How to better communicate with my partner and let him know what I want?

How to better communicate with my partner and let him know what I want? First, the man's thinking is the first. Jeff Chang Shin-Che Shenche has a song that goes like this. Love is a word. I'm only gonna say this once. You know I can only express it with my heart. To sum up, the idea of a man is that you should stop asking me if I love you. I'm only gonna say this once. Second, I read a joke on the Internet before. There is a couple in their sixties and seventies. The wife asked her husband, "Old man, why don't you say you love me?" . Then my husband said, I said it when I got married, then my wife said, how long has it been, and then the old man said, I will tell you if there are any changes. You see, this is very interesting, that is, men think I said it, so I did it. Don't always emphasize what I say, so you will find that men and women think differently. What women want is feeling, that is, saying it every day. Let me ask my friends, if your husband says that love is just a word, I will only say it once. Can you accept it? Of course not. I hope you can say it every day. Then, after understanding men's thinking, let's talk about how many minefields there are in marriage. I have summarized five minefields in marriage before, which are complaining, criticizing, denying, indifference and haggling over every ounce.

Two, five minefields. How can I express it? Give me a popular science formula. This formula is called, I know+but+feeling+requirement. Let me give you an example. For example, you had a quarrel with your husband this morning because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and then your husband came to lecture you. You must be uncomfortable. Two people quarrel, maybe even fight. At this time, they became stiff. How do you communicate with each other? For example, you can say, "honey, I know that this morning, because of the contradiction with your mother-in-law, you were uncomfortable, and even there was a great contradiction between us."

Third, (this is the first piece, I know) but you didn't comfort me when you came over, and even made trouble with me. "(This is the second one, but. ) "When you yelled at me, I was really upset and thought you didn't love me. "This is the third piece. Tell me how you feel. The last request, please pay attention to this place. The request doesn't mean to let him do something in this matter, but to let him do something small for you. For example, "I feel a little sick now. Can you bring me a glass of water? "So far, this formula has been completed.