What's wrong with eating grass by the nest? Three tricks to get rid of classmates and colleagues around you

Have boys ever faced such a problem: there is such a good girl around, who looks like her eyes and is generous and cheerful. She may be a colleague of your company or a classmate. You have a secret crush on her, but because of the old saying "rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests" or because they are worried that they will have negative comments if they screw up, they have been slow to start.

Dude, have you forgotten? There is also an old saying-the moon takes the lead! If you want to seduce the girl around you:

First of all, you have to make a good impression on her:

Now that we have met, there is no question of first impression, so your comments in the circle are her impressions of you. Forget the male god, at least be gentle and reliable. The most taboo is to be the kind of man who feels ashamed to be with you.

Secondly, turn her from the girl around you into your "female friend":

Find a natural starting point (since you are a colleague or classmate, this excuse for cutting in is not difficult to find) and get close to her. Pay more attention to this sister's circle of friends and know what she is interested in, so that you can "chat" with her. Be careful not to be too enthusiastic when chatting with your sister at first, especially when your value is not enough. Don't let her think that you are seducing her. Let her feel that you are just classmates and colleagues, just chatting casually after work because of some hobbies or work. Start with a simple topic step by step, otherwise it will easily scare the girl away.

A taboo of eating grass by the nest: don't cross the line until you are sure that she has a good impression on you.

Different from the understanding and introduction of blind date in software, the beginning of that relationship means that both parties have the purpose of having sex. If two people are not interested in development, it is impossible to contact.

Grass beside the nest is different. Even if you are not interested in each other, even if you are gay and she is pulling, the settings of your classmates or colleagues will make you unable to keep in touch.

So crossing the line here is not only a direct confession, but also means that a woman knows that you want to develop with her. Quite a few brothers don't have to say anything, and women know that you like her, so it's really important to cultivate their psychological quality and hide their purpose (how to add auntie WeChat aunt630 to ask her)

If she just "likes" you as a friend and thinks chatting is good and you are a good person, that's not enough. If she doesn't feel sexually attracted, then she will refuse your attempt to sublimate friendship into love.

If you risk moving into her body directly, or confess anything inconsistent, it will directly interrupt your relationship.

So how do you judge whether a girl has a good impression on you?

One: Talk to her about other women.

When you go to public places, point out some sexy beauties and ask her for advice. Ask her, "Hey, look at those hot girls. Do you think they are sexy? " Or "That woman is really beautiful. What do you think of her dress? " If she agrees with you and admits that they are really hot, then you can get up and chat and flirt with those beautiful women and then come back to her. If she is jealous or unhappy, it is because she realizes that those women are attracted to you and are worried about losing you.

On the other hand, if she finds fault with those beautiful women and says they are not sexy, it is not attractive, which is good. She doesn't want to share you with other women. So, you can say to her, "It seems that you don't like the person I pointed out, and you want to keep me for yourself ~" According to her next reaction, you can see whether she is interested in you.

Number two: Try flirting with her.

When you go out for activities together and she dresses up, tell her "Wow, you look great today!" " "If she is happy, flirt more deeply and judge her reaction at the same time. He said, "it's hard for me to concentrate on talking tonight ... baby, you are so sexy!" " "

If she is shy or flirts with you in turn, that's great, you know she is attracted! On the other hand, if you think she was surprised by your sudden flirting, stop it and change the subject.

Simply put, this flirting should be kept within the scope that can be interpreted as "I'm just joking".

Third: create more sense of existence.

Don't worry, ask her a warm question and then make a little joke. When she encounters difficulties and difficult situations in her life, or very important things, they appear at the right time. However, don't always be on call, that is, don't be a bad person.

In short, treat female colleagues who are not interested in you.

In your life, set more goals than her. So when she suddenly asks you to do something, you can naturally say, "Actually, I'm going to do a project tonight. Let's do it together on Wednesday. " If you want to keep her awake at night thinking about how to be your girlfriend, occasionally let her know that you are still dating another woman. Even better, when she called you to make an appointment, she told her, "er ... I promised my friend to see her tomorrow. But I'm free on Tuesday, and we can talk about it then. "

Finally, after determining the goodwill, boldly break through the friendship zone:

The key reason why men fall into the "friend zone" is lack of self-confidence and decisiveness. Compared with the mentality of believing in conquering women, flirting and developing sexual relations, the most common typical mistakes made by men trapped in the friend zone are nervousness and self-doubt. They will pretend to be most interested in being friends, hide their desires, and show a very "good" and polite man around her in their own way. The simple fact is that he positioned himself in the friend zone by "looking like" a friend instead of "looking like" a lover or boyfriend. The woman didn't put him in the friend zone, he did it himself!

If you are such a man, you can only stay in the spare tire position forever. If most of you are sure that the other person has a good impression on you, then make bold moves. But there is a woman who is good at giving men the illusion that she has a good impression on him, and her attitude is ambiguous after confession. There is no doubt that the woman who did it was green tea.