"Do things seriously" and "If you are serious, you will lose"

"Do things seriously!" This is what we often hear and be heard when we grow up. Parents, teachers, bosses and bosses should "educate" us in this way. Yes, a serious attitude is indeed an indispensable attitude, or a quality. Especially in school, both parents and teachers will ask their children to "listen carefully in class", "study hard after class" and "do their homework carefully". So many children grow up seriously all the way, go to college seriously, graduate from college seriously, and move towards a colorful real society seriously.

So I found a different point of view and realized an almost subversive point of view: "if you are serious, you will lose." So they are confused: some continue to adhere to the serious attitude towards everything, and as a result, they are still struggling there, leaving themselves in a dilemma; Others change their world outlook and outlook on life, so they are not serious about anything, and they start to muddle along and wait for death. With an unknown address, nothing can be implemented. When the truth comes out, they will say, "whoever is serious will lose."

What the hell is going on here? Are we serious or not? What do we think of when we mention the word serious? Careful, diligent, persistent, not afraid of difficulties, not afraid of setbacks ... these are almost similar words to explain it. Explained from the academic terms of concern, seriousness means that individuals focus on a certain thing, so as to understand it more deeply and thoroughly, so as to achieve their own goals and then divert their attention. This is an expression that a person takes something seriously.

Then let's analyze why we should be serious. Of course, when we are working and studying, the difficulties and problems we encounter are inevitable to face and solve, and the responsibility is unavoidable. At least before we terminate the labor contract and leave school, work and study are our commitments and responsibilities, our commitments to our boss and parents, and our commitments to ourselves. Therefore, at least in work and study, we must be serious.

So why is there such a thing as "seriously you lost"? This is because when we enter the society, we will encounter all kinds of things and problems, some of which are related to us, some have nothing to do with us, some have a lot to do with it, and some have little to do with it; Some are superficial to help the actual injury, and some are superficial to help the actual injury. If someone tells a joke casually, you think he is mocking himself or implying something. Maybe it's too serious. Or what you should do more is to think about what I think or expect from this person.

Of course, all these require us to distinguish and identify what we really want to do and why. And this problem is what we should seriously consider and explore. As adults, the first thing to understand is the question of "who am I and where am I going?" What kind of status do we define for ourselves, what kind of goals do we want to achieve in the future, and what kind of goals do we want to achieve in doing something.

Once we understand this problem, we can naturally screen out the relevance, importance and urgency of all kinds of things and problems around us, so as to do everything that should be serious seriously and handle everything that "you lose if you are serious".