65-year-old mother-in-law's "The Disaster of the New Year": 15 people's rice, 44 bowls, just thinking about it will make you tired. What should I do?

My mother-in-law's three sons have family gatherings of 14 people on holidays. What a huge crowd this is.

If you eat, you should set two big tables. A group of children are running around, throwing bowls and chopsticks. That's common. As long as we go home, my mother-in-law has been busy since morning.

Even so, when it comes to eating, we can still be divided into two groups. Six children and I are the first group. Why am I separated from the children? Because among these adults, I am the only one who is as greedy as children.

The remaining six adults will not eat until we finish eating. And my mother-in-law is always busy in the kitchen.

After eating, I ran wildly with a group of children. It was not until six adults had finished eating that my mother-in-law sat down to have a bite of rice. Most of the time, the food is cold.

Sometimes, she will start tidying up while eating.

At this time, eldest brother and second brother have taken their children home to rest. My family of three will stay at home with my in-laws for a while because they live in the city.

My mother-in-law and I counted the dishes for dinner, and there were actually 37. My mother-in-law brushed all these by herself, and she kept me out of it. She thinks that the daughter-in-law should not stretch out her hand to work once she comes home.

I sometimes ask my mother-in-law, is she particularly tired and annoying us? Such a large group of people, you have to serve them when they come, and you have to clean up when they leave.

She said: "Tired is tired. Tired, I also like to have more children. This is called children's sun fu, you don't understand. Being old is a child, and being cold and clear is not a blessing. "

My mother-in-law and I are completely different people. She likes to have many children and grandchildren, and is not afraid of trouble. Even with sons and grandchildren, she always looks up to nine children. She also raised my son.

I'm lazy by nature and I'm determined not to have a second child. I really think one child is messy enough. Like my mother-in-law, with nine children, I will go crazy.

In the countryside, there is my mother-in-law, who likes her children and grandchildren, and some who are as tired and bored as me.

One of my mother-in-law's sisters, in my mother-in-law's words, was a flower when they were young. I have seen the old man, but I really don't think she is as good-looking as my mother-in-law. But my mother-in-law said that at that time, young people from all over the country liked her.

That mother-in-law is the same age as my mother-in-law, 65 years old. As soon as the Spring Festival comes, she will complain to my mother-in-law. She said a very special sentence: "This is not a Chinese New Year, but a disaster. We have been trying to save money for a year. As soon as the Spring Festival arrives, we will buy fish and meat and give our children lucky money. There's not much left. I want to cook for 15 people and brush 44 dishes. I am tired when I think about it. "

Every time I talk about my mother-in-law, she gave birth to three sons, and such a large group of grandchildren are really noisy. Every time my mother-in-law was very dissatisfied, she said, "The flower I told you about has three sons and one more grandson than me. Just because you don't want to be born, you have held me back. "

My mother-in-law is tired and happy here, while others are tired and miserable there.

Two days ago, my mother-in-law called me and said, "None of my three sons will go home for the New Year this year. A flower suffers at home. "

A flower said to her mother-in-law, "People come back to wait on me. They just want money and food. Last year, my husband smashed the table and asked my sons to bring things and my daughter-in-law to help me cook. By the Spring Festival this year, people said they were busy and would not come back. "

My mother-in-law said that a flower was busy in the kitchen for six hours like my mother-in-law during the Spring Festival last year. At noon, my son, daughter-in-law and grandson saw the food on the table and ate it without waiting for a flower.

In fact, it was the same in previous years. However, a flower complains to his wife every year, and her wife is completely bored. Seeing the children being so unruly this year, I directly smashed the table.

The daughter-in-law is unhappy, the son is silent, and the grandson is scared to cry.

The old man asked his sons to buy them Spring Festival presents in the future. Daughters-in-law all go to the kitchen to help her mother-in-law cook, and grandchildren don't give lucky money.

Then this Spring Festival, the three sons said they were too busy to go home for the New Year. Gifts have been bought and will be taken back by fellow villagers.

This flower cried and said to her mother-in-law, "Is this what I want?" ? This is the daughter-in-law uprising. People don't come back and don't want to help me cook in the kitchen. They all feel that since they don't give their children lucky money, there is no need to let them go back.

I've been waiting on them for years, causing them trouble, and that's what they do. When I get old, I can't point at them. Or your kannika nimtragol figured it out, you don't force people to have children, so what's the use of having so many children. "

My mother-in-law continued to talk about what she prepared for the New Year, and complained to me that pork was too expensive and told me not to buy beef for the New Year. She can't chew it.

I also prepared Chinese New Year gifts and food for my mother-in-law. Sometimes I really admire women like my mother-in-law. She is the kind of person who really loves her children and grandchildren and never tires of seeing them. She said, "When I'm in a bad mood, I'll hug my child and everything will be fine."

She is looking forward to the Spring Festival reunion with this big family. Daughters-in-law chattered in the room, children were noisy outside, she was cooking in the kitchen, and her three sons were chatting with her. My father-in-law went out to buy something she forgot to buy again. This may be the happiness she wants.

But what if the old man doesn't want such "happiness"?

If the old man is willing, his daughters-in-law will help in the kitchen. If the old man wants, his sons can take more things home so that they can show off. The old man has worked hard for a year, and he can't save a few money, nor can he give his children a lot of lucky money.

What should I do as a child? What if my mother-in-law has such a request?

In the Spring Festival, the ideal state is to look after all the children alone, and then the adults cook together. After all, many hands make light work, and you won't be too tired.

If the mother-in-law asks our daughter-in-law to help in the kitchen, we will all go. We won't go because my mother-in-law prefers to stay in the kitchen with her sons.

In fact, in the final analysis, Chinese New Year still depends on men to help cook.

I have studied the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law many times. I find that men play a great role. For example, my husband will always look at my mother-in-law during the Chinese New Year. My mother-in-law cooks and he follows. My mother-in-law serves and he follows. Anyway, my mother-in-law's three brothers are working around.

It was their hard-won reunion in a year, and they didn't want to be disturbed by our daughter-in-law.

We never feel like outsiders. After all, they are working and we are chatting. We reached some kind of agreement tacitly. My mother-in-law cooks, her sons help, we chat and give them time alone.

Once a family is balanced to a certain extent, it is easy to be harmonious.

I often think about the New Year at home, which should be festive, but there are too many grievances. But what if the old man lets his son help in the kitchen instead of his daughter-in-law?

Since the old man feels tired and resentful, why don't her husband and son help? Why do you have to ask your daughter-in-law for help?

In fact, this is the root of all the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is also the root of too many daughter-in-law's reluctance to go back to her mother-in-law's house for the New Year.

In-laws are considerate of their son's fatigue for one year, and forget that their daughter-in-law is also tired for one year. My in-laws feel that my daughter-in-law should work more, and my daughter-in-law feels that she should treat each other warmly if she doesn't come back several times a year.

Men refused to reach out and understand each other, so there was such a "disaster-making" New Year.

It's really not easy for our parents to support us hard. Don't be a baiwenhang.

What I don't understand most is the three sons of a florist. Don't they go back to their parents' home for the Spring Festival? Shouldn't they buy presents for their parents and honor them?

Since the mother is so tired and the daughters-in-law don't want to work, shouldn't the son help her?

Parents are already dissatisfied. As a son, shouldn't you coordinate this matter and discuss with your wife how to celebrate the New Year harmoniously? After all, not going home for the New Year is a blow to the elderly.

However, they acquiesced in their mother's fatigue and their wife's uprising. They are in a state of complete inaction.

No matter whether we go home for the New Year or not, no matter who is sad, it has nothing to do with us. We are just looking for our most comfortable lifestyle.

My mother-in-law said, "My three sons will be laughed at if they don't go home for the New Year. A flower always says that daughters-in-law are not authentic. I think her three sons are really unfilial. The daughter-in-law is unwilling to help, and the son has no hands or feet? "

In this matter, it is better to condemn men's inaction in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law than to condemn women's unkindness and immorality.