Is it okay to meet guests in pajamas?

Respect is not only expressed in words, but also in clothing.

You are a celebrity, and you usually look slovenly. But your friend dies and you go to a public memorial. If you put on a suit and tie, your friends who usually see you slovenly will only treat you as if they see you. There will be respect and no ridicule, because when you respect the deceased, it also means that you respect yourself.

For another example, you have friends coming to your house.

If it is an old friend, a friend you know too well, you can first express your apology and ask the other person to understand that you are dressed casually, so you wear pajamas to chat with him. He also puts a pair of feet on the sofa and talks nonsense to you.

But how can you do this to an unfamiliar friend?

If you still do this and say hello in your pajamas, it shows two things:

First, you are a big deal and do not take him seriously.

Second, you are careless and unseemly.

You don’t respect him and you don’t respect yourself.

"Wearing clothes" and "wearing perfume"

Now, I want to go back to the issue of clothing when applying for a job that I discussed in "Lao Lin's Dream of Triumph".

A middle-aged man, a senior worker, does not need to wear a new suit, new leather shoes, or a new haircut during a job interview, lest others think you are young or that you are eager to ask for help. Take this position.

This is what I said before, which means "If you speak of adults, you will despise them."

At that time, I only mentioned men’s job hunting, but now I want to talk about women’s job hunting.

Did you know that Westerners say that applying perfume is not done by "applying" or "spraying" or "smearing"? What do they use?

They use the word "wear" and say "wear perfume".

In Western society. Perfume is a kind of "wearing".

When a woman applies for a job or goes to work, in addition to wearing decent clothes, she also has to "wear" perfume and "wear" jewelry.

But the perfume cannot be strong, the jewelry cannot be dangling, and the clothes cannot be revealing or "not allowed to bend down to pick things up."

Some offices even prohibit women from wearing trousers to work except on weekends.

The body language of women's clothing is obviously different from that of men.

When a woman applies for a job, whether she is a "rookie" or an "experienced", she can wear brand new clothes, but she must wear appropriate jewelry and wear a little perfume.

What is that? That's status, that's polite.

Women are just different from men.

"A man will die for his bosom friend, and a woman will look good for herself." A man can wear 70% new clothes to show that he is confident and does not need to deliberately "dress himself up" just to meet you. Women are different. A woman wants to let people know that she has dressed up to show that she is confident and that she has requirements for her own beauty. It also shows that she respects "other people's eyes".

Therefore, it is true that "coarse clothes and messy hair do not hide the beauty of the country", but women who apply light makeup and lightly sweep their eyebrows are more charming.

Do you understand?

"I am most afraid of asking the waiter what desserts are available when I go to a Western restaurant." I once said to an American friend, "because I often don't understand."

He Yixiao: "Don't talk about you, we are also afraid, and we often don't understand, so we have to guess."

Why is this?

Because the waiter reported the same names of desserts probably 300 days out of the 356 days a year. By the end of the report, those names had become a lump in his heart, so he kept telling them the same names from beginning to end. No punctuation was added, all of them were reported in one breath.

You really didn’t understand it, but he thought you did, because he had already memorized it by heart.

It is a problem of many people that they understand but others do not understand.

Speak sincerely

Someone tells a joke, and as soon as he starts to say a few words, he laughs so hard that he can't catch his breath.

Someone said something tragic, but without saying a few words, he cried first, whimpering and unable to continue.

When someone writes to you, he writes your address with no ambiguity, but when he writes his own address, he writes it in a flurry of words, making it difficult for you to recognize it.

A waiter in a restaurant sang happy birthday to you, but while singing, he looked at the ceiling and sang weakly.

There was a flight attendant who gave a demonstration on "wearing a life jacket", but it was like Tai Chi, and it was not done well. It disappeared halfway through the action.

What are the reasons?

It is because his "internal feelings" cannot be "expressed", his "words cannot convey the meaning", and because he does it too often and says too often that he has no feelings.

Please don't be too cheesy

We often say that people are "reasonable and confident", and we also describe people as "literary and sentimental". "Principle" and "qi", "literary" and "emotion" must be presented at the same time.

The problem is that many people are clearly reasonable and affectionate, but they cannot synchronize with his language.

The first point is that he has too much emotion, but he keeps venting it without waiting for the other person's emotions to catch up.

For example, when we listen to someone reciting poetry, we feel goosebumps all over our body. Why? Because you feel numb.

But if you ask the reciter, does he feel numb?

He shook his head.

Understanding this, when you describe your genius children, or genius kittens or puppies, you must know that you understand the situation far better than the other person, and you want him to feel the same way. , it must be done slowly so as not to overwhelm him.

When you want to sell something to others, don’t “flow out” a long string of words that have been said thousands of times. Instead, look at the other person and see how he enters the previous sentence. After that, he said the next sentence.

Speak in a dramatic way

If you are a speaker or an actor in a stage play, you need to be even more careful.

Even if you talk about that topic and perform that scene hundreds of times, you still have to keep telling yourself in your heart: "These people in the audience are listening to me for the first time. This is my The nth time is indeed their first time."

So, you "get into love" and "get into drama". Let the emotion come together with every word you speak.

So, you moved them and made them scream, you succeeded!