Who will the only child go back to during the Spring Festival?

In recent years, almost every Spring Festival, whether the only child should go home for the New Year will trigger a century-long debate! There is no doubt that the young couple want to go back to their hometown to spend the New Year with their parents! Because of this will, this choice is difficult.

In the past two years, there is a popular saying among young couples born after 90: "Go back to every family and find every mother!" Moreover, this mode of going home for the New Year is especially respected among young couples after 90!

Many young couples wave their hands during the Chinese New Year, just like they were single before, and they parted ways and went back to their homes!

Their reason is simple. Neither parent is accompanied. They can not only accompany their parents when they go back to their home for the New Year, but also spend the New Year in their own home, which is much more comfortable than going to their parents' home or parents' home for the New Year.

So, is this mode of going home for the New Year worth emulating?

The young couple, Xiaolong and Xiaoyu, who were born in 1990s, encountered such a troublesome problem. Xiaolong and Xiaoyu work together in Hangzhou. Xiaolong's home is in Anhui and Xiaoyu's home is in Ningxia. The first year of marriage was spent at Xiaolong's home, because there is a tradition in Xiaolong's hometown. In the first year, the new wife must go to her husband's home for the New Year, so Xiaoyu has no objection!

This year is the second year of their marriage. Xiaoyu said that she lived in Xiaolong's house last year, and this year she must let Xiaolong accompany her back to Ningxia for the New Year. But Xiaolong's parents think that the tradition in China is to go back to the man's parents' home for the New Year, and this son will follow his wife to his parents' home for the New Year, which will make people laugh!

After much deliberation, Xiaolong and Xiaoyu discussed whether they could spend New Year's Eve at his home and wait until the first or second day of school to go to Ningxia to pay a New Year call to their parents-in-law!

Xiaoyu strongly disagrees! She said: "My parents only have one daughter, one year in your house and one year in my house. This is the biggest concession I have made. Chinese New Year, Chinese New Year, isn't it a family reunion on New Year's Eve? You can't push your luck ... "

On the one hand, his parents insist that they go back to their hometown. On the other hand, Xiaoyu wants to go back to his hometown for the New Year. Xiaolong is really big!

Finally, Xiaoyu said angrily, "Otherwise, let's go home and find our mothers this New Year!" "

In real life, there are not a few couples like Xiaolong and Xiaoyu. Especially the one-child generation after 1980s and 1990s, most of them face this problem. There are many couples like Xiaolong and Xiaoyu around me, and it is not uncommon for them to go back to their hometown in the New Year.

Mr. Wang has an uncle's brother in his hometown. Every New Year's Eve, he goes home alone, or sometimes takes his son with him. Every time he goes home, he will spend the night with the old man on New Year's Eve, and then drive away in a hurry on the first afternoon. I have never met my uncle's sister-in-law because she has never followed her lover back to her husband's house. This surprised me!

I remember when my husband came back from the army before changing jobs, I always took my children back to spend the New Year with my in-laws. Sometimes it is convenient for my husband's army to visit relatives. I will personally go to my hometown to pick up my in-laws and take them to the army to find my husband for the New Year. This is mainly because my parents accompany my brother's family, so we go back to our hometown to pay a New Year call to my parents every year. To this end, my in-laws are very pleased, especially when I see my husband's uncle and aunt in the New Year. By contrast, they are quite proud! And my husband's uncle and aunt shake their heads and sigh every time they talk about their daughter-in-law!

Sometimes I wonder, if my parents were not with my brother, would I have to make such a difficult choice every Spring Festival? Then I let it go again. In fact, this problem is very easy to solve. If both sides are only children, then both sides can have a bowl of water! The concept that men are superior to women must go back to the man's home for the New Year must be abandoned! Put yourself in each other's shoes and try not to run away from each other. In addition, in addition to the Chinese New Year, we should visit our parents more on other holidays. This will be more conducive to family stability and unity!

Especially after the couple have children, if they go home separately for the New Year, who will the children be with? Going back with mom or dad alone like this will also have some bad effects on children's psychology. Moreover, on such a festive day as the Spring Festival, the other spouse will not appear in the in-laws or parents' home for a long time, and the relationship with the family members of both parties will be alienated.

I remember I also discussed this topic with my husband! I once asked him, if our two families were far apart and both were only children, would you choose to go back to each family to find each mother for the New Year?

The gentleman said: No! Then we are not like husband and wife! If that's the case, I'd rather work harder, go to two places every year, and then stay at my parents' house for a year on New Year's Eve, or simply bring the old people from both families together for the New Year! This is more like a family.

Mr. Wang's idea coincides with mine!

In fact, the way home is that both parents are accompanied, but when parents-in-law or parents-in-law see that only their son or daughter comes back and their other half is not accompanied, they will be a little lost. This kind of loss will not be much less than no one to accompany. Therefore, young couples should carefully choose this way of celebrating the New Year! As far as possible, the family is round and round for the New Year!