What if the chat can't find a topic?

After entering the workplace, I was surprised to find that when meeting customers in business and attending various parties, I often need to talk to people who have little communication and little interest. What if the chat can't find a topic? Let me explain it to you. Maybe everyone will casually talk about these topics when chatting on weekdays. We will systematically summarize these topics ~ 1, Climate Theory Climate and Four Seasons. It's getting hot/cold and so on. With the talk about the weather, some more natural and harmless topics are gradually introduced. This method is very simple and convenient. 2. Hobbies About hobbies. If the other person is male, you can talk about professional baseball and other sports. If the other person is a woman, you can talk about beauty or health. But because most people don't know each other's hobbies when they meet for the first time, this topic is actually difficult to use. 3. Family topics about children, parents, etc. Especially when the other person is old, when you ask him questions about children, most of them will gladly answer them. Of course, maybe you are not married and have no children. In this case, it depends on whether you talk about this topic or not. 4. The topic of tourism. You can tell each other where you have been recently, or ask them if they have been anywhere. You can also recommend a place to each other, or ask each other what they think of a place. We can talk about each other's hometown and so on, which will make the topic wider. Method 1: 1. Chatting doesn't mean you have to listen as long as you can talk. Listen to what others are interested in and not interested in from the conversation, and then extend the topic from the topic you are interested in. 2. We chat with people, talk about our experiences, talk about stories, and talk about our outlook on life and values. When there is no topic, tell more stories about the past. 3. Humorous and interesting jokes, everyone likes them. When there is no topic, you can tell a few jokes, which not only pleases the atmosphere, but also avoids the embarrassment of having nothing to say. If you really have nothing to say and can't think of anything that can be used, then don't talk. Don't chat for the sake of chatting, just enjoy a moment of silence. Method 2 1. Show interest in each other and make them feel concerned. Everyone wants to be noticed and valued. Therefore, if you want to stimulate the other person's interest in conversation, you might as well show your interest in the other person, remember what the other person said carefully, and let the other person feel valued and concerned. Then your chat atmosphere will become more and more harmonious. 2. Test the other person with appropriate words to start the topic. When two people who don't know each other very well meet, they tend to be relatively silent. In order to break this embarrassing situation of silence, someone must speak first. For example, "It's hot today", the other person may reply to you after listening, and then start the topic. 3. Make your language infectious, speak appropriately and be full of emotion. In dealing with people, in addition to finding the right topic, we should be specific and have feelings. Bai Juyi said: "What touches people's hearts is not walking in front of love." If you speak in a cold and indifferent tone, how can you infect each other? Only when your heart is full of enthusiasm and happiness can you express your inner feelings, make the other person infected and chat with you happily. Speaking in a comfortable way will make everyone like you. If you see a person putting on airs and speaking with extreme affectation, will you feel sick? Everyone likes real performance, and truth can give people a sense of beauty. It's best to talk to people in your most comfortable way. Method 3 1, you should learn to be sincere. Some people will despise and despise each other because of personality and other problems. Looking at others with a monster's eyes will not only give people a feeling of disrespect, but also affect others' first impression of you. It is suggested to treat others with more sincerity and love in life. We should find something that both sides are interested in. If the other person is a boy, you can talk to the other person about work problems and ask him about his work characteristics. If the other person is a girl, you can talk about clothes and cosmetics with the other person and treat different people in different ways. 3. Pay attention to your way of speaking. Introverts tend to pay more attention to the tone of others' speech and their evaluation of themselves. It is suggested that the speaking style in life should not be too mean or too flattering, just communicate with people in a normal and standard tone. 4, should take the initiative to ask each other. Introverts always show shyness when they meet friends for the first time, and it is embarrassing to communicate with unfamiliar people. You can take the initiative to ask about the characteristics of the surrounding environment and living habits to increase the distance between you. What if the chat can't find a topic? The first step: first of all, we must establish a * * *, and you must declare that you will never chat with girls. This will expose your purpose and aggressiveness, and often cause girls' subconscious disgust and resistance. There is an old saying, "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle". What's the first thing after adding girls? Of course, we can learn about girls' hobbies, daily values and xenophobia through her avatar, friends circle, message board, personalized signature, Weibo and many other social channels. If you find the elements in a girl's life through the following channels: ① She likes listening to Jay Chou. She likes watching American TV series. She likes Chongqing hot pot. She has a beautiful short cat at home. She hates the present working conditions and environment. She hates eating eggplant. She is working far from home at present. She wakes up with a cup of coffee every day. She has the habit of keeping healthy. She hates ambiguous but uncertain feelings. Since you have done so much homework before chatting, it is impossible to chat all these questions with girls at once, so the priority of our topic selection is to start with a limited number and easy to expand. According to the above situation, the topic level of 245⑩ takes precedence over other topics, but don't ignore other topics, and you can achieve appropriate integration and traction. Many boys say that I don't understand or even care about these topics. Can we chat as I like? That's absolutely impossible. If this girl is not a fan of games or just plays games occasionally, you can talk to her about some operations that she doesn't understand. Congratulations, the girl has blacklisted you from her heart. Therefore, when you encounter unfamiliar fields, you should learn actively. Since it is necessary to actively attract girls, it is necessary to pay the corresponding time and energy costs. By establishing a sense of * * * with girls, girls can feel "you know her well" subconsciously. Step 2: Do you know what active guidance is? To put it simply, when a girl has feedback on your topic, you should know how to answer it and throw a question back to the girl, just like a comedian in cross talk, but you must know how to hold it so as not to let the topic cool down. There are many boys who want to establish an echoing chat rhythm with girls, but they often can't, and they will fall into the following embarrassing chat situation. "Do you like hot pot?" Well, do you like copper hotpot or Chongqing hotpot? Chongqing hot pot? Do you like spicy pot or mandarin duck pot? Is it spicy? Won't it hurt to eat spicy food? Why didn't you call me back? "?" This situation is that girls are bored and boys are still enjoying it, so when girls reply that you are modal particles or simple sentences three times in a row, you have to change the subject or end the chat, otherwise you won't know how to die if you talk nonsense again. You also need to use your head when chatting. You should know how to actively guide girls' sense of topic and chat mood. To do this, you should know how to reasonably predict girls' views on something, and make reasonable guesses and supplements, so that girls have a feeling of meeting an old friend in a foreign country. The correct way to open the above situation is: "I guess you must be a fan of Chongqing hot pot." "Yes, yes, Yuanyang pot has no soul." "That's very kind of you ~" "What's wrong with me?" "Eating spicy food can also keep your skin so good. I dare not see anyone for several days after eating spicy food. " "Haha, that's my good gene." "I can see that your genes are as quiet as a virgin and as active as a raving rabbit." "You're just raving, and I'm reserved!" You see, reasonable speculation, indirect praise for girls and proper consideration for girls can all enliven the atmosphere of chatting. You can see that although girls talk about topics of interest, it is boys who dominate the mood and rhythm of chatting, which can make girls feel free from pressure and enjoy chatting with you. Step 3: What is the purpose of creating a hot topic first? It is to make girls feel that you are not speaking according to her interests, and it is to make girls feel that you also have a mature thinking angle and way. Speaking of this, it doesn't mean that you can let yourself fly and chat with girls, but you should subjectively guess which topics will cause girls to think and chat. For example, "Have you read Later Us", "Suddenly I feel that I am also an invisible poor person", "Suddenly I feel that too many people like to trap people in the circle of friends", "But I don't know what to live like" and "I feel that the sentence" To Youth "pokes me, and people will always live like themselves." Why do girls like these topics, because these topics are about your communication time? Girls are often social animals, which can be seen from holding hands in the toilet when they were young. Topics that can cause many girls to sing bad songs on major websites often apply to you. Don't copy the current hot topics, but know how to modify and process yourself. Step 4: There are many boys who establish the emotional foundation of love. They always stay in the relationship of friends for chatting, but in the end they become male girlfriends who talk about everything. Therefore, in order to avoid this kind of tragedy, we should know how to establish each other's love and emotional foundation through chatting. Let's enter a simulated actual combat drill first and see how you choose. At 2: 30 in the middle of the night, the girl sent a map of the sky with the caption "It's late at night, I look at the vast starry sky, but I don't know which star is looking at me". What should you do? A circle of friends praised B for commenting "You look great, all the stars are watching you" C commenting "It's so late, do you want to come out for a midnight snack" D privately talking about her "It's so late, pay attention to your health and go to bed early"? The correct answer is no. A girl's circle of friends in the middle of the night is actually lonely and lacking in companionship for her, but it is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for you to build emotions. The correct way is to talk to her directly in private and say, "It seems that I am not the only one who has insomnia in the middle of the night." When girls are in the window, they really need the company of boys. If you appear at this time, your image in her mind will be greatly improved, and gradually she will feel safe and dependent on you, and your emotional foundation will be more stable. Step 5: Express your emotions reasonably. Many boys mistakenly think that "since we have talked about the topic, she also has a good impression on me." Am I going to make a vigorous confession? " All wet. Remember, confession is not a signal to blow love, but a ceremony to make up your promise after your triumphant return. I have received many private messages from fans, "Why did I have a good chat with this girl, but she refused me when I confessed?". Is it a test for me? " I asked him, "How did you confess?" He replied, "I just like you. Be my girlfriend." Love is a mountain on the head. If you talk too much, love will be cheap. Girls are smart animals and are good at playing dumb. They will receive your kind signal, but they will not show it easily. They will pretend to be reserved in communication. But once you make a bold confession, you will break the original sense of reserve and increase the oppression of girls. Under this pressure, they often choose to reject you to protect their image. So let's change the way: "From the first time I saw you, I felt that you were different from other girls in my heart. I don't know what happened recently. I began to miss you uncontrollably. You seem to have settled down in my heart. Can you give me a chance to take care of you? " This seemingly ambiguous relationship-building conversation has no pressure at all for a girl, because she can refuse your right of courtship, but there is no way to refuse your right to take care of her. Therefore, confession does not mean that you can prove how deep your love is, but a ceremony to make up for your commitment and let her upgrade her love relationship in a relaxed and touching chat environment. Write it at the end. All the above chatting skills are based on sincerity. If you lack the sincerity of communication, it will be difficult to establish a mutual trust mechanism between you, and any method will become a burden when communicating. When a girl suddenly discovers your insincerity, she will soon lose her good opinion of you, and all your efforts will be in vain. Only by comparing hearts can love flow forever. What if the chat can't find a topic? Most of the things that girls like are similar. For example, they will like some entertainment, gossip, food and fun. You can pay more attention to these. When you communicate with girls, you can have more topics. You can ask the girl where your home is, and then find out whether there are people in that place around you or whether there are relatives in that place. This is a close chat. Learn about girls' hobbies and then do what you like. Let girls teach themselves some common sense things, play the role of girls as teachers, increase communication opportunities and create conditions for themselves. Share interesting things that happen around you. Every day, we are exposed to many things. When you share the interesting things that happened around you with him, you are also expressing your feelings, indicating that her position in your mind is very important. Taking the latest events as the topic, each of us likes to watch the news, especially some endless news. We can chat with girls and express our opinions to show off our abilities. Give girls a chance to speak, and create topics to attract girls' interest when speaking. Only in this way can girls like me. Chat, and our task will be completed.