After retirement, don't reveal these three family secrets when chatting, lest disaster come from your mouth-

After retirement, old people have a lot of time to get together and chat with old friends. Since it is a party to chat, we naturally need a lot of topics to make the chat atmosphere more lively and make the party not cold.

Many retired people, when chatting with others, like to chat in the open air, whether it's big or small things at home or gossip outside.

The reason why retired people like to get together and chat is an instinctive way for the elderly to get rid of loneliness. After retirement, the old people will always feel lonely because they have no work and social environment and few contacts.

In order to get rid of loneliness, many retired people get together with old friends to get rid of their inner loneliness and feelings. They are keen to talk about big and small things at home, hoping to release themselves through chatting.

Although attending parties and chatting is good for the elderly, chatting can not only relieve loneliness, but also prevent Alzheimer's disease, and kill two birds with one stone.

But the old people must pay attention when chatting at the party, and don't easily reveal these three secrets of the family to outsiders, so as not to cause great disaster.

First, don't disclose the amount of property at home.

Some elderly people, out of vanity, especially like to show off their wealth when chatting with old friends. They will feel very happy when they see others give them envious eyes.

In fact, the behavior of retirees showing off their wealth will bring them great trouble. "The speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart." After all, "people know their faces but don't know their hearts". You regard others as friends, but there are often liars among friends.

Once the elderly show off their wealth, they can easily become the target of scammers. The old man's ears are soft and he can't stand a few good words from the liar, so the wealth that the old man has accumulated hard in his first half of life falls into the hands of the liar.

The behavior of the elderly to show off their wealth will also be targeted by predators, causing greater security risks to themselves. If the elderly live with their children, they can still stop the bad guys. If you are an elderly person living alone, the bad guys will be unscrupulous and the consequences will be unimaginable.

Second, don't show off how capable your children are.

Old people are most proud of their capable children. Children are promising, which is the most worth showing off for parents. What retired people like to do most is to show off their promising children and praise their skills.

When people are old, they are most afraid of being looked down upon. In order to avoid being looked down upon, the old people deliberately show off how capable their children are in front of others, hoping to improve their worth with their own glory.

The behavior of the old man is undoubtedly adding chaos to his children. Even if the child is really capable, the behavior of parents showing off to everyone will only make the child jealous and even stab him in the back.

"Jealousy is a knife." There are many people who echo on the surface and stab in the back. In order not to cause trouble to children, even if children are really capable, don't show off everywhere to avoid being envied and tripped up behind their backs.

Third, don't tell outsiders about family conflicts.

Contradictions within the family will soon disappear if they can be solved within the family members. Once the contradictions within the family are spread by outsiders, they will turn small contradictions into big contradictions, which will eventually lead to irreparable accumulation, and the relationship between the two sides of the contradiction can no longer be reconciled.

There are some retired old people who talk openly. When chatting with others, they like to tell their troubles to outsiders, and talk about the contradictions within their families, so that outsiders can judge whether their contradictions are right or wrong.

This behavior of the elderly will only make them passive. There are many nosy people, and their favorite thing is to treat other people's bad things as jokes and talk about them after dinner.

There are also some people who like gossip. They deliberately told the other side of the family contradiction about the old man, thus stimulating greater family contradictions, but they stood by and watched jokes.

As an adult, you must believe in your ability to solve conflicts after family conflicts occur, and don't show your family conflicts to others, leaving others with a handle and a laughing stock. Only a wise old man who silently solves his own contradictions will be respected by everyone.

After retirement, even if you like to get together and chat with others again, don't reveal the amount of property at home, don't show off how capable your children are to outsiders, and don't confide family conflicts to outsiders, so as not to cause great disasters.

After retirement, you can exchange new things that have happened in the society with old friends, talk about the way of keeping in good health, common sense of keeping in good health, talk about some happy things and adjust each other. These topics can broaden our horizons and increase our knowledge. They are all positive energy topics that are beneficial to the body and mind.

As a retired person, the main purpose of chatting with others is not to make yourself happy. If the family property is damaged due to improper chat, which leads to internal contradictions in the family, it will really outweigh the benefits.

Chatting is not only an art, but also a science. Each of us needs to live and study. Even retired people, we can't lose our sense of proportion when chatting. "Speak in moderation and joke in moderation" is a wise way for the elderly to protect themselves.