What good friends can't say.

First, if you are happy, there will always be ups and downs in life, and everyone's mood will change with different life situations. We lose our temper easily when we are in adversity, and we will be happy when we are lucky. This is human nature. Many times, happy events in life are not necessarily good things. Happy events are the easiest to hide evil. If you are not careful, you will neglect some details, which is likely to lead to failure. Moreover, when a person is successful, it is easy to be complacent, feel great and complacent about his achievements. Many people will brag and show off in front of their friends, which has laid a hidden danger for the disaster. The more ostentatious people are, the easier it is to put their foot in their mouth, which is the result of vanity. While showing off, I actually let my friends make background boards to set myself off, and others will definitely resent me. Just being our enemy may even do something to attack us. Therefore, it is easy for us to lose our manners when we are happy. We may be extremely happy or extremely sad. We should talk as little as possible. Second, the angry saying goes: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as ever." Friends talk about friendship, contacts look at resources. The standard to measure the relationship between friends is not how much interest can be exchanged, but how much sincerity can be made. What is friendship between friends? As the saying goes: "wine is less intimate, but half a sentence is more." Is to see if you can understand each other and tolerate each other. To make friends is not to value his advantages, but to tolerate each other's shortcomings. But even if the friendship between friends is deep, this tolerance and forbearance is not endless. Many people will take their anger out on their friends when they encounter unsatisfactory things in life and have nowhere to vent. Don't say anything when you are angry, say something that hurts your friends. If once or twice, friends will understand him and comfort him, but after a long time, no one will tolerate a person who hurts friendship. People who say angry words to their friends are not only very rude, but also selfish. If you just say something harmful to yourself, you will feel very happy, but you won't care about your friends' feelings. A really strong person should be able to bear the burden of humiliation and turn pain into strength, which is the performance of maturity. So when you are angry, talk as little as possible, don't lose friends, or even turn friends into enemies, so we must pay attention to it. When a person can succeed in making a fortune, it is of course his own luck, but it shows that he is very capable. Many people can only experience prosperity, but they can't experience adversity. Once you encounter some setbacks and hardships, you don't know how to deal with them, and even some people will be disheartened in the face of difficulties and choose to retreat. If life is like this, there is no bright future. Many people complain when they fail. Blame the failure on your bad luck, or put the blame on people around you. In fact, this is sad words, losing the usual calm and self-confidence, so what you say will be abnormal. A person who chooses to escape when something happens cannot shoulder the heavy responsibility. Even if you can put the blame on your friends, it won't affect your progress. This kind of prevarication is just self-consolation, but it is actually self-deception. The reason why we feel sad and painful when we fail is because our ability is not enough, our strength can't support our ambitions, and our ability can't control our goals. Saying something sad at this time will only make us more and more discouraged and slowly sink. In the end, nothing can be done, and life will become more and more unlucky. Therefore, when you are sad, talk as little as possible. If you fail, you can calm down and learn, so that you can make continuous progress. Zeng Guofan is a representative of successful people in the eyes of the world. A subordinate asked him the way to success. Zeng Guofan replied: "Nothing can be said and nothing can be done." If a person wants to succeed, he can only do things and speak. It's not that you can speak eloquently, but that you really can speak, that is, you never say the wrong thing. Know what to say and what not to say, so as to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages and avoid disasters. What a good friend can't say 2 (1) Although I don't speak well, I do it for your good friend. The most important thing is to be careful not to violate each other's psychological boundaries. Never criticize, judge or even try to change others' thoughts and behaviors under the banner of being good for others. Imagine that your parents' discipline will make you feel uncomfortable and bored, let alone friends. I speak straight, don't be angry. Why do you say this when you realize that the other person may be angry? The bond of friendship is often fragile and can't stand the wind and rain. Besides, the most difficult thing between people is mutual understanding. You may not really know each other's situation, and it is even harder for them to understand your pains. You are short/ugly/fat ... Everyone's physical characteristics are an integral part of self-knowledge, the lowest and most secret part of human psychology, so don't touch them at will. Those physical characteristics that cannot be changed, such as height and defects, are even more taboo. I have already said it, so you have to listen. Once you say this to your friend, what do you think the other person will think and how grateful you will be? No, most people's first reaction is: Monday morning quarterback can be anyone. If you were so sure, why didn't you stop me in the first place? Now look at my joke. Especially when others encounter major failures, this sentence will be understood as ridicule. (5) What's the use of reading? Look who graduated from junior high school and made a lot of money as a boss. What's the use of being xxx? You see who succeeded without doing it (xxx). This sentence is listed as one of the most boring sentences. First of all, this sentence exposes a person's IQ and can't tell the difference between probability and special case. Secondly, this sentence exposed his emotional intelligence and denied a person's efforts in front of him. Are you challenging me? (6) I think you are a xx person. Xx here is just some psychological quality, such as self-distrust, introversion and inferiority. Don't think that you can use this sentence to judge and oppress others by learning some psychological knowledge. Indeed, this sentence can gain the psychological advantage of chatting in appropriate occasions, but more often, it will only cause boredom to others. No one likes to be judged by others, especially about the deepest secrets. Conclusion: The above six sentences often offend others' psychological boundaries and cause discomfort and disgust. Give others a kind of "why is your emotional intelligence so low?" No matter how good your relationship is, you'd better not say these words. What a good friend can't say is 3 1 I already said that. Do you have to listen? Once you say this to your friend, how do you think the other person will think and thank you? No, most people's first reaction is: Monday morning quarterback can be anyone. If you were so sure, why didn't you stop me in the first place? Now look at my joke. Especially when others encounter major failures, this sentence will be understood as ridicule. What you have to do is actually to comfort your friends and help them make suggestions. This is the real best friend. Tell a friend's secret past in public. In fact, everyone has their own stories, some of which are brilliant and will make us proud. Then, we can tell our friends more about such things. Similarly, we will vigorously promote the glorious past of our friends. However, in everyone's mind, there are also some unbearable memories, some, and even some of their own shame. Therefore, when we know that our friends have had such ulterior stories, we should all know how to save face for our friends. Even if the relationship is very good, don't think that our friends won't care. We must never reveal these embarrassing secrets of our friends in public, otherwise, we may put our friends in an embarrassing position. Some friends can't stand such humiliation and even get angry in public. A fight between brothers, perhaps, will come to an end. It's wrong to tell a friend directly that it's wrong. This is a good medicine that should not be used. Bitter taste is good for disease, and advice at the most unpleasant time is good for action. As the saying goes, it is very good, but it is not. In real life, people don't like suffering, and they don't like suffering. When you hear something unpleasant, you can't get into your heart. There are doorways for friends to treat people. You should choose your way of speaking. Too direct is actually very destructive. From the standpoint of persuasion, don't directly say wrong, wrong or wrong. We should tell the best solution or treatment method first, and then compare it, so that friends can learn a good lesson from it and accept it with an open mind. On the contrary, a blunt attitude will make the other party disgusted and unacceptable. 4 complaining that parents have a hard time, but parents are all good for their children. The sign of maturity is that it is not easy to understand parents. A drop of kindness is exchanged for a clear spring, not to mention that there is no greater kindness in the world than that of parents. Complaining about your parents in front of your friends will make them think that you are immature and even unfilial. And people who are unfilial to their parents can't be kind to their friends. If you want to keep a good image in front of your friends, remember, don't say these words in front of your friends, even if your relationship is good!