What makes you say that others worship money?

Some time ago, I was pulled into a WeChat group consisting of 100 junior high school students. We often talk about trivial things in the group, and occasionally send lucky red envelopes of a few cents to a few dollars.

During the chat, we talked about a female classmate who married in Shanghai. A male classmate said indiscriminately, "So-and-so, are you going to marry money or not?" In fact, I don't want to use a question mark to break sentences, because I can feel the sarcastic and affirmative tone of the male classmate across the screen, which is obviously judging that people are worshipping money and moving towards this marriage towards material things. In fact, this male student doesn't even know what the man's family is like, nor does he know the emotional process between the other husband and wife. It's rude to jump out of such a sentence casually. Let's take a step back and consider this a joke. I think this joke is really a bit too much. At the same time, it also makes me feel that this male student seems to have some incorrect views.

Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone's family education, school education and family, school and social environment are different, so everyone's thoughts cannot be highly unified and uneven. Under the premise that everyone is influenced by various aspects and has different ideas, many people's ideas are distorted.

Isn't there a saying "Man struggles upwards, but water flows downwards"? Everyone has the right to choose how to spend his life, and everyone wants his life to be better. Where do you get the qualifications and courage to speculate on other people's motives and make subjective judgments without knowing the truth?

For example, the pace of life is getting faster and faster now, and many young people ignore their own life events because of work and other reasons. Naturally, parents may be forced to go on blind dates. Rather than being forced, it was that parents should really consider this matter after giving their opinions, so they obeyed their parents' wishes and persuaded their hearts to attend the blind date tea party. When you go on a blind date, you naturally face the choice of your favorite love object. Among two or more people with equal conditions in all aspects, those with better economic ability will naturally be selected for priority "inspection". The quality of a girl's family is likely to directly affect her quality of life in the future and determine whether the next generation can receive a better education and a better living environment.

Suppose, if the price, raw materials, color and fragrance of jiaozi are the same, would you choose to eat on the wooden benches in the noisy and dusty street stalls or on the fabric chairs in the private rooms of high-class hotels with excellent environment? Grapes with the same shape, juice and stone, do you choose sour grapes or sweet grapes?

Of course, it does not mean that feelings without a certain material foundation have no value and are not worth cherishing and managing. A good life is formed by the intersection of material and emotion. Two lovers with good emotional foundation can also create a certain material and beautiful life through joint efforts. Families with feelings and a certain material foundation will be happier and happier, and no one can avoid the days of daily necessities.

Some people will say, don't you know that money can make people bad? You care about material needs, but you ignore such important things as ensuring emotional loyalty between the two sides. In fact, it is not necessarily because human nature has been defined before adulthood. If a person will do something wrong in marriage, then this problem will always be inevitable, only the time difference, material and money are only a contributing factor.

Therefore, when love is still blank, everyone will choose the one that is relatively excellent in all aspects, including economic ability. This is not money worship. As a girl, I am responsible for the rest of my life and my future children.

There are money worshippers, but not all people who pay attention to material selection to a certain extent are money worshippers. I hope everyone will look at the problem rationally. Instead of saying that others worship money, it is better to work hard to make your future spouse and children live better.