As the saying goes, "men are not three, women are not four, it is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring." Do you agree with the wisdom of our ancestors?

Note that this word is believed to be familiar to everyone. On holidays, the pressure is great; In ordinary life, there are also many stresses; Different nations and countries also have different emphases. In ancient times a long time ago, our country also had a lot of exquisite, and some exquisite are still circulating today. The proverb I brought today is about being particular.

What I want to talk about today is: "Men are not three and women are not four. It is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring." I believe everyone understands the meaning of the second half sentence, but does the first half sentence look a bit like swearing, and this swearing is level, no three no four! Scold all known human species in the world.

The first half of this sentence is swearing, but it's actually a joke. What it really means is that when men are 30 years old and women are 40 years old, they don't feast. It seems a little hard to understand from the present point of view, but it used to be a custom that people went back to follow.

As mentioned in The Analects of Confucius, when people stand at the age of 30, it is the year when they don't stand. Women, on the other hand, are old at 40, and their living conditions at this time are like a little "no three no four" feeling. Therefore, men are 30 years old and women are 40 years old, which is also considered by the ancients as a hurdle in life. They are at a turning point in life and will not celebrate their birthdays with great fanfare.

A person's birthday used to be a very important day, and the old people at home must be very lively. Birthday is also an important symbol of good or bad luck in the eyes of previous people, so there are such sayings for men in their thirties and women in their forties, in order to make their later lives smoother and seek a kind of psychological comfort.

The latter part says that we can persuade others not to gamble, but don't persuade others not to go whoring. This seems a bit contradictory, and it is also illegal. Why take a different attitude?

Regarding gambling, I believe everyone has heard that "small gambling is good for feelings and big gambling is bad for health". Excessive gambling is a kind of harm to your family and yourself. Gamblers must also understand the stakes. If we persuade him to quit gambling, he will feel our kindness in his heart and know that we advised him for his own good, so gamblers may be grateful and kind to us. Of course, persuading people to quit gambling is what we should do, not for the benefit.

But whoring is different from gambling. Everyone has privacy in his heart, and the relationship between men and women is one of the privacy in people's hearts. Prostitution means carrying your family and friends around you. Naturally, no one wants to be exposed for such disgraceful behavior. At this time, if we try to persuade people not to go whoring, first of all, that person's privacy is known to us, and self-esteem itself is hit. If we still criticize him from the commanding heights of morality and persuade him not to go whoring, it will definitely leave an embarrassment for that person, which may seriously make him angry and hurt himself. So the ancients told us this kind of attention.

After reading my introduction, you can also look around. Do the pressures left by these ancestors still exist? As the saying goes, men are not three and women are not four. It is better to persuade prostitutes than to persuade gambling. What do you mean? Pay attention to what our ancestors left behind.