The trend of comparison in rural areas is getting more and more serious. Is there any good way to cure it?

Only you know whether your life is good or not. You feel your life, not show it to others. In the countryside, everywhere is full of human feelings, which really makes people feel delicious and relish. But nowadays, the atmosphere in some rural areas has changed. Rural people who have always been known for their simplicity are now more and more fond of comparison, especially young people who go out to work, and the trend of comparison is even worse.

so how serious can the trend of comparison in rural areas be?

1. Smoking: a dozen dollars won't do. I smoked Yuxi for the first time.

When I came home last New Year, I bought two cigarettes, thinking that I could give them to my neighbors when I saw them. As a result, my dad opened his mouth and said, you have the nerve to take them out. If you show them to others, you must not laugh at our family! When I heard this, I was still very calm, thinking that Dad was just joking with me, so I didn't take it to heart. After all, the income in the village is not high either. I usually work in the city, and smoking is just a cigarette of more than ten dollars.

I didn't expect that during the Chinese New Year, many neighbors and villagers actually told me that my cigarettes were poor, and that I didn't want to take out cigarettes with more than ten dollars. What else would I smoke? A fellow villager opened his mouth and said, Yuxi is the last time. You must be getting along badly outside. At that time, after listening to this, I was amazed, because this fellow villager could earn more than two thousand yuan a month. Later, I found that everyone is like this. No matter how much money they earn, they have to buy the best cigarettes. I really feel that the village is not as simple as when I was a child, and the trend of comparison is indeed getting more and more serious.

Second, the trend of the times: I often talk about who is getting along well, and I often vilify who is finished.

Unlike cities, people who live next door to you in rural areas will be more familiar with it. In a village and a news circle in rural areas, everything will be known to the whole village within half a day, how much money their sons have earned outside, and how their sons are getting along outside! Women often discuss these when they are together. Whose son is promising and who is an official! Mine is useless.

if something happens, everyone will embellish it and slander you behind your back! Who is poor, even relatives are lazy to go to your house, and who is rich will follow suit to please you! When I meet a boss who is an official outside the village, I don't care whether he is familiar with it or not, and no matter what position he does, I just meet a smiling secretary and boss!

Third, buy a car: if you can't buy a cheap one, you have to buy an expensive one, but it won't open.

Buying a car is very popular in our countryside now. For example, my husband likes to keep up with the competition very much. After several years of marriage, we scrimped and saved some money, and we have nearly 2, deposits in hand, which is very rare. I want to make a down payment in the city for a few more years and no longer rent a house. Later, I wanted to buy a car, and a domestic car of tens of thousands of yuan was also good. I didn't expect my husband to take out all his money to buy a car and have to buy a car of 2 thousand.

My husband also told me that if I didn't buy this 2, yuan car, I would go home for the New Year by myself. As a result, I couldn't stand him and bought a car. However, this car is useless, except when I drive it back to my hometown in the countryside. I don't need it at other times, and the gas money is particularly expensive. The usual maintenance insurance money is also a large expenditure. This car will be in fall in price in two years. I really don't know what my husband is doing. Now the house is more expensive, and I feel that I can't afford to save money. All the money for buying a car is wasted.

fourth, the bride price: if you pay 1, yuan for the bride price, I will get 12, yuan; If you set 5 tables, I have to set 1 tables

, especially in recent years, if the daughter married in our village asks for 1, bride price this year, it will definitely rise to 12, to 13, next year, otherwise others will look down on us!

Nowadays, there are fewer and fewer girls in rural areas, so it has become the biggest wish of rural people to get a wife. In this way, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, the bride price in the village is rising. However, the meager income from farming is far from enough. Rural people spend all their life on houses and bride price. At the same time, in order to prove their family's life, some people even take out loans to marry their daughters-in-law. Although it is true that I have married my daughter-in-law, I owe a lot of debts for this. The prosperity of the countryside on the surface, but I don't know how much sadness is revealed.

rural people think that they would rather be poor for one year than one day. Wealthy families do a lot of things in rural areas, but so do relatively poor families. Even if they borrow money, they should be proud of their face, and they should not lose face. Everyone is competing with each other. If you set 5 tables, I will set 1 tables. In the countryside, people are proud of the number of guests, but now there are people who rob people to eat. Although it's a great honor to do so, who knows the hardships? A banquet sometimes costs tens of thousands of yuan, and the hard-earned money in the countryside is wasted.

five, with the ceremony: with less, for fear that others will look down on you

My family is a very remote rural area, most people's income is two or three thousand yuan, but everyone likes to have a banquet, not to mention getting married. It's very common to get a red envelope from 5 yuan every time. It's a little closer to one thousand yuan, and there are several thousand yuan of red envelopes. Children's birthdays, moving houses, going to college, etc. all have to be given a big banquet. At this time, it is time to be very proud. If you give less, others will look down on you. People are always troubled by these things. If you go to every banquet, your salary will not be enough for one month.

Generally speaking:

It is also a good thing to compare with each other because it will make you more motivated, but if you compare too much, it will have a very bad influence on the countryside, because the pursuit of some flashy things will change the taste of the countryside. Therefore, many people report that they miss the rural areas and rural friends who were very simple and kind before. I don't know why there is such an atmosphere now, and I hope to come back slowly in the future.