The old lady has eight children, and the younger son proposes to take turns to provide for the aged. Do you think it's reasonable for people who don't raise 3000 yuan?

Everyone agrees that it is reasonable, but it is unreasonable for a family not to agree.

Let's talk about our family's care for the elderly. My husband is eight sisters. My father-in-law was ill, and my mother-in-law waited on him. At that time, we just didn't know how to use the money. It's her turn to be hospitalized, because there is a great contradiction between money and waiting.

Brother suggested that the family pay 3000 yuan to see her mother-in-law. As a result, my family gave her enough. Third sister said that her mother-in-law owed her money and paid the bill. Third sister and younger brother gave it to 1500 yuan. Second brother didn't give a penny. What if you don't take the money? There is no way to give it away. He is shameless. What can you do with his brothers and sisters? Filial piety to the elderly, integrity.

It is the second sister who waits on her mother-in-law in the hospital. Mother-in-law only let her serve alone. She is very filial and willing, but her second brother-in-law won't. After being hospitalized for half a month, her second brother-in-law made trouble several times. Everyone has no choice but to disobey her mother-in-law and not give her trouble. Finally, she persuaded her mother-in-law to wait on her eight families in turn, and her mother-in-law died.

People have to be buried when they die. The money collected by eldest brother is about 7 thousand, but things can't go on until people take it out and talk. Elder sister had no choice but to ask for 500 pieces of burial expenses at home, but no one answered. At that time, I was in a hurry to use the money, so my sister gave it out. Although I also complained, after the incident, I asked my husband to send 500 yuan to my sister. This is what we should do as sons. As a result, my sister said that there was no other home for me. In other words, my sister buried her mother-in-law, and we took 500 yuan, and she took the rest.

Is this the end of things? I can't. When my mother-in-law was seven years old, my second brother-in-law said to me, is your family okay? Being a mother after death can still make a fortune. Listening to this is irritating, not irritating. I'll talk to him directly. I said, whoever spends so much money is an asshole. He refers to the money collected by big brother. The problem is that we haven't seen a penny. My husband is young, and my eldest brother is in charge of everything at home. We only paid him money every time. Eldest brother didn't post or disclose, and we don't know how much money he has left. The second brother-in-law means that sisters and brothers share money and don't take funeral expenses. See if it's a mess. I can't figure it out.

In fact, people are selfish, and every mother has her own ideas. As long as someone in a family is unreasonable, it is impossible. Someone has to suffer in the end, and her mother-in-law is the biggest loser.

My way of treating old people is to obey the rules. If I take turns serving the elderly, it's my turn to take care of other people's homes. If I wait on the money, I promise to pay the living expenses to the elderly on time every month, but I can only do my part. I can't help it if others ignore me. The ability to make money is average, and it is really hard to manage a family, especially the sick old people can almost bring down this family. Although I am a female compatriot, there are all kinds of birds in the Woods. I can only guarantee that my family will not feel uneasy and let the elderly eat and wear warm clothes and go to the hospital. There's really nothing else I can do.

I saw this scene in the hospital when my family was hospitalized before. An 83-year-old man was hospitalized due to illness, and only one son came to take care of him, which made him very reluctant.

Other children refuse to take care of their mothers for various reasons. The old lady's wife died five years ago, leaving her alone. Some children are in other places, some are busy with work, and seldom come to see her. The accident was discovered by neighbors and sent to the hospital.

In the hospital, I also witnessed the child's unfilial. Come to see her son, in front of so many people, scold the old mother and curse her for getting sick neither early nor late. It happened that he was ill at this time, which made him lose hundreds of dollars a day.

He also wants to give money to the elderly. He called his brothers and sisters and begged his grandfather to tell his grandmother to take care of them. However, other brothers and sisters gave some money on the grounds that they didn't have time and were busy with work. Some people don't send money and have no money.

Taking this son's anger out on his old mother, swearing, lying in the hospital bed and fidgeting in the noisy ward, he thought about it several times, but the nurse and doctor tried to persuade him to stay. He always felt that he had suffered too much. It is really a mother's sorrow to have such a child. No one wants to take care of them when they are needed. All of them are baiwenhang. Why did you have them in the first place?

If the children live together, they can of course take turns to take care of them. It is also possible for a family to take care of it for a few days or months, as long as the elderly are willing to take care of it.

Playing is that children are scattered all over the country and are not suitable for taking turns to take care of them. Instead, choose children who have a good relationship with the elderly and live close to them to take care of them. Others are inconvenient to take care of the elderly, and we can appropriately subsidize caregivers. I have seen many families take this approach.

If the children really have no choice, they can * * * not say 3000 yuan together. If necessary, they should pay more. If you really can't, please hire a nanny to take care of the diet and daily life of the elderly. If they pay more, they have to bear it themselves, or send the elderly to a nursing home. Of course, the expenses will be borne by the children.

In other words, an old lady can support eight children and help them get married, but now eight children can't support an old lady. In old age, let alone enjoy happiness, even if you have a stable residence, you can't eat delicious food. You have to go from one house to another and take turns eating delicious food. In fact, you are homeless and have no freedom and dignity. I don't think the old lady can stand it in her heart.

What a coincidence to tell me something I have experienced. I have a relative who raised eight children, but she died last year.

Before her death, she was in good health and could go to the vegetable market to buy food and cook, but her children said that in order to take care of her conveniently, each family took turns living for one month to support the elderly. But in the process of taking turns to provide for the aged for more than a year, she felt that she had seen through too many things, which made her feel very painful.

These children often spend money on her life, or use it as an excuse to quarrel in front of her, blame each other, complain and abuse, and even attack her. Like enemies one by one.

The old lady knows that she doesn't really like her existence. At the same time, the old lady can't stand the change of living environment, which is inconvenient. Don't say delicious when eating, sometimes you can't even eat a hot meal, and often it's both hot and cold. Let her unable to adapt.

Sometimes I'm just used to it in this family, but soon it's the next family's turn and I have to start over. I'm not used to everything again

What makes the old lady feel sad is that she once caught a bad cold, had a fever and a cough, and was sore all over. However, these children pretend not to see, and they don't know what to do. The old lady can't stand it and can't help it. She climbed to the door and waited for someone. The neighbors couldn't see it, so the village doctor found a home and saved her life.

These things happened in a short time, both mentally and physically, which made the old lady very sad. This is unbearable, but she is helpless and has nowhere to tell. I think it's a living hell, and it's making trouble for the children. Being dead is really worse than being alive. I hope I die early and suffer less. What she often says to people is, deal with life.

This kind of environmental emotion caused her to be agitated, sad and depressed all day long, and finally fell ill and died with regret. At the end of her life, she said angrily to her children, it is better not to believe what you say. I live alone and take turns to provide for the elderly, which has shortened my life by ten years.

What is even more ridiculous is that after the old lady died, one of her children will give her a decent burial for three days. Put on airs (if you are born unfilial, you will die a horse like Dai Xiao). An ugly play is dedicated to others to prove that he is a dutiful son. However, everyone in the village knows that he is notorious for abusing the elderly at ordinary times. Don't say that he doesn't visit at home at ordinary times, nor can he see it on holidays. Knowing that the old lady was ill, he dodged. So he took care of the old lady's business, and no one went to hold his field, and the scene was deserted. Finally, he ended up in the ridicule of everyone. Leave a joke.

Of course, the situation of the old lady mentioned by the subject may be much better, and her children are also filial. But I still think that taking turns to provide for the aged is not a long-term feasible method, and there are many disadvantages. Not popular with the elderly. If you don't do it well, it will often cause physical and mental harm to the elderly, shorten their life span and even endanger their lives. This is unfilial.

According to the current attitude and practice of some children towards providing for the aged, I don't recommend taking turns to provide for the aged. It is better to send the old lady to a nursing home for her old age. The cost of going to the nursing home was negotiated by eight children, and they also did their filial piety to the elderly and supported them.

After all, nursing homes have relatively perfect facilities, living places and a regular and stable life. There are many old friends. The environment is very different. The mood is different from that at home. Conducive to the physical and mental health of the elderly.

More importantly, it can avoid the troubles and worries between the old lady and her children.

My mother is 86 years old this year. She has lived with us in this county for 18 years. In 2004, we transferred to Chengdu, and she also went to Chengdu for several months. She is not used to it and must go back to her hometown. China people's so-called filial piety, filial piety must be smooth, not the wishes of the elderly, she will be unhappy. It is not appropriate to live alone in an old house. After discussion, I will live with my sister (brother-in-law has worked outside for many years), and I will be responsible for living expenses and medical expenses.

My mother is not seriously ill now, and basically takes care of herself. My sister works for half a day. At noon, my mother pressed the rice and washed the vegetables, and my sister went home to cook.

Rural people's concept of raising children to prevent old age is deeply rooted. They have raised many children and worked hard to raise them. On the contrary, a country without old people is chilling.

Whether legally or morally, it is natural to support children and the elderly.

As for the questions raised by the subject, I think the thinking is right, and everyone should do their duty. As for how much to give each month, eight children can have a family meeting. According to the local price level and the actual situation of the elderly (whether they can take care of themselves, whether they need special care, whether their children can bear it, etc. ), the brothers and sisters reached an agreement through consultation, solicited the opinions of the elderly, and made records for everyone to sign. In short, we should make the elderly feel happy and have medical security.

There is nothing reasonable and unreasonable about this matter. As long as the brothers and sisters have no opinions, it is reasonable. If you have an opinion, others think it is unreasonable!

A distant relative of mine has five sons and one daughter, all of whom graduated from junior high school, built five houses and married five daughters-in-law!

My daughter helps her parents do housework at home after graduating from primary school. She didn't get married until she was 28. She has no dowry. 10 years ago, her mother was paralyzed in bed and all the old people were waiting on her. My daughter often goes home to help. Last August, the old man died, leaving a paralyzed old lady. There is nothing to do. My sons discuss how to take care of her!

According to the past custom in rural areas, women don't have to take turns to support their children, but some daughters-in-law raised objections, saying that now daughters also have the obligation to support, and they all have to take turns, and their daughters also took the initiative to ask for turns. In this way, the family takes turns to support the elderly for ten days!

In fact, my daughter will take her old mother home for a while without her daughter's wheel. In this round, people in the village began to laugh at the family, saying that five sons could not afford a mother and needed a daughter. It is unreasonable for a daughter to raise her mother in turn as soon as she has no house or dowry, but it is reasonable for her son and daughter-in-law. How can an outsider!

I think this is reasonable, and the figure of 3,000 yuan remains to be discussed.

Tell me about myself. My grandmother died a long time ago. My grandfather is 84 years old and has five children. Now he is supporting the elderly at his uncle's home in his hometown city. He only has a rural pension plus more than 200 pension subsidies. I hired a nurse with a salary of 2600 yuan a month and gave 1000 as the living expenses for two people. In order, each child calls 3600 to my grandfather's account at the beginning of the month. Grandpa has only one son, that is, uncle, and he will give more pocket money from time to time. Because the children are not around, they are all looked after by the nurses, so I will give some holiday expenses on holidays, which is also my uncle's expense. When it is necessary to go to the hospital at ordinary times, menstruation's cousin will take it with him (they are not too far away), and he will also go to see it every week and chat with the nursing staff.

Therefore, I think it is more reasonable for the elderly to live in turn when their children are not around. If anyone doesn't want to take the money, he can solve it himself and deal with the problem of asking for a care worker in the future.

The average salary in the county is more than 2,000, and with the living expenses, 3,000 is almost the same. If it is really difficult, 2500 yuan can pass. In a big city like Beijing, it costs more than 5,000 yuan to hire a live-in care worker plus living expenses.

The real situation around you is for your reference and I hope it will be useful to you.

It is natural to be filial to parents, and it is also appropriate to take turns to raise them. Living with different children for a month every month is good for the elderly. If there are people who don't want to raise them or don't have time to raise them for other reasons, of course, it is reasonable to try your best to get money. This kind of thing is best to sit down and discuss and reach a fair agreement.

This situation is still very common in rural areas. Many people say that this situation reflects children's unfilial. But taking care of the elderly means not being able to work. Doesn't everyone have a family to take care of? If the old man has only one child, it is understandable to support the old man, but after all, there are other children, in order not to hurt brotherhood. Taking turns to provide for the aged is also a way out.

My husband's grandfather was paralyzed in bed by a stroke and had to be looked after all day. My father-in-law has five brothers and three sisters, and the obligation of support fell on the five brothers at that time. In rural areas, there are not many families who have sons and ask their daughters to support them.

Because my husband's grandfather has a pension, 3000 yuan a month, and then the result of the discussion at that time was either to take turns to look after it or to spend money to find someone to look after it. Because my husband's second uncle doesn't work at home all the year round (he used to repair shoes), he said he would take care of it. In this case, the other four families will pay the living expenses of the elderly in 500 yuan. The retirement salary of the elderly is used as a subsidy for the second child to accompany the elderly ... The elderly are sick and take medicine, and the expenses are shared equally ... A big family lives in an alley. If it is not convenient to look after for the time being, you can say hello and anyone can take the place. Whoever cooks good food and packs jiaozi at ordinary times will send it to the elderly. Every household often goes to see what the elderly need, and people who have holidays get together for dinner. This situation continued until the old man died.

When I met my husband, my grandfather died long ago. This is what I heard from my husband. Therefore, it is understandable that I take turns to support the elderly. If it is not convenient to support the elderly, I will give some subsidies to those who are willing to take care of them. Everyone's obligations are equal. If it is not implemented, there will naturally be compensation.

I think it's best for the elderly to choose by themselves, not by turns. The old people can go with whoever they want, and the rest will contribute! Give priority to the happiness of the elderly! An ancient family is like a treasure! Never; Keep the child away! There is a saying: a mother has ten babies in her belly, and a baby has a mother in her belly! A mother can feed ten cubs, and each cub has only one mother! Niang is the greatest in the world! Please be kind! Be kind!

I don't think this question is reasonable, but how to provide for the aged is more suitable for the elderly and can make them happy. The purpose of filial piety is not to make children feel convenient.

With a large family and eight children, providing for the aged is not a problem. However, because there are many children, each child's situation is different and opinions will be inconsistent. On the contrary, it is not easy to come up with a better plan.

I don't support the way of taking turns to provide for the aged. The old man is old, so he will go to your house for a while today and his house for a while tomorrow. He hasn't waited for the habit of life, and he will change to the next one.

This practice is almost indistinguishable for the elderly, and it is not good for their habits and body and mind.

My mother is over eighty years old, my father died early, and there are five brothers and sisters in our family. My mother has been living with her youngest brother for decades.

Pay the money according to the set price every year, and my brother and sister-in-law take care of my mother's daily life. On weekdays, we often visit the elderly. Everyone pays for everything, and the old man has been living happily.

Only during the Chinese New Year, will we take turns to spend it at home. On New Year's Eve, I took my mother home, and the rest of the family got together and had a lively New Year.

Now, the third generation of children have babies, and the big gathering of four generations under one roof can't sit at one table for a long time. Two tables are set every year, and mother is the happiest and happiest in that atmosphere.

Our goal, filial piety is mother-centered, mother's happiness is the first, so that mothers don't have to toss about, and we can run as children.

Mom is there, and home is there: mom is the spiritual pillar, the soul, the symbol and the centripetal force of the family. With my mother, we will always be children; With a mother, no matter how many contradictions the children have, they can bury the hatchet in front of their mother.