secret, I am single too"

"Uh... okay"

(Inner OS: Can this still be considered a secret?)

Unless you are Daniel Wu, when a girl first meets you, she actually doesn’t want to reveal too much information about herself to you. Finally, asking the girl if she was single also exposed her sense of need. Please, I’m not familiar with you, so don’t ask too many questions!

So what kind of chat opening is not awkward and easy for girls to reply to?

1. Say some witty words to start the conversation

Using more witty words can attract a girl’s attention and at least make her feel that you are a little different from others.

"My name is Xiaobai, may I ask her her name"

"My name is Guyu"

"Oh, nice to meet me"

"Hahaha"

Starting with such a witticism can arouse the girl's emotions and facilitate the subsequent chat.

Let's look at another one:

"Catch a little cutie alive"

"Hehe"

"Good evening, cutie." "

"Haha, what are you doing?"

"Why are you pinching me?"

"I'm just bored and playing with my phone."

"Then You won’t be bored if you chat with me.”

No girl would hate being called “cutie” or “fairy”. Opening with such a title will be more friendly and will not make girls think, You are a boring person.

Or:

"Speak first if you are beautiful"

"Then... withdraw quickly"

"WeChat official said, if you tell the truth, don't withdraw it"

"Okay, you are the most beautiful, you are the most beautiful"

"Oh, now you start to praise me"

The three opening methods listed above keep our chat with girls in a happy atmosphere with just the right amount of pity. In this way, girls will not think that you are a very purposeful person. On the contrary, she will think that you are an interesting person.

2. Opening with pictures or emoticons

It is also a good way to start a chat with pictures or emoticons. Let me give you a few examples:

Picture + Opening with text is a good way to start a chat. This boy is very smart. He attracts the girl's attention through small animals, and also shows the girl his caring side, which is a proper bonus operation.

Let’s look at the next one:

Start the conversation with the girl through the photo of “eating in a high-end restaurant”, and then reveal in a timely manner that she can cook. Information not only demonstrates one's life skills, increases a girl's understanding of herself, but also arouses her curiosity.

In fact, sometimes we can start a conversation just through a photo. The key is what kind of information this photo reflects.

Posting photos of "getting together with friends" can reflect your social value; posting photos of "film festivals or traveling" can reflect your own taste in life. The key is that the photo you send can show your personal value, attract girls, make girls want to chat with you, and start a conversation.

It is also a good way to start with emoticons:

Many boys are shy. When they first add girls on WeChat, they really don’t know what to say. You know, you can also try opening with funny expressions, which can put the chat into a relaxed atmosphere.

Opening with an expression is a great way to break the awkwardness. The advantage of emoticons is that they are concise, clear and uncomplicated, have a strong visual sense and can express your emotions well.

Compared with interviews, pure text chats on social software are incomplete in terms of emotional expression. Fortunately, using expressions, we have made up for this shortcoming to a certain extent.

Although it cannot express our emotions completely accurately, it makes our communication more humane and helps us have a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere in future chats.

The three types we just gave you examples, picture/picture text/expression opening remarks, they have some very good similarities:

1. Its purpose is weak , it will not make girls think that you are a straight man with low emotional intelligence.

2. Provide conversation materials and increase the sense of connection.

3. Reflect the value of life.

Finally, let me give you a tip to grasp the right time to chat:

① It is best to chat with a girl around 8pm-12pm. During this time, girls usually have just finished their busy day and returned home. Moreover, people are more emotional at night and are willing to express their feelings, so it will be easier for you to understand each other.

② Identify girls’ busy signals. If she is at a party or busy with other things when you ask her, be sure to learn to retreat. Enough may not be a plus, but at least it won't be a minus.

At the beginning of a relationship, boys always want girls to fall in love with them quickly. But it takes time for girls to face a relationship, and they also need to be respected. Everyone likes to be friends with sincere, cultured, and interesting people. When you are good enough, you don't have to go out of your way to please others.