How to calculate ayawawa's score of five questions before marriage?

1. "If I can't have children, can you and your family accept a daughter-in-law like me?"

Don't think that a man loves you by asking you to have children for him. Can you say that a man who cheats and buys a daughter-in-law loves her? What they accomplish is their animal instinct, not the love you want.

Therefore, this question tests how much men value your personal charm. A man who takes fertility seriously, you should be careful when choosing him. You know, many men regard women as fertility tools, and some men can't accept that women can't have children. According to the survey data of 22,088 male netizens on a portal website, 45% of men can't accept that women can't have children. In the words of the website editor, "in their view, a lover is not only his own partner, but also needs to have reproductive function." If you don't realize the function of this family, a woman is not qualified to be her lover. "

In fact, the probability of female infertility is as high as 5% one year after marriage, that is to say, there is one primary infertility in every 20 people. These two probabilities overlap, and at most one in every 40 women will be rejected by their partners because of infertility. In addition, a small number of women will not be able to get pregnant smoothly because of some reasons of their partners' refusal. This group of people is not included in the above data. You are likely to divorce because of infertility, so consider this risk before marriage.

It doesn't matter if a man firmly answers you "can't have children." I will deal with any problems at home. I married you, not them. " You can give him a perfect score of 20.

If a man says, "I personally don't care (as most young people will say), maybe there will be complaints at home." You have to understand that he probably belongs to the 45% men who can't accept that women can't have children. If a man shows hesitation, you should think about it. A man who attaches great importance to his offspring, if he is with him, the risk of getting married will be greater. Here, you can look at their attitude and give them a score of 0-9. This score not only includes your own risk of infertility, but also includes the destruction of your marriage caused by the death of your child as an adult, and it also includes that he may have another illegitimate child outside marriage.

2. "If I meet a rapist, do you want me to defend my chastity to the death, or do you want me to obey to avoid further harm?"? (Supplementary question: "If you have a daughter in the future, do you want her ... or ...")

Although it is unlikely that a woman will be raped, this problem can reflect a man's respect for your self-will and his need for you as a person (not your body). If he values your chastity more than your life, you must give a man like him a zero.

After asking this question, you can add a hypothetical question about your future daughter. If both answers come back alive, you can give him a perfect score of 20 points. If everyone wants you to do what you want, you can give him 10. If there is a discrepancy between the two answers (for example, you will resist this question, be unwilling to answer directly, and repeatedly say that you want to try to escape and hope that your daughter will come back alive), or hope that your daughter will obey her husband's wishes, then 0 point.

By the way, I did a minority survey on this issue, which was divided into two groups. The shocking result is that if a man's daughter-in-law meets a rapist, many people want her to defend her virginity to the death; If a man's daughter meets a rapist, basically 100% of men want her to come back alive. In their minds, whether you are a private body or one of the most important people to him, a small problem can be seen.

3. "Is my name written on the property certificate?" (Supplementary question: "Would you like your daughter to marry a man whose name is not written on the real estate license?" )

Wealth and status are beneficial to men's mate selection, but not to women's mate selection. Otherwise, why do so many women want to marry the emperor, but no wave after wave of men want to be husbands? So this question has nothing to do with women's own real estate or property in their own names. Just consider the extent to which men are willing to invest in women. This degree of commitment is whether he regards you and your descendants as his most important people.

If he has money, he is willing to give you half; Or he doesn't have much money, but he is willing to just write your name. Then 20 points.

If there is a certain error with the above, for example, you are rich but don't want to be half with you; Or you don't have much money, but you are willing to add your name, then 10 points.

If he tells you, "Of course I want to, but I can't make a decision because of * * * *", then 0 points. Note that here, no matter what the reason, it is 0.

A man who wants to marry a wife when he is not ready is equivalent to renting a car and joining a super-running club. Do you think the Super Run Club should let him in? After the new interpretation of the marriage law, such a warning has been looming, so please note that the rules of the game are completely different from those of your parents' generation, so don't jump into the fire pit helplessly. Unless you are going to leave home with a two-year-old child as a yellow-faced woman.

4. "Your mother and I fell into the water at the same time. We can only save one. Who will you save first? "

In fact, the possibility of this kind of question is very small, but this question has been asked by men and women throughout the ages. What problem does this reflect? It's that women want to know the position of themselves and their mothers in men's hearts. This question is so old that many people regard it as a joke. Just say ha ha.

I have heard that the answer that can give a perfect score of 20 is: "save my mother first, but when you die, I will die with you." "You are my favorite person, so I listen to you. I'll save whoever you want me to save first! ! ""Save you first, my mother was saved by my father. " "If our children are not adults, I will save you first, because children can't live without their mothers. If we don't have children, I will save my mother first, because my mother gave birth to me with her life. " "If you have a son in the future, what do you want him to say?" Some of these perfect answers are tricky, some are affectionate, some are righteous words, and some are putting themselves in the woman's shoes. But in any case, it shows that the man has a strong ability to deal with and solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. And how the man will choose and weigh the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is the practical significance of this problem.

Answering "save you first" categorically is mostly deceptive, but based on the principle of commitment and consistency (see "influence"), we calculate 10 as appropriate. But if a man says, "Can't you swim?" "My mother can swim", "This can't really happen", "You didn't dig a hole for me on purpose", or you flew into a rage and said, "How can you compete with my mother?" "Is my mother bad for you? You curse her like this? " "Save my mother first, my wife can change again, and there is only one mother." Then you must get 0 points.

What needs to be explained is that the problem itself is not life and death, not choice, but men's ability to solve contradictions and cope with problems. Those men who fly into a rage when facing the topic, avoid the topic and even suppress their daughter-in-law can't handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you marry in the past, the road ahead will be particularly hard and long.

Also, if you are fooled by the clamorous public opinion of men and regard this question as a boring and old-fashioned question, then don't ask, don't think about it, then don't resent this man who always favors his mother when he encounters conflicts between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law.

5. "If I have dystocia, even if I am saved, I will completely lose my fertility. At this time, your parents want to protect their children. Do you choose to protect adults or children? "

Of course, it is a firm answer, my Lord. 100: 20. If in doubt, such as "I should protect my adult", score 1-9 as appropriate. Besides, their answers make you sound "hitched". You know, they will definitely give up on you and save their offspring. 0 points.