What kind of personality or quality is indispensable in today's society?

It is said that in the final choice of a partner, a girl chooses not only her partner, but also the lifestyle he provides. In fact, lifestyle is a concept with a wide connotation, and a good lifestyle must include personal taste, financial resources, literacy pursuit and other elements. I was attracted to him at first because I appreciated his lifestyle.

A plan

Because most college students live in dormitories, their quality of life is actually very limited. In terms of lifestyle, as a girl, I have seen many people in the dormitory who are in a mess. They sleep until noon when there is no class, get up and order a takeaway, and sit in front of the computer until two or three o'clock. I don't want to judge everyone's lifestyle, but I want to say that a person's responsibility to himself can be reflected by arranging and paying attention to his personal life. Boyfriend's life is irregular, and he is not the kind of person who is rigorous and meticulous. Before we exchanged in Taiwan Province Province, his roommate played games until three or four o'clock every night. He didn't have a good rest and adjusted his schedule. I read until three o'clock at night and get up at ten o'clock in the morning. It means that schedules are all forms, and the key is to arrange them yourself. I am a very casual person. I have been wandering around for a long time, but I have nowhere to find it. Moreover, he didn't waste time, studying, reading, socializing, exercising, resting, thinking, (of course, falling in love was added after meeting me), and there was no too meaningless time. I am easily addicted to one thing, such as spending a lot of time with my ex-boyfriend, walking on the grass, watching the stars and so on. Beautiful, but really a waste of time. And he takes a fixed time to accompany me every week (shopping, independent bookstore, food, movies), and other times are efficient and independent.

Personal life

He sometimes goes shopping with me, buys some household items to decorate the bedroom, and designs his own room and attic. Because my life is more casual, he will tell me that the dormitory is a place where I have lived for several years, so don't make do with it. He will also encourage me to decorate my dormitory and design new rooms. Sometimes when we visit Fang, he will also look for books on architectural design (his original words are that books on humanities will be bought by himself, and people who go just want to read books that they don't usually buy).

Let's not talk about clothes and supplies, because he is a student and will not be too extravagant, but it will make you feel that he pays great attention to quality and has his own aesthetics. Otherwise, he will buy a speaker and have special time to listen to classical music. It's no problem to learn to mix wine at home by yourself. Have a good understanding of red wine. I like football and table tennis (I also like table tennis because of him). I don't stay at home. I am a very calm person at heart, but I am sunny when I exercise.

Step 2 communicate

His emotional intelligence is very high. Compared with my non-socialization, he is a very socialized person and can "be a man". But he never felt hypocritical, smooth, sophisticated and so on. He is well versed in communication, but his brothers and friends are honest with each other, which shows that his communication is only to make more like-minded people, and there is no interest purpose or attempt.

I knew him at first, and I was under the impression that he was a nice guy. Later, I gradually discovered that he had his own considerations and lifestyle.

3. Connotation and meaning

He studied science and engineering with a double degree in economics and management. He read a lot of books. On the one hand, he is sensitive to politics and economy and has deep thinking. On the other hand, he is very caring and cultured (I am from the Chinese Department, but I am ashamed).

He laughed and said that his ideal is to retain customers. Anyway, I think his qualifications and talents are very WTO-friendly, but at the same time he has a unique cultural pursuit.

Actually, this is my favorite, but I don't know why I can't say it. In short, he gives me a sense of contemporary nobility. I feel that his talent, ability and qualification can give him a good space to play in the present society. He is a social man, but at heart he is a nobleman.

4. Emotion

I am very emotional and easily addicted to emotions. And he, how can I put it? I always said he was too rational and heartless. Actually, I know it's not. He is balanced and healthy (gentle, not as ingrained as me, so he won't get out of control). It's not that I don't love, it's my rational love (of course, I also admire that kind of completely blind, unreasonable and desperate love. I am an emotional model myself, but to be honest, I envy him.

I share the same world outlook with him. We all advocate individual independence. He has great respect for me. That kind of completely non-materialized women never regard women as subordinate respect, but at the same time they know the differences between the two sexes, tolerate and understand these differences, and love and care for women. I am possessive of him. But he will make you feel that if he loves someone, he is purely appreciative, he completely hopes that the other person will become better (and will help in action), and he respects the other person's free choice. It doesn't mean that he won't be attached, jealous, lost and so on. At first, I didn't think he would be jealous or anything, and I once suspected that he had no real feelings for me. Instead, I thought he could treat me correctly and handle his emotions well. Unlike me, I am very clear about things and concepts, but sometimes I torture myself and him for nothing. Of course, the loveliness and dislike of love overlap. If he and I are such people, there will probably be a mature love, but it seems that as a love, there will always be a suitable and balanced time. There really seems to be something missing. )

In short, I am a very, very emotional person, too emotional. And he's much more balanced than me. This is a supplement. Both of them are as crazy about double suicide or self-immolation as I am, and both of them, like him, may find it difficult to fall in love (lack the enthusiasm, mutual attachment and so-called "feeling" needed for love).

In a word, his inner quality is "balanced", and his self-choice is measured and has its own rhythm, not cold-blooded rationality and restraint. In terms of personality, ability, self-awareness and communication, all parties are just right (the result of consideration and polishing, but not the kind of indifference), which makes people feel that this person is healthy and perfect. Maybe because he is my male god, I always think he is very suitable for me. It is my great luck to meet him. He really makes me feel that some people's Excellence can be predicted in advance.

I played a lot, but I still didn't get to the point. And it contains a lot of my personal opinions, which may be too superficial, too one-sided and too boring to others. I was actually sorting out my comments on him while answering. Please forgive me if it's too personal.