Thought can be maverick, and lifestyle is best to follow the crowd?

most people feel that they are better than most people in all aspects, which is the "self-service bias". We often see articles like "You leave the platform, you are nothing". What I'm saying is that I don't have a real understanding of myself, and if I put the achievements of the platform on my head, I'll fall completely when I'm on cloud nine. Most people think they are unique and different, but in fact others are watching your jokes.

Therefore, the best way to protect yourself is to be independent in thinking and follow the crowd in life style.

Some people say that this is very contradictory. It is often said that thought determines behavior, and only when you think in your heart can you do it. Isn't it inaction to follow the crowd like this? It will also be said that thoughts are not reflected in life, so what's the point?

Actually, following the crowd is a life strategy-not showing your unnecessary aggressiveness.

don't prove that you are better than others. I feel this way obviously in state-owned enterprises. If you publicize your "original ideas" every day in order to show yourself, you will really attract others' attention, but most people will stay away. We often see gnashing teeth and cynical remarks about some phenomena in the circle of friends. It feels like Lu Xun's possession and Li Ao's rebirth, but he is not Lu Xun and Li Ao. In order to show their own maverick, their sense of superiority, so there will be many friends?

In the past, when we were students, we would flaunt our own maverick, which was unique and cool, and would make our favorite opposite sex pay attention to ourselves. But when we get older, we will find that society doesn't need so many people who change the world, and few people have such ability. We just do our best in this established social gear, keep in line with our own hearts and make some small optimizations. If we want to live, we must cooperate with our colleagues and friends. The premise of cooperation is that the other party should recognize you, at least not hate you. If we are still as maverick as we were when we were students, it will be difficult to get support.

There are also some people who are especially modest verbally, but they are very modest, which is actually a way to cover up their sense of superiority and a manifestation of "self-service deviation".

They will think that they are better than others in ethics, personality traits, work ability, IQ, tolerance, filial piety, health and strength, and believe that they are insightful and attractive. The most outrageous thing is that a group of psychologists sent questionnaires to a large number of drivers who were hospitalized in car accidents. They all believed that their driving skills were better than those of ordinary drivers and it was safer to drive by themselves.

Sometimes we have to admit that our species is annoying, and we must restrain our maverick and high self-evaluation, even if it is just what we think.

if you don't control yourself, on the contrary, you have to perform "I am a unique and maverick", which seems to be a disaster. Playing yourself as a maverick is bound to become a nuisance.

the key problem for most people who think they are maverick is their lack of knowledge. He doesn't know that he is not brilliant because he has never seen any decent talents at all. They are all very mediocre people.

People have written for more than 6, years. Most people's thoughts are hard to talk about maverick, which is just a rare type in the crowd.

He has a mediocre mind, thinks highly of himself, and acts according to his own whimsy. Nine times out of ten, such people are false. Cheating people is an unstable factor in the team. If it is not eliminated as soon as possible, it will kill everyone.

People who are truly valuable look ordinary, and they may feel ordinary when they first meet, but as they continue to make friends, they feel that their hearts are like a treasure house, getting deeper and wider.

If we make such a friend, we will unconsciously get close to him. Being with him is like enjoying, and "feeling like a spring breeze" is such a feeling.

So, if we are not hermits, but still want to live in the world of mortals, we'd better be independent and correct in our thoughts and follow the crowd in our way of life.