The woman bought a house before marriage and asked her boyfriend to repay the loan after marriage. Man: You can really calculate. You're not finished yet. what do you think?

Even if two people get to the point of talking about marriage, it doesn't mean that the relationship has reached a stable stage. Sometimes, the more this time, the more fragile their feelings may be.

Because what really tests people's hearts may only be revealed at this time.

Love that you think is invincible may suddenly and unexpectedly collapse, even without giving you time to react, so they go their separate ways in life.

It is said that life is in the play, who is not in the play?

Yu Zuo broke up with her boyfriend. Just as they had already taken the wedding photos, booked the banquet and prepared to send invitations, they chose to cancel the wedding because they could not agree on one thing.

If Yu Zuo were a few years younger, she might face this result, and she would feel incredible. They have been in love for more than a year and are each other's other half. How did they become like this?

But now, at the age of 27, she has been able to accept it calmly. She can only comfort herself: all the mistakes have been proved to be inappropriate, and I believe that the right person will come eventually.

In the eyes of outsiders, Yuzuo's breakup with her boyfriend was considered a joke, saying that it could have been solved, but the two stubborn people refused to give in, and finally everything was irreparable.

All this has to start with buying a house before marriage.

Yu Zuo has always been an enterprising girl. After graduation, as a girl, she worked very hard because she had a dream that one day she could buy a house in the city where she worked.

She worked hard enough and was lucky enough. Less than four years after graduating from college, she really bought her own house. I was almost 26 at that time.

After buying a house, she didn't notice that many friends around her began to get married, and some even gave birth to children. Parents at home are urging her, too. A girl doesn't have to fight like this, just find someone to fight with.

It makes sense for her to think about it, so she mobilized people around her to introduce her. She doesn't have many blind dates, but almost every blind date the man has a good impression on her. Among them, she chose the one she was most satisfied with.

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A girl who works hard like her values the feelings of two people more than material things. Therefore, her boyfriend, who is not very kind to others, feels that he has found a treasure.

She said she was looking for potential stocks, but why did she choose him in the end? She also gave her own reasons. First of all, she thinks that her boyfriend has a higher education than her, and she values it very much, which is a plus item.

Secondly, she said that her boyfriend's job prospects are good, his income is not low now, and there is a lot of room for growth in the future. The reason why he is worse than himself is that he went to graduate school and came out to work late.

When I met her, her boyfriend graduated less than a year ago, had no car or house, and her parents were in the countryside. When dating, she had little advantage in other aspects except work and was rejected twice.

Finally, Yu Zuo said that she felt that she could chat with him, and she was most afraid that two people would have nothing to say together. So, on the whole, she chose him.

Some people questioned that her reason for choosing him was not convincing enough, because three of the boys introduced to her were graduate students, and their jobs were all good, not without words. Why did she choose him?

So, she simply used a sentence that we have heard many times: "Some people, you don't know what is good about them, but no one can replace them."

Therefore, when they are together, they must be based on their love for each other, and they are both rational people. She doesn't make trouble, and the road to love is smooth. Later, her boyfriend's family urged her to get married first, and Yu Zuo said to get married first. She is not young.

However, at this time, her boyfriend still has no car and no room. I don't care. She said she had a house. The significance of her efforts is that one day she can meet someone she likes and do whatever she wants, regardless of material conditions.

As for the car, she thinks that with the income of two people, if you really buy it, it will be one year, and it is not too late to get married. She asked for a bride price of 50,000 yuan, and her parents added another 50,000 yuan to make up 65,438+10,000 yuan as a dowry.

When I got here, everything was still very happy.

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The biggest contradiction between them since they fell in love was caused by a tentative joke when they were about to get married.

At dinner, Yu Zuo told her boyfriend that this house is their wedding room, and it's time for her to relax and stop bearing this heavy mortgage. Finally, it became a sentence: "Can you still take this mortgage in the future?"

In fact, before asking this sentence, I didn't expect him to refuse.

Her thoughts are: first, since both of them are getting married, in fact, everyone is the same. If he pays the mortgage in the future, he will definitely bear more expenses at home.

Second, it is a little girl's fantasy. Although Yu Zuo is a bit of a strong woman, in front of the person she likes, she still hopes that the other person is her big tree and that he can rely on and pamper himself.

In her view, the other party's mortgage repayment for himself is a way he is used to. The premise is that the real estate license can only be her name.

But her boyfriend's reaction was unexpected. He asked, "Why? Is my name added to the house now? "

She shook her head.

The other party continued: "In that case, why do you want me to pay your mortgage? Without my name. "

Yuruo said, "But we're getting married, aren't we? I don't care that you have nothing. Do you have to care so much about me? " I don't want your money either. I just think it's your sincerity. I think if you can do this, you can definitely prove that you love me. "

Her boyfriend replied, "If you don't care, why don't you add my name?"

Yu Zuo was finally anxious and said that he was a black and white person. In the case of divorce, if he takes out a mortgage, she will return it to him. She also said that as long as he didn't betray, he would never choose to divorce.

Boyfriend said she was naive and naive, but I didn't expect her to be so immature.

Anyway, the last two people didn't agree. Her boyfriend insisted on his own point of view and gave a counterexample, saying that I bought a house and asked you to repay the loan, so would you write my name?

Seeing that Yu Zuo didn't answer, he said, "I think it is most important for two people to put themselves in their shoes and understand each other." I was angry, and her boyfriend didn't notice. Go on with his point of view.

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Yuruo's stubborn temper also came up, saying that if he refused, it might be because he was too realistic to marry him.

Her boyfriend listened: "You can really count, so it won't end."

At first, she thought that her boyfriend meant that the marriage would never end, but in the end, her boyfriend meant to wait two years until she could buy a house before writing her name. In this way, both of them have a house, and according to their income, they are responsible for the mortgage and support their families.

Then get married, and all the problems will be solved.

Of course, I didn't wait until two years later, but it took more than two months from when she said she wanted him to repay the mortgage to when they finally broke up.

In the past two months, the two men have argued about this issue countless times, but there is no result. Both of them insisted on their views, and neither of them would give in for half a minute. Finally, their love broke up.

I asked my friend again and again. Is it her fault?

She said that she thought he knew himself better. She was a person who was loyal to love, but she only talked about him. What she did was either as unreasonable as he said, or she wanted to pursue the certainty of marriage, thinking that the other person was the same as her. In fact, she doesn't care about this at all, only about his attitude.

But she didn't expect that the relationship between the two people could not stand the test and did not encounter big winds and waves. Their own words tore the love apart.

So, don't test people, because it may make you unprepared for disappointment.