What is the psychology of those teachers when they say, "He hit you because he is wrong, and you are still wrong"?

I saw a joke: I was beaten by my classmates in primary school. I didn't fight back, but I knocked him down. The teacher said it was wrong for him to hit you, but it was wrong for you to fight back. Then I called my parents. When my dad came, I realized that the backhand was a slap in the teacher's face. The teacher jumped up and hit my dad, and my dad turned the table for him. The office teachers all came to pull my dad, and my dad asked him, why did you fight back when I hit you?

This is just a joke, but it is not difficult to see the contradiction, especially in education, teachers can't make any substantive treatment when dealing with students' contradictions, because teachers don't have the power to enforce the law, and teachers don't always have time to deal with this kind of thing, and often they can only play fifty boards each. After all, it affects the normal teaching order and other students in the class. Then call both parents. Of course, the situation in the joke is unprecedented. Parents came, mostly reprimanding their children. Of course, there are unreasonable people who make a scene directly in the office. After all, parents are not called to complain, but to deal with contradictions. In fact, the two sides have evolved from unilateral beating to fighting. Many times, after detailed inquiry, it will be found that it was not a big deal at first. Generally, whoever took someone's things, touched someone and said a dirty word gradually evolved into a fight.

Small things also reflect an attitude of our society towards things. Even comrades who have the power to enforce the law will be in such a muddle when dealing with social fights or making judgments. My opinion is to get to the bottom of the matter, why I was beaten, why I hit people, and what contradictions occurred before I hit people. I will find more students to prove it, and then I will deal with it.

So what should I do if I encounter such a thing? Shall we go up and hammer the teacher or him?

I'll tell you a story about a student I personally experienced. I advised a short student who was beaten by a tall man to fight back and subdue the tall man immediately, so that the tall man would be afraid to see him later.

Let's call the tall one Big Bear and the short one Xiao Qiang.

Bear's grades are very poor. He likes playing this and bullying that all day, but he can't finish his homework. In other words, if bears are peaceful, then this class will be peaceful. The bear is tall and thick, which makes Xiao Qiang always bullied. People often tell me that bears are full of evil forces.

Xiao Qiang and I have found three very good friends. Have been bullied by big bears. Reflect the bear's bullying to me many times. I was silent, looking for a chance to subdue the bear.

Of these four people, only Xiao Qiang has a smart mind and a light body. So I called the four of them together and explained this. A secret plan to fight evil has been formed.

At noon that day, the bear began to bully Xiao Qiang again. Xiao Qiang ran away as fast as he could. Bear couldn't catch up with him and panted, Little bastard, don't you dare come near me and see if I don't kill you.

Then three wannabe came, and they went to look for the bear together. Two of them grasped the bear's leg tightly, and the other grabbed his arm, ready to bite. As the saying goes, a good man can't catch many people. Bear didn't expect the three of them to hit it off at all, and fell down at once. At this moment, Xiao Qiang came over, grabbed his ear and kept slapping the bear in the face.

After a beating, everyone ran away again. Only the big bear is still crying and screaming.

After the bear was subdued, I asked these four students to finish the homework assigned by the teacher in their study. This is what I suggested them to do before. These four little guys are very trustworthy. They study harder and harder, and their grades are catching up.

The order in the class is also good, the grades are slowly improving, and the rebels are subdued. Bell gradually changed his rude and tough character. If he can learn a little, let him learn a little.

Contradictions between primary school students, especially fights, are sometimes unreasonable. Maybe they got back together a few days after their quarrel. But we must crack down on those tough people who have been repeatedly educated, let him know that toughness is not the boss in the world, let the weak unite and dare to fight hard, and then constantly establish a class culture of systematic management, putting facts and reasoning.

If you dare to bully others, it is absolutely intolerable. Although honesty can't come forward, we should unite with the weak and confront the strong.

The so-called no trouble and no fear of things. The so-called ants can kill tigers even in small groups. But in the end, the key is to establish a system.

My son was besieged by four or five children yesterday. The child was impatient, so he chased after it, but he didn't catch it all. The child was wronged and asked me for help! I went to their parents to argue, because one child wronged my child, and other children followed suit and beat my child! Their children won't admit it. I'm so angry that the next time a child hits him, I'll beat him back ... God, those parents simply blew the pot and said my education method was wrong! Then I want to ask, is it necessary for your child to be beaten?

In primary school, a man and a woman quarreled in front of me. Out of sympathy for the weak male students, I said something to the female students. As a result, she turned to fight with me and grabbed me with both hands! I didn't fight back. I just hid. I saw it as soon as the teacher came in. The teacher and classmates are from the same village. The teacher is an elder brother of my family. Ignore the female classmates directly and call me to the office to stand as a golden rooster. Alas!

When I was a child, I often met my secretary's son who beat me for no reason. He is two years older than me, but he can't beat me. He just ran away. Sometimes on the way after school, he chased three or four of us to fight. Once, I was pushed off the ridge road by my running classmates, covered in mud. He was also beaten with a stick. When he couldn't retreat, he picked up a stone the size of an egg on the ground and hit him on the head. The next day, the teacher called the office and said it was more wrong to strike back than to hit me. I lost one yuan for medical expenses (equivalent to two days' income of adults). Dad hit me again.

In the past, my school was a public education, which was really poor. Bullying is common. Once my deskmate was bullied by others, and then he told the teacher that the teacher called the bully to come and talk, and then the deskmate was beaten again.

Those teachers who tell you not to fight back have only one psychology, that is, they are afraid of making trouble and don't want to make trouble until they retire. Those good teachers often use violence to teach those bullying students, and they are also labeled as "demons". Teachers who want to solve bullying are forced by their parents not to do it.

Bullying often happens to the parents of those students. It is true that as long as they are students who often bully others, their families will not be much better. And now the cost of bullying is low enough to touch porcelain. Even if things are discovered, it's just a few words. It is better to fine them directly or send them to a detention center for a few days, so that they can learn to be good people and know how to be responsible for their actions.

That's what my son's kindergarten teacher taught me. Children will be criticized for striking back. The direct result is that the child is timid. I personally don't advocate fighting violence with violence, but in most cases, fighting violence with violence is the most effective way! Later, I learned that I would tell my son directly that I would fight back. Once, in front of the teacher, my son said that a classmate hit him today, how could he fight back? I also affirmed the child's behavior on the spot and told him the consequences of not fighting back. Later, the teacher never said that he could not fight back.

As the old saying goes, deal with a man as he deals with you. Although it is not advisable to fight violence with violence, society is so unfair. Honest people should not be too timid when they are bullied, especially boys, but they should not bully others casually. When I was a child, I was a bully who was 2.3 years older than me in the village and didn't dare to mess with me. At that time, my grandma and grandpa took me, and grandpa taught me not to let others bully me. If you beat me, call me back. Your friends went to the county town together, and then their parents contacted them. On one occasion, they fought with their classmates. Obviously, it was his first hand that missed me. He also quietly followed me home and complained to me. That day, I was beaten. This is a tragedy. I was full of grievances, and then I called several times. As long as my parents know that going back is a combination boxing, they will become more and more timid. As long as I don't push hard, I can bear it. I'm growing up now, and my courage is getting smaller and smaller. Before starting a business, people who were afraid of wolves and tigers made money together, and I can still support my family. Therefore, education should have methods and not mislead children, otherwise it will delay their future.

What is this?

Chatting with the classmates in the front row in the self-study class of primary school was caught by the teacher. The teacher said that the students in the back row must have spoken first when chatting.

After a while, I chatted with my classmates in the back row in the self-study class and was caught by the teacher again. The teacher said that the students in the front row must have spoken first when chatting.

Why? Ask if you are not satisfied, tell your parents if you are not satisfied, and you will be beaten when you go home.

If you don't say "he hit you" but say "hit someone", then to judge whether this action is right or wrong, you need to get more information, and then compare this action with recognized feelings, principles and laws, and then you can judge right or wrong and decide how to react. For example, "Rutiha hits Kansai Town" is emotionally and logically acceptable, but "The rascal hits Yang Zhi with two fists" is not acceptable.

"You hit him back" is also an objective action of "hitting people", only adding the reason that "he hit you first". If you stand in your position, "strike him back" is the most in line with your current emotional needs. However, if more background information is added: assuming that "he" has always been kind to you and hit you because he hates iron, then "you hit back" is emotionally unacceptable in this context.

The above is only judged from the perspective of emotion and reason, but we should not forget that the law, like emotion and reason, is constantly controlling the right and wrong of each of our actions. "Rutiha" killed Kansai Town, and "Yang Zhi" killed Niu Er in anger. Although they are sympathetic to people emotionally and intellectually, they are all wrong in the laws of the Song Dynasty, and they also paid a price for it.

Therefore, it is very important for your future development to jump out of your single perspective and see the world from a broader dimension. Looking back now, when I was looking for a job interview after graduating from college, it was ridiculous to look at my self-confidence from one angle alone.

It was thirty years ago that I passed the written test, interview and general manager interview of a foreign trade company. Finally, the general manager asked me to meet the party secretary who teamed up with him. I thought this was just a courtesy meeting. The party secretary came over and asked me a lot of questions, and I answered them fairly well. What is this? I have forgotten now. I only remember that at the end, he asked me: How is your study and life in this major? As a result, I took the unconventional behavior of escaping from the train to Guangzhou, taking tape from Guangzhou and selling old clothes back as a good thing to practice. It was not until I saw that the smile on the secretary's face was stiff that I suddenly felt that it might be a bad thing. As a result, I failed to get the admission notice that I could have got on the spot. Fortunately, the company finally hired me, but this incident impressed me deeply. Now it seems that what I thought was a good thing at that time was a taboo for the salesmen of foreign trade companies. At that time, you and I actually made mistakes from a single perspective. So the teacher's psychology should teach you to realize this single-angle problem.

In addition, the above only puts the action of "you strike back" in three dimensions: law, reason and emotion, and draws contradictory conclusions. If you compare the goal you want to achieve with other goals you want to achieve, there may be more conflicts. Han Xin, for example, endured the humiliation of his legs. Another example: In the "Dong Lang Incident", China was fully capable of attacking India. Why didn't he do it? Just because it's not worth it. Because this contradiction is not the main contradiction facing our country, the "big truth" should take care of the "small truth", and peaceful settlement is better than hands-on. Strategic choice is to make a difficult choice between right and wrong. Only by giving up can there be a "harvest". This is life. The teacher is teaching you how to grasp the harvest in the shed and grow up as soon as possible.